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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

One day he's really attentive, the next day he ignores me! What's up with this guy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5219 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I have absolutely no idea what to think about this guy. This guy is the co-owner of a bistro that is next to my work, a place that I eat at when I work (I started because there's nowhere else to eat over a 30min. break in the area!) I'm 18 and I ...

Emotional affair with your boss

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Hi. I filed a HR report against my boss. THis is a retail environment. We previously had an 'emotional affair', as is called these days. He actually wanted to be friends in spite of my HR claim. He tried being my friend again, but he ke...

I don't like my husband's best friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - So my husbands best freind is somebody who I dont care for. When i first met him, he bragged about how he was cheating on his girfriend to me and my husband. So I dont HATE him, I just wouldnt trust him if i were a girl. Well he has a fiance now ...

Am I just someone who occupies his time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - i've beendealing with guy for 5 yrs but he has a girl who he lives with and has a 14 yr old son . he doesnt trust me but he doesnt want me around other guys or even talkin to guys. what i want t know does he hav feelings for me or am i jus someone ...

What do you do when you really like someone but you can't tell them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - what do you do when you really like someone but you cant tell them. please dont say just forget because i cant. this guy started my job a few months ago and ever since day one ive had a major crush on him. i like everything about him. the weird th...

His kids are preventing us from moving forward

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Stats: I have full custody of my child. We have known each other from school, over 20 years ago. We reconnected almost one year ago. I’ve been divorced for nearly 10 years and have one young daughter. He has been divorced for one year and ...

Her parents are keeping her from me but I love her, please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5228 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - my girlfriend's parents are against the whole idea of having a relationship. Recently, they saw my relationship status on facebook with her and caught us. Her cell phone has been taken away, and she has been locked up in her own house. Things have ...

My boyfriend's mum interferes with our relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4366 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I need help you guys, im 17 years old and my boyf is 21. He lives at home with his widowed mum due to money issues (ie. she has none because she retired very early and now needs his). Over xmas he came to us on boxing day while she went to a mates ...

Why is my girlfriend lying to me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - Okay, so I have a situation where I can hardly ever trust my girlfriend. We've been together for almost 2 years and I still findit hard to believe her. Sometimes she'll tell me she's busy at work, but then if I call her up 5 minutes later, I...

I don't love her, like she loves me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5224 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - Hey I need some advice, i've been going out with this girl for almost 9 months now and she is in love with me, at one point I thought I loved her too, which I do but i'm not in love with her. We get in fights pretty often over little things, but ...

I cant get out of a relationship thats ruined because of me I think

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Okay.. i have been in this relationship for four year. I can't get away I really dont know what to do I have tried everything he brings out the worst in me. i am not a mean person at all. everytime i am around him i hate myself and the way i act i ...

My partner has banned me from having a dog.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I am utterly desperate for a dog. I am a huge dog lover and have been raised with loads of animals. I have been with my partner for 4 years and he has refused to let me ever get a dog. How on earth can i make him see this is unreasonable and is ...

It breaks my heart to see my parents apart!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - im 14 my parents are in a fight how do i help get them back together? My dad has a a does not think before he says and regrets it. My mom and dad have been together for 17 years now i i cant live without my mom and dad being together it just breaks ...

Please Tell Me How To Handle My Man's Accusation Of An Affair

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

31 December 2009 (?) - The boyfriend did it again; saw a guy approach me and lost his mind and accused me of having sex with him. Said from what he saw it looks like we are having an affair and I need to come clean. I was lifting weights and a guy came up during m...

How can I guild up my self confidence from within this relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5185 days ago

31 December 2009 (M) - I have placed quite a few questions here and have had some very good advice and observations from the kind people who have replied. Unfortunately my continued postings here have frustrated some people as most have said the same thing: That I should ...

Hurtful relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years on and off. He has 2 children from a previous relationship who accused me of being with him for money. We were due to get married 18 months ago but he ended the relationship 6 months before the wedding. We ...

He said he wants a divorce over my refusal to have sex without a condom...how can I prove I love him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5207 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I have been with my husband since i was 15. we have been togethor for 5 years. and married for 1 year. we have 2 children. a 3 year old and a 6 month old. we have been through alot together. after a huge fight last year we were able to patch things ...

How do I get my parents to compromise with a little freedom?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - my problem is having a boyfriend. My parents won't allow it. I'm 15 in my last year school, and he's my first boyfriend. I really like him, i usually don't pay attention to stuff like that, but i felt that he's different. He likes me for who i am...

Is this a good time to make amends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Hi Guys Happy New Year to everyone! My problem is that I confessed feelings I had for a female friend of mine this year, and to cut a very long story short, we haven't spoke since I did so, and basically cut each other out of each others li...

Lied about my age .. again :(

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Help :( I have always had a problem with revealing my true age, I guess it relates back to primary and high school days where I was bullied and I guess I have had a "make up for lost time" kind of attitude towards life. I am currently 26 and...

B/f says I'm selfish and keeping him away from his family

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and living together for 3 years! We have a two year old boy and i am pregnant with our second!! I know our relationship has never been the best in the world or the healthiest Lately we have been ...

Will I go to jail if I had sex wit my exgirlfriend who is 17 and now pregnant.??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Well i met my ex at 16 yrs of age at a 18 yr and older club she lied to me and told me she was 18..She looked 18 and was at a 18 yr and older club.We started dating had unprotected sex now shes pregnant.And she bearly decided to tell me her age.I ...

He is sweet but lacks the initiative, does he really care?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Which one says the truth about my ex who I recently reconciled with? When I am with him, he doesn't want me to do anything but sit or lie beside him. He stares at me all the time and like to cuddle the whole day. When I am not beside him, he g...

The old question: In love with a straight guy part infinity!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - (MOD NOTE: POSTER'S ORIGINAL TITLE) I'm a just turned 20 year old (gay)guy who always attract straight guys. But here is the problem: I like my brother in law too much then i actually should. Everytime he looks/smiles or even talkes to m...

I'm caught in the middle of a family fight!!! Please, I need your help!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I am stuck in the middle of three sisters one my Mums side of the family and a bad relationship with my mum and my Dad's sister. I try to be nice to everyone in My family because I hardly see them and when I do I like it to be a good, happy time, ...

My boyfriend wants to split the cost of a big ticket item with me, but I don't think I'll be with him that long!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - so my boyfriend wants to get a ps3 (he lives with me)he wants us to split the cost to get it. the thing is i do not want to since i do not think i will be with him for that long. he thinks everything is going great but i am just not that happy wi...

Engaged and attracted to another man. How do I overcome these feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - there's this lady who is engaged and she's having deep feelings for another suitor. what can she do to stop these feelings? this guy is someone that they see each other almost everyday. ...

Not ready to say the "L" word

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - What do you do when he says I love you and your not ready to say it back? I have been seeing this guy, but we havent been together all that long ( I would say we have gone out about ten times). The other day, when we were talking he said he loved ...

Its complicated...please some objective input?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Hi there I've searched for and read so many of the emails from guys in the similar situation to me. I can never find one "relationship situation" that is exact to my particular situation, but at the end of the day, the expected answers I will g...

Does he ever think about "us"?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I just want some ideas about whether he thinks of me and why he doesn't seem to want to "be" with me again. We were friends for about the past year and eventually we moved past that stage when he came clean about his feeling for me. I am married so ...

After our breakup he seems to have rewritten history

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I have a real problem which is distressing me so much. I was with my partner for 6 years and he was the love of my life and we broke up last February because he left after an argument then we were on and off together since then and he seems to be ...

I am now on a bitter liver...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5094 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Alright...--- Well I guess I should start explaining my spot in life. I'm a freshman in highschool and I'm an all around person kinda girl. I never believed in friends but always acquaintences. Just to keep wild emotions out. Im patient, reassur...

He isn't giving me enough attention and now he wants space! What now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for 5 months. Really nice person. But the thing is that he doesn't seem to put in effort to make me happy. I told him that he isn't giving me enough attention. He could be gaming, watching video or chatting with hi...

Is it wrong to wish he'd just pass away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - My dad has been a severe alcoholic most of my life. He was emotionally dead when I was a teen and went through a brief point of sobriety when i was in my early 20''s. for the last couple of years, he's cheated death several times. he has survived ...

What do I do in the meantime while my boyfriend is in jail?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is going to jail. I'm very confused about what to do. Here is the thing: we had dated previously and had had a very rocky relationship which ultimately ended badly. It had been a relationship full of lies and cheating and both ...

Do I try and show her father I've changed? He's a cop.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5232 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Ok , I live in a small town wehre everyone knows everyone. As a teenager and in to my ealrie 20's i went through the whole bad boy stage. Ditching school , drinking, fighting, racing cars, drugs, tattoos, I did jail time for break and enter and drug ...

I have faked it for 10 years...help?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (?) - i have had sex for 10 years and have never felt any sexual pleasure form it for ten years i have faked it. it hurts becasue my marriage is now over becasue it gets worst everytime, i know i wont feel nothing os i dont get horny. oral sex only gives ...

Ex leaving threatening messages!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5232 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I have recently emigrated to another country with my 9 year old son. I am a single mother and have been for some time. My son has had very little contact with his father during his 9 years of life (even though his dad lived only 5 minutes down ...

Should I let the ex see his baby, even though he says it's not his?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - ok so im new here and just want to know wat u people think i should do? ok here goes... i have a three yr old child and im currently pregnant again my babys dad and i arnt together he left me wen i was pregnant. hes a dumb @ss. n e wayz about a yr ...

What do I do?? I don't wanna hurt him :(?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - ive been chatting to this guy i met on plenty of fish.. hes rings me and we met up and went out last night.. hes really sweet.. he even bought me a christmas present and paid for the movie and everything.. but i think he likes me.. cos ...

What do I do...Nina or Lily?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - I'll try to make this short. I'm a teenager and I have stupid teenage love problems, but I'd really like some help. There's this girl I was in love with for a few years, Lily, she was my first everything first girlfriend, first kiss, lost my ...

Is he just not confessing his whereabouts?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Hi all im in a bit of a situation here any advice is taking on board.... Im 24 been with my fiance for 5 years we have 2 sons together the realationship has had its ups and downs as everyones's does. My fiance went to the shops today at like ...

I think I might have destroyed our marriage!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - I hit my wife over her back with the plastic end of a hoover the other night. We were staying at my dads house in a single bed and had been drinking for a few hours before hand. We were in bed two hours when she ran out of space and hit me in my ...

My mind wont stop saying why why why...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - well.. way back in september.. i was introduced to this girl. dam i fell for her quick but she had never been with a guy before so i new i didnt have much of a chance if the other guys didnt. but then we got real close real fast and we started ...

I'm staying for my son basically but I Want to know how to remove myself from this guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5231 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have only dated my bf for a little over a year. He had previously dated the girl before me for 4 years. 4 months after we started dating we found out I was pregnant and 3 months into pregnancy I started having nightmares about his ex, ...

He's both great and not so great...do I stay or do I go?

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29 December 2009 (F) - Hi. My new bf is great in some ways but in other ways not so great. i just have to decide whether we are good together or whether its a destructive relationship. First off hes crazy jealous of me and other guys esp my ex, he seems kinda obsessive ...

How do I make up to my gf with actions, not just a simple sorry?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship with my gf for 4 and a half years now. She has gone back to her home country for 2 months and will be returning in February next year. The thing is that she's hurt by my actions and wants me to make it up to her to ...

I like him but am afraid to be his girlfriend...he says he'll wait til I'm ready but he didnt....what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - me and this guy have liked eachother for almost 7 months but havnt kissed yet but sometimes he holds me and when he walks me home we hold hands, but we havnt kissed because im afraid to cause im almost 15 and he just turned 15 this october but i ...

Girl texts my boyfriend at odd hours late at night. Is she more than a colleague or a friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5051 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for approx. 8 months now. We belong to different cultures. He is an introvert and likes his space. He does not share a lot about his friends. I assume that is because he wants to give them their privacy. Quite ...

I'm too needy and g/f & I got off on the wrong foot

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5232 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Help please! I feel I am just too needy and that my girlfriend and I have got off on the wrong foot. My girlfriend and I moved in together about three months ago and we've been together for just over a year altogether. When we first met, to ...