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Archived questions from: 18 September, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Falling for my long ago ex-history teacher...is this wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Sorry if this is long...Four years ago, I graduated from a small blended middle/high school in Tennessee. I moved to New York for college, and while I was there, I lost a lot of weight. I look a lot more attractive now than I used to. A couple of ...

I feel like a monster. How do I get her to trust me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

18 September 2009 (M) - Hi. The beginning of the problem was the junior year of high school. I took *Alexis as my date to the homecoming dance and junior prom because she didn't have one. My friends thought that she liked me but I blew it off because it didn't matter if ...

Still low after his affair. I don't know how to get over it!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - hi all really need bit of advice. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 7 years we have a beautiful 4 year old child together, we live together and have alot of commitments. thing is, about 18 months ago i found out he was...

What can I do? Before I met him, I was bubbly and laughing, now I'm always sad and crying.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - my boyfriend works with me in a hotel, im a waitress hes a cook.. he works 5 day week i work day in day out.. so theres not lot days that we have togher.. im asking my self why he does this to me .... last week he was dinner shift like me and he ...

Can I leave my mom now, one month before I'm 18? She assaulted me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5327 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - okay so I turn 18 in ONE month exactly, and I live in Texas. Well my mother knows this is the last month so she's doing everything possible to make it hell. She tells me even when im 18 Ill still do what she says and everything else and im not ...

He says that sex is chore for him and he'd rather cuddle! How do I bring back the spark?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5334 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - I'm 18 and my bf 23 we've been going out for nearly 16 months now and i thought everything was fine until last week. He said he wanted to talk about us that he feels we've been drifting apart and doesnt feel a connection with me anymore and that he ...

I feel lost and unwanted!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5333 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - I am married and not happy. I am 60 but look 50 my husband hasn't given me any affection for many years. i have worked at my company for 14 years and have meant someone who is married and 6 years younger than me. i have commented adultrey and ...

Do I get out?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5328 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Do I get out? I am a 30 yr old female. With husband for 10 years and married for 4.5 with no children. I am very unhappy with my relationship and with my husband. I have been unhappy for years. And I hate to admit it but I was unhappy before w...

He was so rude on while texting me but was the opposite in person...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Hi, i am just confused a bit..if anyone can help. I saw my ex the other day which at first I tried to avoid because I am still too hurt about our break-up and upset that he ignored my IMs and text messages and even my last email. I really feel he...

I discovered he is married!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5333 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - He told me he was divorced. I just found his myspace page. And his wife's myspace page. both updated within the past week. both listed as married. i am sick and angry. really angry. i suspected. do i confront him? i haven't heard from h...

Since he lost his job, he's changed: alcohol, drugs, lying to me, avoiding me... should I stay with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - I am dating a man who in the past has been a very thoughtful, kind and decent person. He lost his job three months ago and since then, has been drinking heavily and taking narcotics to "numb the pain". He is exceptionally depressed and worried ...

So he's been uncontactable for 2 weeks, and now our mutual friends are ignoring me! I don't need this drama!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Hi, Please can I have some advice. Cheers guys! I have a guy I have been in love with for many years, in fact 10 (oh my goodness, has it been that long) we met, fell in love, usual not go smoothly stuff happened from outside influences, he e...

My feelings have changed for her without me wanting them to!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (M) - I currently for the past 4 1/2 months have been questioning myself to death about my relationship. A year and a half ago I was close to getting married to a girl I had dated for 3 1/2 years in and out fo college and she dumped me out of nowhere. I ...

Her fancy dress nights from the past are getting me down.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5303 days ago

18 September 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm in a loving relationship with a wonderful girl and have been for almost a year. However I have an issue. I can't get over the fact that when she was single she used to love dressing up on fancy dress nights and Halloween etc. Obviou...

Is this selfish of her or am I overeacting?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Do you think it's selfish of my best friend to buy a new dress to go out clubbing for my birthday (On Saturday) when she knows very well I'm only going to be wearing black pants and a nice top? I DON'T wear dresses, period. She knows that. OH she ...

Do all guys go off a girl when they've been together for a while?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Do all guys go off a girl when they've been together for a while, like a year? I know you have to work at relationships but it just seems that my boyfriend has more fun playing games n having a laugh with his online friends that he rarely thinks ...

My girlfriend had sex with someone else more than a week after our break up. We're back together, is she more likely to cheat?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5288 days ago

18 September 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and i were dating for a year and i broke up with her on our one year anniversary due to constant fighting and other bullshit. (nothing big though) after i realized that i shouldnt have been so quick to let her go, i quickly asked her ...

After 2 years he told me he was still in love with his ex...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - My bf and I are living together and have been for one year. Prior to this we had broken up for about 2 months, in this time he told me he was still in love with his ex. I was so gutted!! We had been together for two years and so happy and when he ...

I want to break up, but I can't afford to pay the bills alone!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Hi thanks for reading! I can't figure out for the life of me what I can do to resolve this situation. I am living with my boyfriend and we have been togther for a while, but it is not so great anymore, and I am not happy. At first I thought I was ju...

Feeling lonely... is my boyfriend going off me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. I dont know whether im being pathetic but this is just the way i feel. I'll start by telling you how old me n my partner are as i feel at this age i shouldnt be having these problems. im 23 and partner 24 and we av bin togetheer for 2 ...

I love him but I want to leave him. Please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid I've been very upset recently. I'm in my mid 30's,married with 2 kids. I have extra marital affair for a year now with a married man who was once my ex-boyfriend during my school days. I was touched by his approached that I fell in love ...

I abused her and now I think she's cheating

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (M) - dear cupis to ladies me and my girlfriend we have problems,and its all because of me, i have treated her badly for the past two years, so bad, and we both responsible for our problems,that it hurts me now, we spoke about it, and she told me that...

He says he's bored with me and that I'm unattractive. Should I still try?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little more than two years now and we have been living together close to two years. Just a couple of weeks ago he had been coming home late at night around 4 in the moring every night. He says he is with ...

Can we salvage what's left of our friendship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (?) - My friend and I have been drifting apart since last year. It started with her leaving me for a new group of friends, accusing me of being jealous of her having new friends, but in the end she would apologize. Even though she did, she still acted ...

Do I meet him and risk feeling broken all over again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (?) - Please, I need fast responses. I feel so sick about this, I cant focus on anything else. Quick summary, I was with my ex for almost two years, my first everything, only guy i ever dated. Same went for him. Everything was fine, we never fought a...

Should I have another baby by a sperm donor?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5337 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Hello everyone. I have a serious question. I am twenty years old and I have a two year old daughter. Her father and I are not together and have not been for a loooong time. He has not cared to see her up until now and keeps threatening to get ...

Is there any way I can show him how his gift makes me feel worthless and not cared for?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5337 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years and my first birthday we went skydiving, but I paid for myself. He also invited his friends and some guys I didn't know along with us. For my second birthday he got me nothing at all, and now ...

I love her and intend on marrying her, but I keep thinking that we'll end up with different people!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (?) - Hi, Am I being paranoid, my intuition or gut feeling...my girlfriend love each other a lot and intend to get married one day, but I had this image the other day that we will end up with different people. Our parents no about us and we have no p...

I'm too young to be in such a mess! Should I walk away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5337 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Ok so here is my situation. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months and we already live together (mistake #1) I have grown to be so unhappy but feel stuck in the relationship because not only do we live together but we also work together. I am 21 ...

What do I do about a drunk boyfriend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - What do I do about drunk boyfriend? My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years and we have one child who is three. I recentley broke up with him because his drinking has become a problem. I allowed him to come back because it hurt me to see h...

Should I stay on this committee or go? My ex is causing me problems.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5337 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Hoping people can help. I am on a board of directors. I am the only woman and my ex is on there. He was the one who ended it and wanted no contact but it seems to me he picks his words to wound. He will often repeat back expressions I have used and ...

How do I show him he needs to work for our relationship?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - WHAT CAN I DO BOUT THIS**LONG ONE**? I'm in a long distance relationship with a really nice dude. When we are face to face we get along extremelly well.Now that we're apart from each other we communicate through IM,email,text,calls. A few weeks ag...

How should I phrase this letter?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

18 September 2009 (M) - Nearly 2 years ago my relationship with my parents rapidly deteriorated because they would get drunk and out of control, and then constantly abuse and threaten me and my fiancée. I was thrown out of my home by my mother, who is an alcoholi...