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writes:Hi,I met a girl around month ago at college. We were too shy to talk to one another and a friend stepped in, turns out we had both been wanting to make a move.We've seen each other a number of times now, and we would regularly text and msn, she would shower me with flirtation and compliments and I would with her. She's very forward making the first moves I.e. kissing me and cuddling me. About a week ago I spent the night with her, we just snuggled in bed together and she fell asleep in my arms. The morning after was magical, I've never felt so content with a girl.Since we spent the night together we haven't spent any time together as we've been busy with coursework, in fact she doesn't text as regularly as she did. Lately she's been pining for home a lot because she is missing her best friends.I really want to make the relationship "official", I need to do it before the initial spark fades. I've had numerous relationships in the past, but I've never fallen quite so fast for anyone, I really need to do something soon without scaring her away.I've got a month until she goes home for Christmas break, so I gotta act before then. Is there any way I can find out where I stand without the risk of losing her?
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reader, LethalInjection-x +, writes (10 November 2009):
 In all honesty, I don't think there is a way that comes without any risks. The fact your friend had to step in in order to start the ball rolling though means that it could be she wants to make it official too, but is also panicking about things like this.. as you both were intially.
My advice, coming from a girl of a similar age (based on the college thing), would be to make it a reasonably casual thing. By this I mean, don't turn it into something that could make her feel pressured or anything else other than happy. If I was you, I'd tell her you've really ejoyed her company so far, and that you liked spending time with her so much that you were wondering whether she'd like to make a go of a proper relationship - simple as that really. If she gets on as well with you as it sounds like you do with her, then I'm sure it'll be fine, and even if she doesn't want a relationship, if you can respect that then that shouldn't be uncomfortable for either parties either.
Good luck, hope it goes well.
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