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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of three years has always said that he doesn't get anything from looking at pictures/movies of women (porn, etc). He has also said that he doesn't like fake boobs and that natural big boobs get gross over time. He made a big point of saying all this. He said that he wants a person (meaning me) in real life that he can touch and enjoy. He has always said to me that he loves my body and is highly attracted to me (his actions support this), and is always very loving and caring. But....recently I found out that he "liked" pictures of women all with big boobs on facebook. At first I thought they were from before we dated, but then I saw that most have been during the past three years. There was nothing else in the picture, so it's not like he's liking the background. I called him out on it and he said he doesn't remember liking the pictures (the most recent was last year). He insists that he loves and wants me, but I don't believe him now. I feel like it was all a lie and that he really wants a big boobed girl instead. I am average size (C to D). I know he loves me, but I wonder if he really wants something else physically. His ex was a big boobed girl, but he has dated women of all sizes. How can I get past this?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 Look he is with you, he shows he loves you what more are you looking for? The thing is you are a person you are not a set off boobs. So why be focused on them so much? I honestly think you are dwelling way to much on this and finding a reason to get insecure about him.
He liked some pictures with women with big boobs, so what? Doesn't mean he loves you any less. Focus on the good not the bad.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 Well he lied to you. What are you going to make of that? You say he really loves you but clearly not enough to be honest, unless his preferences have changed since he met you.
Body shape is just a part of attraction. It isn't even the main factor. There is everything else from pheromones to humour with bizarre things like dialect and personal conduct in between.
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