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writes:So been dating my boyfriend for 5 1/2 months and lately he been making jokes about me having his kids or when we do it he ain't pull out! What does he mean by this? Why he keep making jokes about babies? Do he wnt kids secretly? Where is this coming from ? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2016):
 Do you want to have a child? Please use condoms and go on birth control, you barely even know this guy, if you end up falling pregnant now he can walk away but you will be left a single mother. Please be responsible, the pull out method does not work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2016): He may be hoping to get you pregnant but not bc HE wants kids. It may be bc he wants to make sure that if you leave him or look elsewhere, you'll still always be connected to him somehow. And either a. stay b. come back or c. at least not quite as easily walk away and just move on.I had an ex JUST like that who would NOT take, "no," for an answer. He pretty much decided we were together early on, made it difficult for me to speak to anyone else. I got hundreds of texts a day which meant if I didn't answer he came looking for me. It caused stress and drama at work. When we were alone, he slept with me at all opportunities. He repetively said, "I'm going to put in there. Then you can move in with me,"I told you all this because he started off just like your boyfriend did. Tell him, not during sexual situations that you will NOT be having sex until you are on birth control and that if he brings up children again, you will end it. As in not even be friends.I think you are both romanticizing the idea of a baby
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2016): It means you're risking pregnancy and sexually-transmitted infections by not using condoms. You're tempting fate and taking no responsibility for yourself or your future; and subconsciously hoping you'll get pregnant. Thinking an unplanned pregnancy will be a means of sealing a commitment from a relationship that you're insecure about. He's using humor, but sending you a message. He's also implying if you get pregnant, it's your fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2016): He's joking about kids because he knows you are on the brink of pregnancy and he is playing a russian roulette pregnancy game!
Once your pregnant your gonna keep the child ,yes?
But will he stick around?
Not all jokes are funny all the time and if you hear the same old joke again and again your gonna feel sick!
But cheer up!
The chances are it will be morning sickness and not a virus!
But if you figure now is not the time for pregnancy and birth then turn the record over and go on the pill!
Then its your turn to start joking about a white wedding!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 September 2016):
 Why, is he pulling it out now ?! How come ?
I mean, don't you use condoms and / or other reliable contracception ?
Then it's not only him that secretly wants babies, it's you too.
Be smart , and , whatever your bf is clowning about... this is no laughing matter- do NOT have intercourse until you are properly protected against pregnancy.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 September 2016):
 I hope you are on birth control because he doesn't seem to take having kids very serious.
If he wants kids, so what? You have ONLY been dating 5 1/2 months and you are both ( I presume in your late teens/early 20's) it's not the time to be making babies.At 5 1/2 months, KIDS should NOT be something to strive for. And certainly not by an "oops".
Next time ASK him if he can afford a kid, medical bills etc. See what he says. It's EASY enough for him to JOKE about it, but guess what? YOU would be the one having to CARRY the baby for 9 months and then take CARE of the kid for the REST of your life. He doesn't HAVE to stick around.
Use common sense OP. Whether he wants kids or not doesn't matter, what matter is that THIS is not the time to make any.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (27 September 2016):
 It's hard to say what he's thinking, but you *have* to use condoms *every* single time you have sex! Do not end up pregnant by this guy so early on, please!
He seems to be testing the waters, but it's too early to be seriously thinking about or risking getting pregnant!
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