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writes:HiI feel like I always try to find stuff wrong with guys that I am interested in (looks, personality, etc)... I do that so that way I can convince myself that I don't like them and that I can do so much better. I am not sure why I am doing that though... any thoughts/advice?Thanks in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys! I really appreciate your answers :)
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reader, Plexi +, writes (4 October 2010):
 You try to convince yourself that you don't like them so that you don't get too attached and you won't get hurt. It works very well but in the end all you are doing is ensuring you end up alone.Remember that no one is perfect and you WILL find something wrong with EVERY guy if you really try. Allow yourself to get close to them and develop feelings so that you can connect with a nice guy
Hope this helps a bit hun....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): In a relationship both of the people have their own little things about them that their partner doesnt like. But, thats what happens in every relationship. Its called compromise, you have to compromise on things. Of course I cant really tell you why you do this, because it could just be your personality, have you always done this? Maybe you're just picky [which isnt a bad thing] but sooner or later it can be, because men dont like women that try to change them, and if you date a man that has little things about them that you dont like and you try to change it, then he wont like it. You will find a man one day that you will love and will be able to compromise the little things on, I wish you the best of luck. :]
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reader, xchellex  +, writes (3 October 2010):
Iv been through all of this before and do you know what the answer is.... you just having found the right guy yet! The reason you continually look for faults is because your not really that interested and want to give yourself a stable reason to why it wont work. Believe me when you meet that right person you'll know straight away, instead of looking for faults in him you'll begin seeing all the positives, the reasons why you like him soo much. Just keep looking you'll find that right person soon. It took me till the age of 18 to find my perfect match, before him, i finished all the guys i kind of liked because i always looked for faults. iv been with my boyfriend now for almost 2 years and think hes absolutely perfect. Another reason could also be that your just not ready for a relationship yet, just have fun for now until you come across that one guy you immediately fall for!
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