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writes:i've been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months now , its been a very tough relationships as we both come from different backgrounds .. i'm from a quite nice one .. his isn't so fortunate .. but we love each other very much . i really truly love him and i know he does the same. But my family dislike him , especially my mum , my mum and i are like best friends or sisters , i love her very much , but she can be so rude and bitter about him and it can make my life hell. Firstly she says he 'ponses' of people , e.g. cigarettes if he doesnt have any , secondly that he has no qualifications and will get no where in life ( which is true , but he keeps saying he's going to go to college and get a job ) , he has had a job but only labouring ones which are unreliable , thirdly he can dress like a bit of a tramp sometimes , but he is a gorgeous boy and i think the world of him . The main point to this post is that recently i've been getting quite depressed and not knowing whether i should end it with him because i'm hurting my mum but i cant find the balls to do it , last night i was going through his phone and i found a few texts from a girl , which were clearly quite flirtacious saying ' i was going to text you earlier but i thought you might be with your girlfriend :/' and ' what time do you go to bed ' and 'well maybe later then ' ... instantly i was shaking all over and he seemed a bit nervous i was questioning them and he was saying how she is two years older than him and she already has a boyfriend , also his sent box are deleted :S which made me more suspiscious , so i kicked him out the house and told him to leave me alone i gave him all his stuff and he was crying and so was i , and he left. i've woken up this morning in hysterics , i don't know if i want to be with him or get over it , his facebook status is saying how much he loves me and will never be hole again , so i rang him crying saying i need time to think and he sounded so cool and laid back .. i said ' you dont sound to worried?!' and he just said i really love you and i'd never cheat on you , i miss you ive been up all night etc etc etc , so i just said well if you want me you can call me whenever and hung up. :'( im so confused and worried and upset i dont know what to do :'( follow my head or my heart :'(
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): My parents and I are super close, and they have always hated my fiance.. Because he's not "good enough". I adore him, however... And really, that's all that matters. Sure it's hard when they dislike each other (he's frustrated with them for always hating and judging him when he's been nothing but good to me and nothing but polite to them... and they've been quite the opposite.) But in the end of the day, it's your life and not theirs and it's your heart.
Follow your heart. You don't want to live your life with what ifs and second thoughts.
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reader, DenimandLace44  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 When you look back on your life, the things you have surrounding you won't matter. The people will. Men and women have lost kingdoms by choosing love. Thats because they reached a choice of facing a life of everything a heart could wish for...without love, or love and not much else. Only you can make that choice. But remember money, nor prestige can buy happiness.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (3 October 2010):
 It's an age old problem, parents not approving of our choice of partners. I had it for years. My husband was never good enough for me in my parents eyes. It won't be them dealing with him, so you must just go with your heart. They can't chose who you will love only you can know that. Try to keep being respectful to your parents and tell them how you feel and if you make mistakes it will be your mistakes not theirs. In my theory if someone tries to keep you away from someone then it only strengthens the feelings. Let your boyfriend know that if he makes a success of his life then you will all benefit from it. Let him know you will support that route. Hope this helps.
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reader, MissDani135 +, writes (3 October 2010):
If I were you, i would follow your heart...if you really love him, you wouldnt worry about how he dresses! Trust him and if anything goes wrong, you will know not to trust him again! With your parents, tell them how much you care and love him, I've had the same problem with my parents, I told them how much i cared about him and they understood.
I hope this advice has helped (:
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