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Dating: Help and advice

Should I Allow My Boyfriend to Swing?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5274 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I've been in a wonderful relationship with my bf for 16 yrs. People remark how close we are, how loving we are to each other. We do everything together including our work. We have a great sex life and family life. He's always there for me and ...

After a break up, who should initiate a friendship?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Okay, after a break up who initiates friendship? The person whose heart has been broken or the person who broke the heart? My exboyfriend and I were great friends before we dated and we did agree to being being friends. I miss having him in my li...

He is complicated...drinks a lot and ignores me for days! What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Since the beggining he messed up. Stood me up, would make plans and ended up getting drunk, getting drunk all time,even once when we argued and i left,he spent the night with hes ex (but this happened in the first week we met, not a relationship ...

I feel there is still hope for us. Is it really over or am I in denial???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for 5 years, we have been through so much together. I have 3 children and he has been involved with them %100.. we are a family.. My childrens' father is not easy and complicates things like decision making when it comes...

My boyfriend slept with a girl when we'd just started dating. Is this an issue?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5282 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - my bofriend and i have been dating for a little over 8 months now and i recently found out 3 days after he asked me out on a date he slept with another girl should i confront him about it or leave it alone since me and him are living together now ...

Did he text me so we can be friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Ok so another small problem. I was seeing this guy for 8 weeks, we had such a laugh together and everything was great. I had met him 4 weeks after I came out of a 4 year relationship and I found him irrestistable. A few years ago, he came out...

What is the easiest way to switch from lovers to friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Hi there, my gf and I have just split up after just over a year together. we still love each other very much, have retained the openess, honesty and trust we have built up and still get along very well. the only reason for the break up is that she ...

What should I do next with this co-worker?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Where should I go from here. I have never had a boyfriend but I have been having some fun kissing a guy I work with, for experience really, we have both decided that we want to date but as I have never dated anyone before I am scared because we ...

I am developing feelings for my very good friend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - hiya. Its all really getting to me right now. He is a really really good friend. Like a best friend. He is a year older than me. And our families are really close too! I have even stayed at his house for two weeks while my mum has been away. And i...

Please help me cope with breaking up with me ex-girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5255 days ago

10 November 2009 (M) - I broke up from my girlfriend 8 days ago, last Monday, after an argument. The thing is, I'm still madly in love with her.. I met my now ex through a friend of ours. She kept telling me how well suited we'd be together, so we were introduced to on...

Maybe I am paranoid or maybe I should trust my gut...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - hi everyone, i am 21 and have known my boyfriend since i was 15. Now we have been dating for 3 yrs. For some reason i have been having these feelings that he is hiding something from me. i would have never thought of this when i was younger, but ...

Should I make a move on him when he comes over?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - So, I have been best friend with this lad for about 3 years now, and we talk to each other about everything. Recently I started to like him, I told him, and he said he would talk to me about it, but he hasn't. But I don't think it's becuase he ...

Our age difference doesn't bother us, but my father is not speaking to me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Im 19 and I've fallen in love with robert, a 36 year old. We've been getting to know eachother quite intensively last six months and last week we've had the most amazing sex, every aspect of 'us' is amazing and I can't stop thinking about him. I d...

How should I feel about my workaholic boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - It is about 3 month i found him . Infact he wanted to be with me .He hasnt said to me what kind of relation he wants yet . I told him to think about it for a week, to know what he wants. I am not sure he loves me .Also he's crazy busy working and ...

I should just go with the flow... right?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I sort of know what im doing but i just need some words of advice or if anyones been through something like this before.. I met this amazing guy on holiday on the last night. He lives about 3 hours away so we obvisley cant get to know each other ...

Is my boyfriend worried about prison or not interested?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5251 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I hooked up with a guy I'd known for a while this summer. We had a geat time and saw each other quite a lot for about a fortnight. I had recently moved back to the area he lived in but was working away a lot so we didn't see each other again til the ...

Should I believe and trust my boyfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5282 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I am 41 my boyfriend of 8 months is 27. I am married (partially seperated). I recently got an apartment with for my boyfriend and I. We seemed to be getting along great, then his friends started coming around. I noticed a change in him. One ...

What were his reasons for saying all this to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - ok. i am really confused. my ex, who is also the father of my unborn child, has a gf now. it doesnt bother me, his loss right? anyways, a few days ago we were talking and i told him that he was the best i ever had, sexually of course, and he told me ...

He wants to share a hotel room but I worry he'll think I am up for sex and I'm not!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I need some advice, me and this guy I work with flirt a lot and we have never been on a date, we have kissed a couple of times, sometimes at work or at work nightouts. He has always wanted more but nothing serious, my response is - not at work. ...

Is there any hope he and I will date again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Well, my boyfriend broke up with me three days ago and whenever I look at him my eyes tear up and I just can't be around him. We still talk but I just can't be just friends with him. I still love him so much, I need to know if there is any hope that ...

Things went well...until she blocked me on Facebook! Any advice?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (M) - Morning all, I'm in a dilemma and I think I did something to blow a potentially good thing. I have been talking with a girl for the last month or so, and everything was going so well -- chatting, chemistry and what not talking on the phone, plus ...

We fell in love on the internet and want to meet. Any advice?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - i've known this guy for 3/4 months and we are in love with each other and would do anything for each other. But there is only one problem. we met on the internet and we live so far away. were in the same country but about 10 hours away from ...

How do I make this long distance relationship work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5282 days ago

10 November 2009 (M) - Hi there, I have recently started a long distance relationship with a girl in America. And me being from the UK. We both love each other very much but we only get to see each other every few months. And we're both finding it hard but I'm willing to ...

He's going on another 'lad's holiday' next July and I am against it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - hello, im a 19 year old girl, been with my boyfriend for about 4 months, we have a good relationship, however he has a big ego he does love himself to bits, he has an extremly good job for his age of 19 and is a good looking guy, however he told me ...

She messages me all day while I am trying to get my work done..how do I tell her nicely, to cool it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (M) - My GF and I live together and spend each evening together, which is great. However, she has a boring office job and texts me and IMs me all day long, five or six times an hour. I work at home on my computer as a freelancer and HAVE to get work ...

My bf is being pressured to date his old gf! Will he give in to that?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - i am dating this guy i have liked for ages and he liked me back. i have one problem. He made out with a girl on camp (before he started dating me) but not long before and well I'm worried that he might get pressured into dating her by their mutual ...

Should I be alarmed by the timing of her personal grooming?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (M) - I am a 44 y/o male engaged to a 42 y/o woman...we have been together for 1.5 yrs., our relationship has had it's ups and downs, however, we profess our commitment to each other. She seems to wear her ring with pride. Although, lately we have been in ...

I am struggling to get over my ex-girlfriend; the mother of my child.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4932 days ago

10 November 2009 (M) - Hi there my name is james and I'm 22 years old me and my ex girlfriend were going out for 4 years on and off we also have a son together the most recent break up we have had has lasted 6 months. But we have been gettin on good. So I have been goin ...

I am too afraid to enjoy this romance because of past hurt! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5279 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - ive met a guy. hes really into me.. hes soo sweet and funny. hes good looking.. goes uni really ambitious and seems really friendly and i think i like him too cos everytime i think about him i just smile.. he makes me really happy by just ...

What should I get my bf for christmas?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Well we all know xmas is nearly here. me and my bf have been going out for 2years now i really dont know what to buy him for xmas im 15 his 16 ive brought him a silver chain for his bday last yr ive brought him a canvas of us, teddys n that but can ...

Is it work or age difference that is really keeping him away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Why does age difference have to be an issue after you turn 18? Say I'm 19 and he's 39? Why does work have to be an issue when your both single and its only a seasonal job so you only see the other in the summer or winter? If I were to work a s...

If he was the one interested in me, wasn't he supposed to be more passionate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - About a week ago a friend told me a friend of him, who I worked with 6 months ago, was interested in me. I did not like him in the first place but I was flattered and now I like him and I want to know more about him. So he added me facebook, an...

I still see something beautiful in our relationship but he just is not committed to me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5283 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - He is the One.I knew it right when I met him the first time. He was trying to forget his first real important Love that HE decided to end because bored and unsatisfied (too young to just stay settled with just one girl). He wanted to move o...

How can I find out whether we are actually a couple without scaring him away?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I've known T since beginning of Sep. He first asked me out on a group date beginning of Oct, and since then our dates become more and more frequent. He invited me to his company's dinner and dance as his plus one where he kissed me. Since then, ...

Am I just using her to get over the pain of losing my girlfriend and my best friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (M) - about a year ago my girlfriend died. I went into a depression. I think about her every day. I let it affect me too much and ended up losing my job. two weeks ago my friend who I knew since I was 6 killed himself after losing his job. I havnt talked ...

Smitten after 2 weeks of dating, how do I stop my insecurities from ruining this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5285 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I have met a guy I'm totally smitten with after only being together for two weeks. I think he's about to dump me due to my own stupid insecurities and related behavior (constantly seeking reassurance and doubting his motives for being with me). I ...

How do I appreciate good men?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - why Is it do i only fall for bad guys the guys that dont treat me well? there was a guy that was intetested in me last year and i ignored him cause i still had feelings for my bastard ex boyfriend who ended the relationship cause it was boring" ...

My boyfriend says I am the only girl he has experiened an orgasm with, is this unusal?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - My bf says I am the first girl to ever make him cum. He says no girl has ever been able to do that for him before and hes always had trouble keeping it up, but with me he hasnt had either of those problems. I am wondering why this is? Im not even ...

Never been in a relationship, unlucky streak, or is it me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5285 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Hi ppl this is my first time but i have a concern thats weighed heavy on my mind for ages now. I'm 21 and thus far, never had a long term relationship or anything remotely close! the past few guys i met all did exactly the same thing, showed loads ...

Trying to cope with my girlfriend's past

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (M) - I'm having problems coping with my girlfriend's past. We've been dating for a month and I really want it to last but every once in a while it comes up and haunts me a little bit. She was my first everything. I first found out when I asked he...

How do I get him to fall for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - so, i am already in a relationship with this guy. but, im not exactly sure if he is even really interested in me. yes we have a ton of laughs but i want to keep him interested and i just dont know how. i guess what i am really asking is how to win ...

He's sending mixed signals. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Hey!! Ok...so I met this guy (he's 20) right at the end of summer and we kind of got together, went out a few times, and i really liked him....and i think he liked me too. SO..then he had to go back to uni (which is in Cardiff!!) and i'm still here ...

Fallen hard but afraid of scaring her away

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (M) - Hi, I met a girl around month ago at college. We were too shy to talk to one another and a friend stepped in, turns out we had both been wanting to make a move. We've seen each other a number of times now, and we would regularly text and msn, sh...

Need some advice about IUD coils.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I have some questions about the IUD coil I am 24 and my partner he is 29, we have been together for almost 7 years. since I was about 14 I have tried a lot of different forms of birth control, mostly in my younger teen years I was taking ...

First time for both of us...what can we expect?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Alright, here it goes. I am sixteen and have been absolute BEST friends with a boy for three years. We talk about everything; probably more so than a married couple. This past year we have both told each other that we love each other. But we de...

My bf's mother said I was good for nothing..that I ruined her son's life.!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5285 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - well im 18 years old and i have a huge problem, me and my boyfriend, have been together ever since we were 14 and we moved in together about a year ago. Our relationship with eachother is sometimes great but we have our ups and downs like some ...

How do I approach her about having an 'exclusive' relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5284 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I am at my wits end! I'm gay... not that it really matters for my query! I met the most amazing girl online just over two months ago .... we've talked on MSN and occasionally the phone nearly every single night, we also send each other a few te...