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writes:Have you ever felt uncomfortable infront of your boyfriend or girlfriend because of a flaw/imperfection you had? For example, a crooked nose, a birthmark smack dab in the center of your face. Did aknowledging the flaw ever come up in discussion between you two? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Nobody is perfect, so living with imperfections is part of life and relationships. I'd rather have a great partner who has physical imperfections than a visually perfect woman who has internal imperfections.
I have the usual array of birthmarks, scars, a few minor wrinkles, a bit of a beer gut, biceps that I would like bigger, and yes, like most guys, I wouldn't mind another inch or two "down there". My GF is paranoid about her mild viteligo, her small boobs, birthmarks and belly fat. Neither of us cares really. We love each other, and that's all that matters. To her, I'm perfect, and to me, she's perfect.
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reader, Jeffro1977 +, writes (3 October 2010):
Imperfections are glossed over by people that are in love. You maybe totally worried about your nose or a birthmark, Instead take a moment to find something about your body that you like and try to show it off. Distract and confuse lol
If your a woman workout your legs, and give that little dance us guys like. If your a dude, go to the gym make those arms bigger.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts sometimes hard to accept that you have flaws because you want to be perfect for the one you love.
I see couples with the girl/guy having an obvious imperfection but they havent let it get to them, then I wish I can be like that. Im so happy for those couples!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Big YES to that...and I'm a guy. I have really bad scars on my back due to bacne which came about after taking medication I needed when I was younger. I was always really insecure about it because it doesn't look...well, appealing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): If your partner has accepted you the way you are then no need to worry. I have a mole in my left eye and my BF is ok with it. Who cares about damn world!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): All my life, I never use to talk face to face and eye to eye with anyone or talk at all, mostly because of one of my tooth’s protrudes. My girlfriend has noticed but this but doesn't even care.
I think it's human to judge, it's what we do almost immediately an automatically, but to worry about what someone else’s preferences are is ridiculous.
Don't let what's on the outside control how you live. That's how you were born so it's about time you learn to live with that.
Personally, I always found the flawless blonde hotties in the world that are the perfect examples of what glamour should be, to be a little off putting - so generic and un-interesting.
Imperfections are what make us, and what make us special and unique. Don't worry about this. The ones you love are the only ones you should be concerned about what they think of you - which will only ever be good things.
Talk about it and you'll find it's no biggy at all. You might even learn something.
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Most people would change everything about themselves if they could, even those who appear to be completely content with themselves. I know that there are a lot of things that I would change about myself if I could, even though a lot of people envy what I have. However, when it comes to being with someone who truly loves you, they don't even notice the things you do. Honestly. I love my fiancee more than anything in this world. He notices a lot of things about himself that he doesn't approve of, but I think he's absolutely flawless. You don't love someone in SPITE of their "flaws", you love them because of their flaws, because to you, they don't exist.
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reader, Kazzi +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Definitely. I used to have a really large, black birthmark that covered the majority of my cheek. But a few years ago, I had it surgically removed. But even then, the birthmark was simple replaces with a large scar... I try to hide it with makeup and my hair, but even then, there's no way it'll be invisible. And even though I know for a fact that my boyfriend it full aware of it, he has never mentioned it before, even after a year of being together. Even so, I still feel really uncomfortable showing my entire face to him.. The scar is healing, though. Slowly, but still healing.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Everyone has imperfections; loving someone means accepting them in spite of that. Just change what you can if it really bugs you, but chances are that they love you, imperfections and all, they make you who you are.
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