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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Recently I feel as though my boyfriend doesn't care enough about our relationship, and I'm not sure what I can do. When we first started going out, my boyfriend effectively did all the chasing, he made such an effort and did everything he could to impress me.Now, almost two years on, it feels as though he has lost sight of that and doesn't feel the need to make any effort anymore. For example, we were meant to be going for a meal on friday night, but he had to cancel as he has no money. Which was fine by me, I asked if he still wanted me to go over on friday night. His reply was "I'll see, I might go out with the boys". Which was fair enough, so I asked if we were just gonna meet up on saturday as normal, and he said "I don't know, I think everyone is going round *mate* house"This gives me the impression that he doesn't actually care whether he spends time with me or not?When we talk, he hardly ever calls me "baby" or "hunny" like he used to, it feels like he just chats to me like he does with a mate. Am I over reacting about nothing? Or should I still be expecting him to make a bit of an effort even after so long?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 May 2009):
What effort have you been making recently?
This is only one weekend so you can't go reading too much into it.
When you were on the phone did you flirt with him and tell him you wanted to see him and missed him? Did you offer to pay for the meal since he couldn't afford it?
Or did you just talk passively and wait for him to explode with love poetry?
When relationships start to fade, you have to put in extra effort from your side and hopefully he will respond. If he doesn't then you talk to him about it. If that doesn't work then yes, you have to consider whether to stay with him.
Good Luck!! xx
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