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writes:I need some advice, me and this guy I work with flirt a lot and we have never been on a date, we have kissed a couple of times, sometimes at work or at work nightouts. He has always wanted more but nothing serious, my response is - not at work.We have been getting on well and he has actually asked me out to a concert, he says he will by the tickets and because it is in the city, he says he thinks we should stay the night at a hotel. I really want to go but I am worried that if I say yes that he thinks I am up for sex. How can I put it that, yes I want to go and staying at a hotel is fine but I am not "easy".Is it possible for us to share a room and not sleep together, and I have a feeling that he would say we wouldn't need to sleep together but could do other things?I really do like him but have been hurt before.Thanks for reading.
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reader, duce00  +, writes (10 November 2009):
 Simply tell him that you like him but there will be no hanky panky and you sleep with a 50 kilo volt taser under your pillow.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 November 2009):
Just tell him exactly how you feel. Men need clear directions sometimes, so be clear. Tell him nothing will happen.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (10 November 2009):
 I agree with quiet-echo. Just put it out there, so that there can't be any misunderstandings. Be clear and be firm - and if he's a nice guy, a gentleman, a class act - he'll be totally okay with it. And if he gives you any attitude... well, then you know what he's after! And, when you're in the hotel room, if he starts going further than you're comfortable with just speak up and let him know your boundaries.Good luck and have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): I agree with Quiet Echo. If you tell him that, he'll probably fall all over himself assuring you he wasn't expecting sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): just tell him that its ok sharing a room as long as he knows it doesnt involve nothing more. he will be happy that you said it.
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