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Dating: Help and advice

HOw do you attract and get an older guy?

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3 October 2010 (F) - HOw do you attract and get an older guy? im 18 in a few months and he will be 23 by the time i become 18. he wants to wait till im legal to pursue a friendship and what else might be to follow. i was just wondering if there are any small tips or ...

Taking a chance on losing a great woman for the unknown

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3 October 2010 (M) - I'm on my way to being divorced. I've been separated for well over a year. I started dating a few months ago. I started seeing a well educated professional woman who has fallen hard for me. I like her a lot. My problem is that I don't want a ...

I want his attention but I don't want to appear like an idiot

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3 October 2010 (F) - Hey!! So, i am a freshman, and i like a guy from my marching band who is a junior. the thing is, he plays snare, so we dont see each other very much. i dont want to ruin it with him by acting goony just so he looks at me, because that would make me ...

Everyone can get a girlfriend except me

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3 October 2010 (M) - dear cupid question i must be a fool to think women will go out with me. what have i got to offer women i'm got my own house and car but that all i've got to offer it not enough for them. i'm only storeman in furniture store i've doing that job for ...

I'm seriously in love with her and want to know how to prove it, as she doesn't have much time to hang out with me!

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3 October 2010 (M) - i met this girl freshan year at first it started as a crush and well it started to grow we did things as if we were a couple but i never officially asked her to be my gf,,,time passed by and i was juss an idiot and still never did,,,sophmore year ...

I Need to Learn How to Show Affection, Help!

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3 October 2010 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now but we always run into one problem. I am not a very affectionate person, I never have been. Like I'm just not used to being showered with love and affection and giving it in return. And all he ...

Should I just leave him to simmer...?

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3 October 2010 (F) - See this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-could-possibly-have-been-going-through-his.html for the story leading up to this. He's been writing me on Facebook nonstop telling me how sorry he is and how I'm somehow different from t...

I just feel so alone and don't know how to move forward.

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3 October 2010 (F) - Ok this is complicated and I'm sure will sound silly to a lot of people. I met this guy about 3 years ago when I was still living with my kid's dad. I didn't love my kid's dad and I was planning on breaking up with him so meeting this oth...

Contacting old exes and flings for the past 1.5 years? Should I be upset?

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3 October 2010 (F) - So this may all sound a bit childish and trivial but I'm hoping to get some perspective and make sense of this all. Thanks everyone for reading. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 4 years and living together for 3 and a half. Hes 10 yea...

Why do I always look for something wrong in the guys I fancy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4953 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - Hi I feel like I always try to find stuff wrong with guys that I am interested in (looks, personality, etc)... I do that so that way I can convince myself that I don't like them and that I can do so much better. I am not sure why I am doing that ...

I'm too old for such games. I either want to hit him or kiss him. I don't know what to do

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4956 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - I dated a man one year and a half ago. At the time I had not dated since my divorce which was ten years at the time. I asked him for coffee and I didn't think it would go anywhere but it lasted six months. We had a lot of fun together and had a ...

Was this man just too kinky for me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4956 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - I was seeing this guy a while ago, we've known each other a long time but started to get more romantic lately. However he showed a side of himself that I never knew existed before. It was very strange he started 'joking' about scenes in porn ...

Abusive ex, back in touch.

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3 October 2010 (F) - One year ago I split from am extremely abusive boyfriend. My boyfriend knows everything that I can possibly think to tell him about that relationship. But recently my abusive ex has been back in touch and has told me he wants me back. I told him I ...

Together 7 months now but he's not very affectionate with me...

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3 October 2010 (F) - My boyfriend and I are both 19. He has been known as the "macho" kind of guy.. Very cavalier and promiscuous. I have always been the hopeless romantic.. One day, we started dating and in the beginning he told me that it was nothing serious ...

Did he have sex with others? Should I believe him when he says no?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4956 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - we lived together for six years ,he ended up moving out,its been a year we started to salvage the relationship,we havent been sexually active in this year i was waiting for him to treat me better and he is showing me that he is somewhat . So I asked ...

Why does a guy message a girl at I am in the morning...what does this mean?

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3 October 2010 (F) - This is probably going to sound like an odd question but here goes: If a guy sent you a message at 1 in the morning asking you to call them what do you think that means? The message went something like "hey, my number is ***** call me xxx" This was ...

Should I ignore him..or will that tear us apart?

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3 October 2010 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months, but since we got back to school from the summer holidays things have gone rocky and now, we're both wanting space. Even though I love him I still want space because I'm sick and tired of being ...

I only seem to be interested when there's a challenge

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3 October 2010 (F) - Hey! So I have a problem I cant figure out... whenever theres a guy I meet that I'm attracted to, I flirt with him and everything because I like him, but then when I find out he likes me, my feelings and attraction towards them, just go aw...

Who to choose? Help!

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3 October 2010 (F) - guy number 1 makes me laugh and smile and i get scared when i talk to him on the phone. guy number 2 rides my bus but my best friend likes him. guy number 3 is my bff's cousin and he is sooo cute. who to choose!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

He lied to me! Should I move in with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4956 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - Sorry its jumbled, but my mind is racing! Recently I found out my man of 8 years was seeing someone else. We have been in a long distance relationship about 5 years. He's admited hes been seeing her for 2 years. But says it was just sexual, and...

How do I talk dirty to him?

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3 October 2010 (F) - I've recently taken on a new lover. He loves talking dirty in bed. (Which was a surprise...he's fairly conservative.) I'm alright with it and willing to talk back, but I just have no idea what to say without sounding like a cheesy porno. Any ideas? ...

He asked me to homecoming but openly flirts with my friend?

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3 October 2010 (F) - I said yes. We had a time where we both liked each other but nothing ever happened cause he ended it. Now, after he asks me to HC, he sometimes ignores me and openly flirts with my friend (and they both had a time where they liked each other too). ...

Marrying an older guy soon..but he treats me like a child! What should I do?

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3 October 2010 (F) - I'm getting married in seven months...but I'm just not happy in the relationship..I'm marrying an older guy, who is more established than I. Which would normally be a good thing but the closer we get to our date the more he makes me feel like I'm ...

Suspicious behaviors? Is he cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4956 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - My boyfriend of 1year and 2months only takes me sround his mom and dad i have yet to meet his friends and other relatives and when he talks or text his friends he either speak in codes or walk outside and then gets upset if i follow him .one night ...

I'm 27 and gay...how do I know if this guy I love, want to be with me?

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3 October 2010 (M) - Well, here we go! I'm 27 years old. I'm male and I'm gay. I'm in love with this guy who's 10 years younger than me. We hang out all the time. He doesn't know that I'm gay, and I supposedly do not know if he is gay. We flirt, and we almost have what ...

I have Borderline Personality Disorder..should I leave my bf for his own good?

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3 October 2010 (F) - I'm in a fantastic, supportive relationship, but I've recently found out that I could have Borderline Personality Disorder, I'm worried that my boyfriend won't be able to cope with my behaviour for much longer. It's a lot for me to deal with but I ...

When a guy is being possessive in a relationship, is it healthy?

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3 October 2010 (M) - When a guy is being possessive in a relationship, is it healthy? Especially when it lasted very long (4 - 5 years). Where there has been breaks ups but then patching back many times. Hurting the girl emotionally with harshful words and slapping...

His friend's stag is at a stripclub! I am feeling uncomfortable about him going!

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3 October 2010 (F) - My bf is going to a strip club for his mates stag. I'm obviously not going to say anything. But is is abnormal that this makes me really uncomfortable? ...

We're seeing each other, but he said something on the phone, that confused me! Any advice?

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3 October 2010 (F) - Saturday, I went out with a friend. I correctly guessed that since the guy I'm seeing was off work and his family was back in town, he'd have no time for me. He doesn't call or text me the whole day. So, whatever. He calls me last night and I'm busy ...

How long will it be, before she regrets our breakup and will want me back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4895 days ago

3 October 2010 (M) - How long before my ex fiance will sense any feeling of regret or fear of loss? We broke up just a week ago because of something fairly insignificant that got blown out of proportion, emotions were high and we both said things we regret. She told me ...

Great personality but I'm not attracted to his looks..he's way too thin. Should I date him anyways?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4927 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - Theres a boy who likes me, hes lovely and funny, not too bad looking but hes super super skinny, like you think hes just going to break when you see him. He has such an amazing pesonality and I get on with him so well but I think because hes so thin ...

I want a baby with my boyfriend, but he doesn't. What can I do?

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3 October 2010 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. At the beginning of the relationship I was pregnant with another mans baby, I decided to have a termination due to the circumstances in which it was conceived. Now I'm desperate to be pregnant ...

Why do all I attract is Jerks?

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3 October 2010 (F) - I am a 21 year old female. I know I have a good head on my shoulders. I am a fulltime college student, and more importantly, I know where I want to go and where I want to be in life. Ok, now on to the juicy stuff. I just dont understand why I always ...

He's nervous about hanging out with me..so, does he like me?

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3 October 2010 (F) - Ok so this guy I kind of like I asked him if he,could hang out today And he said that he wil try and go. Then later today which was when we were suppose to hang out he told me that he couldnt go. And then after I left I text him telling him he ...

Single mum with a big headache!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4949 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - I started seeing a lovely man 6 weeks ago. I have a 9yr old daughter who lives with me and he has a 6yr old son who stays with him 9 days out of 14. My ex only sees my daughter every other weekend but I have had her 2 weekends in a row. My new ...

He wont take me out but he always goes out! Why?

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3 October 2010 (F) - hello,me and my partner have been together 3 years now i have 2 chidren with him one from my previous realationship.he never likes to take me out eneywhere he just makes excusess all the time like he as no money but he goes out on his own why why?...

Is there anything that males prefer?

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3 October 2010 (F) - Hello everyone, I've not been on this website for a while! I'll just start by saying I've learned quite a lot about the opposite sex, and I managed to avoid them whilst doing my GCSE exams and I am proud to say I did quite well and got into the...

I don't know if I should follow my head or my heart

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4956 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - i've been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months now , its been a very tough relationships as we both come from different backgrounds .. i'm from a quite nice one .. his isn't so fortunate .. but we love each other very much . i really truly love ...

My boyfriend of three years tells me I am ugly!

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3 October 2010 (F) - Hi everyone! What can you do if your bf told you that your ugly? I have beem with my bf for 3yrs, last year he told that im ugly and he don't know why he's in love with me, he says may is because of im good in sex, i was realy hurt and after that ...

I fear our relationship is falling apart

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4954 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - Hi, My boyfriend of six months has become really distant and I am concerned that he is cheating. He has questioned his love for me in the past, and has admitted to being "sick of me" before. From time to time he does make an effort, such as ...

I want her back and this makes me angry!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4956 days ago

3 October 2010 (M) - My GF left me because she wants to "live life worry free and have fun" a few days ago which has me confused and hurt as it is, she said that i scared her when i said i wanted to settle down...she saw no future in me aswell. i keep trying to convince ...

Partner slept with my best friend who is in a relationship with my partners brother! They don't know I know please help me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4957 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - It's so horrible it's eating away at me everyday i resent him a bit for it even though it happened before we were together but my friend told me before we even met. Basically my boyfriend has slept with my best friend,She then shortly after got into ...

He's older but does he like me?

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3 October 2010 (F) - The guy I like at the moment is four years older than me. We get along very well and I feel like he likes me. However, I'm not sure if he pays extra attention to me because I am his youngest friend or because he actually likes me. Age isn't a pr...

Are all relationships like this?

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3 October 2010 (F) - How happy can one really expect to be in the relationship. I am starting to think that living with most man is kind of a boring routine, that includes their excessive computer use, lack of sexual and romantic interest after the initial stages of ...

We're both shy! Does he like me?

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3 October 2010 (F) - I want to know if my cousin has a crush on me. What shall I do? It is quite complicated. I have a crush on him for 11 years. He lives in US and I live in HK so we only see each other for every two years. I am a Virgo and his birthday is on ...

I love my girlfriend, but this other girl is just amazingly compatable.

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3 October 2010 (M) - I've been with my current girlfriend on and off for almost 7 years. We are very happy and I love her very much. However, recently I have met a new girl, and this girl has so much in common with me it is borderline eerie. Like the same movies, ...

What to do about my boyfriend? And his best friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4955 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year now, and lately I've noticed some changes. I'll shorten this as much as I can.. He's kind of addicted to an online game, and I think that's where all of his problems come from. He gets ...

Body imperfections making me uncomfortable, suggestions needed on how to cope??

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3 October 2010 (F) - Have you ever felt uncomfortable infront of your boyfriend or girlfriend because of a flaw/imperfection you had? For example, a crooked nose, a birthmark smack dab in the center of your face. Did aknowledging the flaw ever come up in discussion ...

What should I do about my immature boyfriend?

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3 October 2010 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years and everything was good..he's just really immature..and since i'm his first girlfriend he just seems really unexperienced and clumsy in a way..he makes jokes that ruin the moment..I don't even ...

Guys, would older experienced man still try to pursue a teenaged girl??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4956 days ago

3 October 2010 (F) - if your an older guy who likes a severely younger girl (bout 6 yrs) and you have a lot of sexual experience but she has none so she shyes away from stuff would you still try to get with her? ...

Girl likes me for my motorbike?whats going on?

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3 October 2010 (M) - Aight, There is a girl that I have liked for a while. Known her but never talked to her, she never really noticed me. I bought a motorcycle and she noticed me. Got rims put on my truck and guess what, she started texting me. What is up with ...

She is separated, not divorced, is it worth spending my time, I do care for her??

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3 October 2010 (M) - I'm in my early 30's. Have been married before and went through a horrific experience with the seperation. It's been a few years and I just started to get back into the swing of things and I'm now getting serious with this woman. She is appx th...

Dating seems to be a lose/lose situation for me.

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3 October 2010 (F) - i have always failed to get into relationships that i actually feel are right for me, in fact i get so far with that person, then they lose interest when i ask them out. i have tried every approach, being nice, kind, being hard to get, being ...

Is he cheating or am I too suspicious??

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3 October 2010 (F) - My boyfriend of 7 months is the first boy in my life. 3 months ago I found that he has been on many dating sites, all of them of sexual nature and he said it is old and that he doesn't use it anymore. I found old emails of him praising his ex ...