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Archived questions from: May, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Am I wasting my time or should I let it ride?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 167 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - I need someone's opinion who knows what's going on .... I am 20 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, Shane. He's 19. I do love him sincerely and care enough about him to spend the rest of my life with him, as naive as that ma...

It went wrong and I don't know how to fix it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Dear all, I do not know how to act on this situation, i did something that is extremely wrong for my love, 12 days ago he found out that it was me who did it and he has not talked to me since then, he blocks my calls and doesn't reply my msgs, i ...

Wife, lover or solitude?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 174 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - married. long time. beautiful home, animals, no kids. love her, really really do, just never developed much sexual chemistry, when that was something really important for both of us before we got married. felt lonely, sad. years later - last year - ...

She slept with my guy years ago and now wants to be my friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 169 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Okay, here goes..I have been with my boyfriend for almost 9 years. Three years ago we broke up for about 3 weeks..we were fighting a lot! He moved in with a friend and during this break up he slept with another girl, a girl we knew mutually (she is ...

He promised to quit smoking but its been 9 months..how can I not hate it!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - well here's the story.. i met him as a smoker.. i did not want to date him because of that but he insisted and insisted and insisted promising that he will quit if i gave him a chance..but he have been together now for 9 months now and he still ...

I think I'm trying too hard in the relationship

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Well, I'm dating this guy, I'm 16 he's 19. Everything was going great, he probably still thinks it is, but I have my own personal problems getting in the way. You see, I've never been in a relationship before, and he knows that, I had never kiss...

Should I try and find her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - a year ago when i was 15 i was in this one school and there was a girl who was a grade older than me and every now and then in school we just said hi to eachother. then one day i was on the bus that she was on and i went and sat next to her and we ...

Engaged, but I don't want to marry him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - i got engaged ...but now i dont want to marry him ..he is not the kind of husband i thought of...i want to marry my love means my boyfriend ...i cant tell my family about this nor my fiancee ...pls help me what should i can do now?...

Pregnant and struggling

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31 May 2009 (F) - I'm 31 years old. I've ben with my boyfriend just 5 months and I'm 9 weeks pregnant. Antibiotics interfered with the pill. I'm scared all the time, tired, sad. I think I love him but I want space. He wants to move in together. I am sometimes snappy ...

Is shyness making her like this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - am 19 years old just getting to 20 this year am cute too.there is a girl of about 15 years old just a neighbour to my friend. when my friend brought me to their house i saw this girl and she was some kind of shy looking at me, which caused her to ...

I don't know why he's sticking around!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Im so confused ive been seeing this guy for a month but i have a boyfriend he knows this, so we said we would do the friends thing, that was fine as we get on so well, then we ended up getting drunk went to a hotel had sex, he said he was very sorry ...

I have learning difficulties and feel incomplete, please advise!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Hello, I have lost the will to live, I am a 21 year old male. when I was born I was deprived of oxygen and as a result i developed learning disabilitys/difficulties. I have a very poor concentration span, and co-ordiniation problems. This really did ...

Lied about my age, will he still love me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 174 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, i met my boyfriend online 2 months ago. We got chatting and really hit it off, met a couple days later and we got along so well and fell for each other so bad that i didnt end up leaving and so now ive moved in with him. We've already been thr...

How could he just stop loving me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - iv been going out with my boyfriend for one year and 6 months. i went on holiday for 10 days and rang him a copoul of times and when i did he turned his fone off and stuff and was really nasty for no reason. i came home expecting him to be wait...

Falling in love with my sister

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 108 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - My sister and I seem to have feelings for each other. She has a boyfriend and I also have a girlfriend. I feel like I should tell her that we can submit our feelings to each other. Can I give a try incest and what it feels like?...

My anger slowly builds up and I lash out, help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Hey again everyone. I'm worried about myself, as from time to time, I get fairly angry over a lot of small things parcelled up into one, as I try to suppress the fact I'm angry. And I fear this may turn me into someone violent, when I'm actual...

He's with me now, was with her, now she wants him back, tried to seduce him, should I confront her or ignore it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - my bf's ex, who is also a friend of mine is unbelievable. i had gone out with him first, then she did, then he came back to me. we used to be really close but after she started going out with him the friendship just died from there. i was reluctant ...

Fatherless and always get attached

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, my parents got divorced when I was about five or six years old. My dad has been in and out of my life. It's been really hard growing up without a dad. I usually get to see my dad twice a month, but these past three months, I haven't seen him. I ...

Help me win her back!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Okay..... Me and my girlfriend of 1 year and 1 month love each other very much. But i recently made a huge mistake. At my graduation they was a group of people who dont like my girlfriend. And i hung out with my girlfriend the entire night, but i ...

My husband and I separated, having an affiar, feelings growing, but he also has a long distance girlfriend, am I asking for trouble?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I am recently separated from my husband of 4 years. I dont feel anything for him anymore because he was controling and abusive and did alot of things behind my back that hurt. A couple weeks ago I started a fling with a coworker who I've always ...

He has a past that I am having a problem dealing with now, how do I get past it, he has tried to change?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Okay So.. I guess I have a problem.. A major problem. I've been with my "fiance" for A year and 9 months. Truthfully, I should have stayed away from him in the beginning. Let's just say he was the popular boy in high school who went to parties, ...

Affair with married co-worker, ended it, he will not let me go, obsessive to a fault, what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 174 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I have broken off an emotional affair with this guy that we had a relationship two years. i work with him and its hard but i have learned that your can cure it but you can manage the pain of a broken heart. Now he is hysterical. he always wants to ...

Created a disaster, by agreeing to move in with her and her kids, how do I end it peacefully?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Hey folks, thanks for reading. A bit(okay, a lot) of background: My girlfriend and I have been together for a little more than a year, and she has two kids from previous relationships. When we first got together she was living in a very tiny apar...

My girlfriend has nightmares constantly, could she be repressing something, should she see a doctor or what?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 168 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Hi guys, My girlfriend is having nightmares that are really interrupting her (our!) sleep. They seem to occur just as she's drifting off, and they vary in intensity. She'll suddenly have a start and wake up, sometimes she's tossing and turning,...

I have been finding someone else's thongs in my guy's clothing. we physically fight over this, what should I do about this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, can anyone giv me abit of friendly advice B4 i loose the plot completely, Me n my chap hav bin togetha 10yrs and up untill 3yrs ago i thought i was the luckiest girl about. my chap was everythin to me and my 14yr old son until on my b'day wen we ...

Engaged but, he doesn't work, smokes weed all the time, plays video games and I'm tired, any suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - i dont know what to do thats y im asking for help. i been with my boyfriend/fiancee for 2 yrs, the reason y i put the slash fiancee is cause im engaged to him but i feel like our relationship is going no where, im 24 he is 25 he has a daughter from ...

We broke up, I got over him, and now I have to do it all over again!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm writing this after a terrible night. I was out with my ex-boyfriend last night and needless to say we both had a few drinks. I said something, he got angry and pushed me, then kicked me in the knee to the sidewalk. He kept walking to ...

Do I let her keep playing games or should I break contact by being silent?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (M) - Hello, I am 29. My ex-fiance is now 30. We got engaged a little over a year ago. Heres my situation. She is a massage therapist. About a month ago, she had a client (this is what she called him) that came in and she was doing some healing work ...

I'm about to kick out my 17 year old son

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

31 May 2009 (F) - I am about to kick out my 17 year old son. I am a single parent of 3. I teach and my older son has me in a depressed state every so often. I earn good money and own two houses. Second house that we live in needs attention. I want to do it qu...

How do I get rid of this guy before my bf gets out of jail?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 174 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - The guy i've been friends with really wants to have sex with which is my weakness but i have already told him i dont wanna have sex with him. I've tried ignore his calls and avoid him. Some how he always finds me. When my boyfriend gets out of jail, ...

Is he just afraid of committment or does he only want sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Ok so I've gotten into a real mess recently because I've fallen in love with my ex boyfriends best friend. We have been friends for over four years, and about 8 months ago finally took our friendship to the next level after I had broken up with my ...

I made about every mistake possible! Can I save this relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - I met the woman of my dreams and turned something special into a mess. I admit not only is she the first woman I've ever been in love with, but the first I've ever even gone out with. We just seemed so perfect together. Yet looking back I r...

Did I give him too much space..has he lost interest??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Hi, me and my boyfriend (both 19) have been together nearly 5 years now, we're engaged and are usually fine but lately he's been talking and acting like he wants a different 'path of life' to go down. We're usually the typically 'cute couple' who ...

I need insight as to why my life is like this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Why is my life this way? Hi! I must admit I have never really been lucky in love although I am quite good looking with a decent enough figure. To start with I didn't want to lose my virginity until I was 30 and then the guy turned out to be a wrong ...

In love, yet we can't seem to make it work, due to clashes!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of two years have had our ups and downs. Everytime things go well in our individual lives [ie: get out of debt, decide to quit bad habits] we work so well together, and I can see a definite future for us. The problem is, when we are ...

Dad wants me to be a nurse..I don't want that! How can I get him off my back over this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - i need some help, i posted on here before about this but here i go again!! I am 20, a student nurse in 1st year at uni and i donot want to do this any longer. i don't know why, i just don't want to continue to do this, or be a nurse, which is making ...

I can't trust my husband

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I've recently accessed my husbands Facebook account. I'm stunned, hurt, betrayed and angry! I found letters to and from his ex-girlfriend he found on facebook talking about how much he's thought of her over the years and how much he thinks of her ...

Am I right to trust him again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 172 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - long story short, my boyfriend and i had been going out, my best friend was always very 'friendly' with him and caused a lot of problems, after we broke up they both snuck around behind my back and it didnt last long. she told me it was because she ...

Should I ignore him eyeing up other women?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I have a new partner, every time we are out, i notice him ogling other women who are younger, and thinner. He says he finds me gorgeous and attractive. So why does he do it? last night he spent all evening eyeing up women, and practically...

Should I keep trying for the guy I love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 175 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - i was recently dumped by the one guy i have ever felt safe with. once he dumped me i was really upset and he'd done it by text. he had complained that i had hurt him, and i know that i did and i really didn't mean to. after a week we made up and ...

Does he really want me or her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I have a friend who lives long distance. When he moves to my town he always breaks up with his girlfriend to date me, but when he moves home he gets back together with her. He hasn't told me about her but he is from a very small town so I hear about ...

Should I stay or should I go? What to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for the past 4 years and our relationship has a very rocky road. After dating for 2 years he asked me to married him without a ring but I a not a material girl so that did not affect me. We have never lived together ...

I still don't know if he was really into me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 174 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. A bit of an update on the "Angry, hurt and confused..." story I posted earlier this week. The guy had initiated contact via facebook the other night when we were both online, but we spoke briefly and about day to day stuff. I mis...

Am I controlling and difficult to live with?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 177 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - Am I controlling? I have already asked one basic question about my relationship and have had some good responses that have been helpful. I want to ask something more specific now on the subject of control. I want to know if you out there feel tha...

He can go two weeks without talking or texting me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 175 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Hey people. I need your advice. I was in a 2 year long distance relationship with my boyfriend. But since this year started we have been fighting alot. Once he got problems he would not want to talk to me.Few months he changed completely it became ...

Should I pretend that I am only interested in friendship with her and see what happens?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - Where to start I wonder? I am a 39 year old male who was dating a wonderful 33 year old woman for around 5 months last year. We had so much in common and spent a lot of time together. We travelled a lot and were making plans to move in before ...

Fiance cheated, I cheated, and now I have feelings for another man

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 177 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - ok, ive been dating this man for over 2 years we got engaged at the begining of this year. he cheated on me with at least 4 women that i know about, he got 1 pregnant and now has a daughter about to turn 1. he made a complete change and is faithful ...

Does he love me or should I end it?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 176 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - I'm a little lost as to just what this man wants,well for starters he is married and we have been having an affair for many years, but he is in a very high profile job and he sometimes has to work 70hours a week so we don't get to see a lot of each ...

Confused about my feelings for him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 178 days ago

30 May 2009 (F) - Alright so I started going to a new church a little over a month ago and I made friends with a lot of people there. There's this one guy that I got along with very well, we have a lot in common and he's like the male version of me. We like the same ...

She wants a break

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 178 days ago

30 May 2009 (M) - Ok so here's the rub, I'm a male 6 - 7 years older than his ...girlfriend? It's complicated. She recently decided that she wanted to take a break from the relationship because she constantly feels like a bad person due to the fact I'm making most ...