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41-50,
*elina
writes:Hi there! Well, I am in a 2 year relationship and things are just great. However time went by and sex just isn t the same but I'm a very creative person, so I have always lots of kinky ideas and games.My bf is a dear, really good looking and so nice to me. But he is really jealous of other men and of my friends. He loves to have sex and always likes my sex games, like watching porn and talking about crazy fantasies.But I would really love to try out maybe swing, or maybe to include a 3rd person in our bed, only for one night. It would only be for fun... But the thing is, how do I aproach him with making these fantasies come true without him getting upset and jealous?
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (20 July 2009):
If he's the jelous type I'd not go there - work on your relationship, he's GOT TO BE 100% comfortable with watching you get pleasure from another man or woman. He could freak out either way, and possibly worse when he sees you enjoying a woman (men can get scared a woman will fall in love w/ a woman, and the guy can't compete).
If he's 100% giving and game for seom fun, go for it, but he doesn't sound like he's the right guy. Proceed carefully - this can blow up BIG TIME... 1:100 probably work OK, 99% not so much. It's a GREAT fantasy...
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reader, Felina +, writes (22 May 2009):
Felina is verified as being by the original poster of the question I guess youre right .I would also like to have a women in our bed .I think all men like this idea ...Thank s!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): hi, A lot depends on the gender of the 3rd person you're thinking of bringing to bed with you. You say 'he's really jealous of other men' so it's unlikely that he'll be too happy if you want another man there. On the other hand, most red-blooded straight guys are more than happy with the idea of being with two women at the same time. The only way you can find out which fantasies do it for both of you is to talk to him, preferably while he's in a state of sexual ecstasy, and suggest 'would you like.....'. He can only say yes, no or maybe (a 'maybe' can probably be taken to mean 'yes') and he can hardly be upset or angry with you for just asking a question. Best of luck
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reader, Felina +, writes (21 May 2009):
Felina is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes mr me,youre right.I m also scared of that part.....I love him so much ,but we are also young ,and some adventure is good for us.Well,Ill just think about it.....
Thank s~
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (21 May 2009):
 Two things:
1) Once you open that can of worms, it's never getting closed again! He will want to do it again if he likes it and you wont be able to say no because you already allowed it to happen.
2) I have heard that the majority of relationships that have had a threesome tend to fail.
... just a couple of bullet points to think about.
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