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*amieLee
writes:I just need advice.Ok, so here's what's going on. I'm pretty much in my first real relationship, the girl I'm going with is great. But recently, she told me she plans on keeping her virginity until she's married which is a bit of a bummer because sex contributes a lot in relationships. (As well as complicating, I know)But she's leaving at the end of the year, to return to the USA (Im pretty sure). So I'm wondering if its worth keeping up the relationship until then? I'm thinking when she has to leave (and we possibly break up) I'll be heartbroken because I'm susceptible to getting emotionally attached quite easily.I'm not even sure I could break up with her.. I'd miss her so much. Any advice is appreciated.
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reader, anoms +, writes (19 February 2009):
 you really need to think about her and not the sex, but you new you were going to hear that reaction. you really cant tell a celibate women that you need sex after 2months because its human nature, its just not how it works. she will be thinking.. if you were the one for her, then you will be trying to get your relationship to the next stage.. like being with her longterm. and not how your going to get in her pants before she leaves. your going to come off as being very shallow, when you should be just moving on when its not what your looking for, so dont make her feel guilty, gudluk anyway.
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reader, JamieLee +, writes (18 February 2009):
JamieLee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmm thanks guys. It's just, im 19 and I should be having sex... sorry to sound like a sex-obsessed jerk but it's part of human nature and I guess I just thought we were ready after 2 months.
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 If things are going good why end it now? Unless you don't think you can handle a sexless relationship.
In that case be honest with yourself and her and end it now. why do i have a feeling if she was giving it up you wouldn't think twice about ending it with her. You would probably be with her until she goes back to the US and deal with it then.
You gotta look at the girl for her. Do you like her enough to be with her. No relationships are gurantee to last forever.
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reader, Quiet.Kisses  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Leaving someone because they aren't ready to have sex is a low blow for anyone but if your reasons for leaving are because you don't think a long distance relationship would work out then you should talk to her and get both sides of things before you make any decisions. Sometimes you only get one shot at things so make sure you make a well informed decison so neither of you end up with broken hearts.
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reader, loving arms +, writes (17 February 2009):
leaving someone because she doesn't give sex away freelyis pretty low! personally that would make me value and want my girlfriend even more. As for her going back home, that's a tough one but long distant relationships can work. My girlfriend left England to go home to Canada. We were together for 4 years and only recently broke up. If i'd have been free to join her there we'd still be together. sadly family commitments kept me here. Sounds like you have a lovely girlfriend who might even fall madly in love with you and not go back home in a year.
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reader, anoms +, writes (16 February 2009):
dude it really doesnt make you look good if you bale out now because your not getting any of that, she may even have different plans that you dont know about as of yet, it may be wise to put your friendship first either way. but whatever happens talk to her about it and find out ensactly what she thinks the next step in your relasionship is, well gudluk.
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