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writes:It seemed really strange I developed HPV from my boyfriend. I confronted my boyfriend after my doctor told me I had HPV. At this point I'm sure he was cheating, how else would he get it, how else would I get it. We lost our virginity together, so I thought, been together for 2 years. The nasty part of this get weird, his sister 4 years older also developed HPV. I'm beginning to think he and his sister have been screwing each other, they are oddly very close. Now I think he didn't lose his virginity to me at all, I think he and his sister have been having sex for a long time. I know she does not like me, never has. I think she is jealous of our relationship. I feel lost I don't have any facts they did it but it seems very strange we all came up with the disease within a short time. My doctor told me this is a STD. I never had sex with anyone but him. He's made up stories saying he must have caught somehow from his sister, he said he was wearing her dirty underware, he said it turned him on, I think that's a lie. My doctor told me it had to come from someone having sex with an infected person. I hate to believe my boyfriend was having sex with his sister but it does explain why he was unable or didn't want sex with me several times. I decided to break up our relationship, my boyfriend obviously got this from having sex with someone and that someone is really looking like his sister. What do you think, was he having sex with his sister? Could he be telling the truth about the dirty underware .
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2014): I am just curious here.Is it NOT possible that someone who has HPV got it from an infected partner BEFORE they started to date/have sex with YOU?It does not mean they are cheating on you at the present time necessarily, does it?This is all very strange. No man I know has ever even remotely thought about having sex with their sister. Not good. I am very sorry you are going through this. How terrible a situation on all counts.Do move on. He is really messed up and so is his sister. If I found something like that out, it would TURN ME SO OFF IN A NEW YORK MINUTE... I would not want to ever touch him again or vise versa! THAT IS GROSS. They deserve each other it looks like.Hope you are okay. You can and will do better. Take Care.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (27 October 2014):
 You did the right thing by ending it with this guy.
If wearing his sister's dirty underwear and he says it "turned him on" is what he TOLD you, then he's having sex with her, no doubt about it. If THAT is the lie he told, I guarantee that the truth is 100 times worse, and 1000 times more nauseating.
Even if it were the entire truth (which we all know it isn't!), what brother gets turned on by wearing his sister's dirty underwear??? That's filed under hearing your parents having sex in the room next to you in terms of "turn-on's". Most people go "EW" even thinking about a parent or sibling being sexual.
He and his sister are sexual, and have been sexual for far longer than he was with you. For him to even make up a story about how he got it from her using dirty underwear is pretty much a full admission in neon lights that those two were exchanging copious amounts of bodily fluid, which is disgusting. You'll never make him admit the truth, because incest is a major crime in the US.
I think "cheating" doesn't even cover it. "Creepy sex offender" sounds more like it fits, and he gave you an STI for which you now are a carrier, and possibly shortened your life due to possible future cancer based on your risk factor.
How did you find out his sister has it? How did you find out that he has it? Did he know he had it when he was intimate with you? That's a crime as well - knowingly exposing a partner to a diagnosed STI without warning them. It carries criminal AND CIVIL penalties as well, which if I were you, I'd be tempted to pursue, since your life will never be the same again.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 October 2014):
 You can get HPV by having vaginal, anal, or oral sex with someone who has the virus. It is most commonly spread during vaginal or anal sex. HPV can be passed even when an infected person has no signs or symptoms.
SO unless YOU had SEX with someone else.... HE is the one who gave it to you. HE can have no signs of it and unfortunately you CAN NOT STD test for HPV.
YOu can not get it from wearing DIRTY underwear (though WTF? wearing his sisters dirty underwear is nasty!)
Did he get it from his sister? WHO knows. ANYONE who is sexually active can get HPV. BUT you got it from him. There is no doubt.
DOES it matter if he has sex with his sister or not? It COULD have happened BEFORE you two started dating. He could "technically" have BEEN a virgin - if he only did oral with someone else - I KNOW many people think that anal and oral means you are still a virgin, though I don't agree. ANY sexual experience null and void the whole "virginity" deal.
He could have had oral, anal or intercourse with someone - doesn't HAVE to be his sister. It might just be a LITTLE too coincidental that SHE has it too.
All the more reason to end this and WALK away.
Now I hope your DOCTOR also explained that you are NOW a carrier of HPV and if you are not careful YOU can pass it on to someone else.
Get screened for cervical cancer. Routine screening for women aged 21 to 65 years old can prevent cervical cancer.
If you are sexually active:
Use latex condoms the right way every time you have sex. This can lower your chances of passing on HPV. But HPV can infect areas that are not covered by a condom - so condoms may not give full protection against getting HPV.
Be in a mutually monogamous relationship – or have sex only with someone who only has sex with you.
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