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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My bf is abusive but I love him... what do I do?

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22 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and we even live together. He treats me great, takes care of me and tells me everyday that he loves me. Problem is that when he gets upset he calls me names,gets very loud with me and has even ...

Partner is keeping secret friendship. Am I just paranoid or is he playing me?

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22 November 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for 10 years. We have never had any real relationship issues until recently when I discovered he had gone out with a small group and kissed a girl. They exchanged numbers and for 3 weeks where flirting with each other by ...

How do I remind my ex bf of the good times we had together? Any suggestions for getting him back?

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22 November 2009 (F) - Hi, Here's my problem. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up around 5 months ago now after 1 and a half years together, because things were just getting a little out of control - we'd argue over little things and I hate to admit it, but I was gettin...

Love triangle, my boyfriend, me and his sister?!?!

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21 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and I've been there for him through a lot of family problems. He lives at home with just his sister (with no parents) and he's 19 years old. I just feel like his sister takes full advantage of him...

Why is she doing this now after being so cold towards me?

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21 November 2009 (M) - I was very close to my friend and still have feelings for her. We had had a short romance earlier in the year that sort of turned to friendship. A few months ago, I told her I still had feelings for her and she let me down softly. She said she ...

He asked me why I was so quiet and I told him... did I do the right thing?

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21 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend sent me a message two days ago asking why i had been so quiet with him recently and he knows i find it difficult to express my feelings face to face so he said to tell him in a message. So i did. I told him that i feel like i cant...

Do you think that telling him what he did wrong will make a difference?

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21 November 2009 (F) - Do you think that telling him what he did wrong will make a difference? Don't want to bother with details, but a few weeks ago my bf tried to break up with me for things that I had been doing that hurt him. I didn't know that these things bot...

Dating again but fear looking inexperienced and self-concious to the new guy! Help!

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21 November 2009 (F) - Hey guys...I could really use some help please. I was with my ex for 4 years, and we broke up 2 years ago. It was generally a very happy match and I was pretty gutted when it ended. While I've dated a few other guys since we broke up, I've only ev...

He forgets to text me and he forgets our dates! Is he seeing someone else?

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21 November 2009 (F) - i've been texing and meeting this boy for about 4-5 months, last week he told me he liked me but didnt want a relationship yet... all of a sudden since that he's been 'forgetting' to text me or ring me and tonight he even forgot we were supposed to ...

I'm jealous as my cousin gets to go out more than I do!

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21 November 2009 (M) - I don't get out much often and I get jealous when other people do. My cousins they go places all the time and I get a jealous feeling towards them. My cousin tries to make me jealous because she gets all in my face saying imma have fun and what all ...

How can I improve my sex life?

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21 November 2009 (F) - Me and Boyfriend have a strange sex life. we have sex but im not sure if its enough or too much sex. he likes the whole bondage thing with rope... don't mind it at all. hes also in to sexy clothes and stuff. but my question is i want sex more than ...

Anything can start a fight with us now. How do I sort this?

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21 November 2009 (M) - Alright, my girlfriend and I have been dating for around four years now. Things have been pretty awesome until recently. It seems that lately everything, from going grocery shopping to our puppy can start a fight. She always accuses me of ...

How do I proceed to go out with this guy... and how is my ex going to take it?

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21 November 2009 (F) - Hello, I was just hoping some people would have some advice for me on a subject. So I had the FINAL/6th breakup with my bf about 2 weeks ago. 6 breakups in 6 months because he was so immature, a liar and a control freak. I have been emotiona...

My girlfriend has gone off sex and I don't know why...

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21 November 2009 (M) - Well I've been with my girlfriend just over a year and our our sex life was very good excellent to say the least, I am 36 and my girlfriend is 49 and i love her so dearly but recently she has gone off sex and has lost all interest in making love as ...

My boyfriend has double standards!

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21 November 2009 (F) - My bf, 25 years old seems to have double standards. It is ok for him to flirt with other girls and lead them on, yet its not ok for another guy to even just say "hello" to me. Why does he do this? I dont want to flirt with other guys, but I feel...

How do you tell the one you love you love someone else?

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21 November 2009 (F) - How do you tell the one you love you love someone else? I have been with my boyfriend a year now and I'm very happy. I started talkling with his best friend and I'm starting to have really deep feelings for him and I don't know what to do... I'...

How do I convince him it wasn't me who text him?

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21 November 2009 (F) - Ok everyone, I need help in trying to convince this guy that I wasn't texting him from another number trying 2 be someone else, It happened to2 be my ex bf doing this, I had only met this guy 3 times and was beginging 2 really like him. The last thi...

How do I approach the topic of LOVE with my boyfriend?

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21 November 2009 (F) - How do I approach the topic of 'love' with my bf? He hasnt said "I love you" and neither have I to him. We have been together about 8 months now and I think I do love him and want to say it to him but I am so afraid he wont feel the same way...

Will he ever give compliments?

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21 November 2009 (F) - I'm wanting to know why my husband doesnt tell me that I'm beautiful or give me any compliments for that matter? We have been together 5 years, married for 3 years and he still to this day doesnt make me feel like im special. I know he loves me, ...

Why does my boyfriend still want to talk with my ex knowing it bothers me?

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21 November 2009 (F) - My bf talks to my ex knowing it bothers me. I don't know why he's keeping in touch with him after trying to steal me away from him. My main problem is that I feel like garbage. Because my bf basically tries to give me away. Like if I was an object ...

I am so emotional and upset with every click of the mouse when he looks at other girls!

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21 November 2009 (F) - My bf looks at other girls in front of me and that makes me very sad and uncomfortable. He also browses for naked girls on the net... and constantly buys porn magazines and videos. It really bothers me! I have told him about it but it just seems ...

My friend is engaging in prostitution..should I tell someone so he will stop?

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21 November 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid This is really more a friendship question more than anything. One of my really close friends has recently been alluding to the possibility that he is prostituting himself to other men. (He is openly gay.)He makes jokes about it, and ha...

If I take my ex to court..can I get sole custody of my daughter?

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21 November 2009 (F) - my ex and i have been divorced for about 4years. our daughter is now 9. we have split custody but he hardly ever comes to see her, call her and hasnt got her annything for her bday xmas. Or helped with any of her school, personal expences, doctors, ...

My friend has gotten cynical and bitter! What can I do to help her?

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21 November 2009 (F) - My best friend has been acting very weird lately. She has just gotten back from being overseas through volunteer work and she seems very moody. She'll have these random outbursts. For example, tonight I was downloading something on her computer and ...

When my boyfriend is away I get used to feeling 'single'. Does this mean I don't love him?

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21 November 2009 (F) - Alright so my boyfriend and I have been together 11 months and 2 weeks. We have a sort of long distance relationship, but when he comes home he lives next door to me. But, ever since our relationship started after awhile i get over him being aw...

I work two jobs to pay for everything while my boyfriend has no time for me!

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21 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has changed so much since ive had 2 jobs. He is always busy and now seems so into himself. I had to get the 2nd job to pay for things. He is always busy if i have a night off, has already made plans and doesnt invite me. We live ...

Lately I've been paranoid about my long distance relationship

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21 November 2009 (F) - Lately, I've been really worried about my boyfriend. I feel like I have an unfounded fear... a couple of weeks ago I tried to break up with him and after I started talking to him I realized that he really does love me when previously I had been ...

My mate lied to me and it cost me my friends!

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21 November 2009 (M) - Hi, when i was 22 i bumped in to my old school friends and became good mates again like we were back at school, 2 years later i was still single and my mate jess promised me to set me up with her mate and she said her mate claire is interested in me ...

How can I learn to take a step back and 'chill' before I ruin it?

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21 November 2009 (F) - I've been single for 2 years.. I had 3 long term relationships and all have cheated on me. This has left me so insecure and when i meet someone i tend to be quite 'clingy'. I fall for that person quite easily, like i crave to be loved..:-(. I'm 35...

I don't know if I should back of and become strictly friends as we're having such a great time!

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20 November 2009 (F) - Ok here is the deal. I met this great guy but I made it clear from the beginning I was not interested in a relationship, which is totally true. It was fine since he has a girlfriend anyway. We became good friends, however we also knew from the ...

Is it right or wrong to tell your boyfriend that someone he thought was a friend said bad things about him before we got together?

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20 November 2009 (F) - Is it right or wrong to tell your boyfriend that someone he thought was a friend said bad things about him before we got together? Or does it just drag me to her level to tell? Background: This girl possibly had a thing for my boyfriend before we ...

I got my friend's wife pregnant, now he's coming home from military duty!!!

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20 November 2009 (M) - Ok, so i have a problem, I'm in a huge dilemna. I've been sleeping with my friends wife who is at the moment in iraq. (He's a soldier) he comes back in 1 week. They've only been married for about a year, right before he got deployed they got ...

Why would my boyfriend suddenly exclude me from his birthday plans?

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20 November 2009 (F) - i was wondering, last night was my boyfriend's birthday. We've been together almost 3 years on and off. Every year weve spent it together, last night he excluded me from hanging out at his local bar where ive been with him before and met his ...

I can't see a future with her, but I'm torn!

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20 November 2009 (M) - I started seeing this girl who I have known since high school but we have been out of touch for about 12 years. She is a single mother and from the beginning I didn’t feel ready for a committed relationship. But I always liked her and still decided ...

My girlfriend is worried about our future

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20 November 2009 (M) - I need help and i dont wat to do. My gf and i who ive been with for 4 and a half months and we both love eachother, are having a weird issue thats happened b4. We both go to the same school and hang out all the time, however recently, since the ...

Has anyone dealt with a passive aggressive man?

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20 November 2009 (F) - Has anyone dealt with and know what a Passive Aggressive man is? I am in the midst of a two year battle of divorce because he continues to lie and drag his feet to produce things needed for court etc. He says he is " praying for me". He lies ...

My mother is a compulsive hoarder!

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20 November 2009 (F) - My mother is a compulsive hoarder. She has been for as long as I can possibly remember, and once my father left it took over everything. I remember rushing to clean my house on my tenth birthday, so the friends I had invited over wouldn't see how ...

Have I lost him for good?

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20 November 2009 (F) - First I'm new to this site. I've been with my boyfriend for two years. Well would be two years in twelve days. Everything was perfect. he has a child with another women before we met. His daughter is two. In the first two months of our relationship ...

I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I'm not sure he feels the same way about me!

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20 November 2009 (F) - i have asked this questions,he doesn't want to marry a person who already have a child,is he using me until he finds someone for his life and i want to stop cheating but he dont satisfy me sexually.all this questions are from me and it speaks of ...

How do you forget the person you are in love with?

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20 November 2009 (M) - Hi to all. Anybody who can give some effective tips on how to forget a person whom you love so much that you can't live without him. I am waiting for your tips. Thank you....

Should I question him about this or leave it be?

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20 November 2009 (F) - Hi I would really like the aunts interpreration of this man. I'm in a relationship with a guy we are both around 60. we have great sex and enjoy it very much.but sometimes he doesn't cum like today he always tells me how beautiful the love making is ...

He doesn't show any emotions even though we are on a break! Do you think he loves me or is he just hiding his emotions to appear "manly"?

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20 November 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are on a break. I've been sad, but he doesn't feel any emotions at all. He's broken up with me at least four times, and each time he wasn't coming back. Each time he told me he doesn't love me anymore, but in the end, he come...

I'm jealous of his past! Will I always feel this way?

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20 November 2009 (F) - I grew up in a very religious home (no sex before marriage). I grew out of my religion, but my health kept me from having fun. I've met a great guy, (who i lost my virginity to at 23) but he has a lot of experience, with the pics to prove it. We've ...

Why is she always so mean to me?

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19 November 2009 (F) - I just started seventh grade, and some mean girls have started making fun of me. One of the girls lives by me so its really embarrassing. She's started telling people I'm a lesbian. She's also saying she's scared and that I ask her a lot of ...

Should we just be friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - I have this problem.I started dating a coworker when we started working together,he was just getting over a divorce.We had a relationship for two years and right before I go for a family visit he was telling me about his plans for us and talking ...

Has anybody taken a break and everything worked out in the end?

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19 November 2009 (F) - Ok so I'm 23 my bfs 25 we were dating for 4 months yet we have gone thru so much in so little time... yet he asked for space to make sure what he wants n to see if he's ready to make the next step which is marriage, yea sounds fast but we know each ...

The sum of al fears... My obsession with relationship (sexual) past.

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19 November 2009 (M) - I've been on this site, and a few others for a while. My question I guess is a combination of many questions, and I'm not totally sure where to begin. Let me start by saying that I love my girl. If I didn't then I wouldn't be worried about an...

Help needed!!! How can I improve my relationship with my in-laws?

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19 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I've just recently got married. My husband is Hispanic and comes from deep religious background. His parents are pastors. I am African American and I was raised by a single. We had talked about married when he proposed I said yes but he didn'...

He never does his fair share around the house!

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19 November 2009 (F) - My husband says he is not taking care of any chores because he has to work. When I tell him, that is not right and he needs to do something too around the house etc, he says you are bitching at me all the time, why would I spend time with you? He ...

Why doesn't someone gimme some lovin'?

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19 November 2009 (F) - ok guys. im really frustrated im a fine looking girl, everyone says im a nice, honest and a confident person who enjoys a laugh. (im 18). i havent had a boyfreind since i was 14. i have a lot of boys saying how nice i am and they end up te...