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writes:My boyfriend of 7 months is the first boy in my life.3 months ago I found that he has been on many dating sites, all of them of sexual nature and he said it is old and that he doesn't use it anymore. I found old emails of him praising his ex girlfriend just 3 months before we met basically with the same words he uses to describe me and he subscriped to an expensive lingerie shop back then so i guess he sent her gifts - i never got anything like that. he doesnt talk about her at all and that makes me suspicious. he also calls other girls cute names like hun and babe and sends them kisses. everytime i try to talk to him about it he gets angry that i think he is cheating and blocks off, or he says its his past and those people are just friends. i just dont want to get hurt and he says very nice things to me all the time, he goes out alot with me and pays for a lot of things because i cant afford them. when i tell him i am suspicious he says he pays for everything and does this and that and that i shouldnt say he would cheat. but he is online a lot and i dont know what he does.i know he does a lot for me but i still think he could cheat on me - just because he does it doesnt mean its not happening?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 You're right, just because a man does/buys things for you, it doesn't mean they can't ever cheat. The emails to his ex were before you met...but the fact that he hasn't deleted his profile on these dating websites put up a few red flags.All I can say is trust your instincts, keep your eyes open and until you're sure he's 100% faithful to you, insist on condoms if you're sexually active with him. If you find harder proof that he is cheating, walk away.
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