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Archived questions from: January, 2013 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

On the Fence about My Relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - This is an unusual back story which I will try to sum up, and I would appreciate suggestions on how to change my perception. Relationship: Lesbian Couple (both bisexual) Ages: Me (late 20's), her (early 30's) Looks: We are both attractive ...

I'm afraid I'm going to lose my friends at home because they think my priorities are not straight.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - I'm in quite a predicament. I'm a student and I don't have a lot of money to spend. I live away from home and I don't have many friends in the city besides from college friends. I go out with these college friends once and sometimes twice a week for ...

I feel as if I go out of my way for everyone and no-one can be bothered when it comes to me.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3762 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - Its' my birthday today. A milestone. A special one. I've had a tear in my eye most of the day – not because I have reached 40 but because I feel so let down and now I'm feeling that maybe I'm being unreasonable, selfish and ungrateful. Situat...

Help me escape my emotionally abusive father

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - Hello all, I live with my father and I'm eighteen. I suffer with incredibly bad anxiety and depression caused by both of my parents and my long term ex boyfriend (we were together for four years) which renders me completely non-independant ...

Boyfriend in love with his ex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - Hello, I got back with my ex of 6 months January, after finding out that he had never broken up with his ex of two years. He felt really guilty and kept saying how sorry he was. He was being really lovely and paying me lots of attention. Everythi...

Engaged but not ready to marry

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - I have been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We are engaged with no set date. I know he loves me and I don't want to throw away a loving relationship for no reason, but I don't think my feelings for him are very deep. I'm worried if ...

Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy and unorganised ?. My boyfriend is lovely. He treats me very well, but one thing i don't like is that his house is a mess a lot of the time and unorganised. He doesnt have a bed. He has ...

How can I help my husband have better communication skills?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4091 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - I post this question if anione know of any service s that help with communication skills. My husband is a very nice man, and most of the time we get alone. The way he communicates with people around him and his customers needs improvement. He is a ...

Over 3 years of dating we have lost alot of intimacy. Why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

31 January 2013 (M) - So I have been with my girlfriend for a little over three years and she has lost alot of intimacy. I will be happy if we can steady have sex once a week but she always has am excuse. I find myself bagging for it and that's pathetic. What I'm asking ...

I married at 20. Now I've fallen for a colleague. He has a Gf. Is my colleague playing mind games with me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4082 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - Hi all. I 30 years old and I am madly in love with my colleague and we are having an affair. When we met it was a moment where I took one look at him and felt electric heart-pounding it felt like I knew him already. We hit it off immediately but ...

I'm worried that my Bf is getting tired of me. He's even said he does not feel he "needs" to see me. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4091 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - I have been really worried about my relationship lately, and really need some advice. I'm worried my boyfriend is getting tired of me, or if this is just normal for a relationship as it goes along? I don't know what to do. help please! I'll try...

Should I apologize for saying that his friendship with this other woman makes me uncomfortable?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

31 January 2013 (F) - Dear Aunts and Uncles, please advise: My guy has a married girl friend who is flying in to his city for a week, without her husband, just to hang out with my guy because she “misses him”. I don’t live with my guy yet, though we’ve been together fo...

How can I live more comfortably in this flat living with the kind of people I live with?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Helloo, I'm having a problem that causes me a lot of stress and would appreciate advice on how to handle it. Please bear with me as I've just come out of a 'chat' which involves the problem. Thank you. At the moment, I'm living in a flat with my...

Feeling unfair in a first relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Im having my first relationship ever at age 22 but my boyfriend (who is 23) had a long relationship before me which lasted about 5 years and the reason they broke up was because the girl broke it off, not him. We have been dating for about 3 mont...

Is her behavior normal? I feel like I'm being insensitive but at the same time I think she needs to help herself.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

30 January 2013 (M) - I guess I want to get people’s views on my breakup. I met this girl two weeks after a painful breakup. We connected and it just felt right, maybe all a bit too good. We dated for a while, and she told me she loved me after two weeks. She seem...

An old coworker flirted with me and now I'm confused about my fiancée.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - currently engaged to "M" for 6 yrs. then a few mos ago i ran into co-worker "L" who i used to work with/flirted with (before i connected with "M"). i point out fiance "M" to "L" and "L" leans in and says "does your fiance know how lucky he is?" and ...

Boyfriend can't keep it up and I'm ready to walk!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We came across a sex problem after about 6 mths. The problem was, he couldn't stay hard and we got into an about that aftet it happened several times cuz I was left hanging. Now, it...

Do I need a friend like this? How do I drop her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Friendship dilema. Hi. I have been friends with a couple of girls for 20 years. They are mostly fun to be with - but one is a bit more cheeky, gobby and rowdy than the other. When we are out she always think she knows it all, tries to show yo...

Why do I feel so depressed after he made an offer to let me watch him have sex with his future girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, before anyone jumps in and bash me for being immature and naive and stupid, I do hope you can understand that I only came here and ask for your help because I'm desperate and don't know where to go to so please try to be ...

What should I do? Call it quits until he gets his stuff together or tough it out a little longer?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 2 months. I've known him 9 months before actually making it official. Anyways at this time he's currently jobless and Car less . He has been applying for any kinda of job yet nothing has come up. He ...

Is this a normal cooling off period or silent treatment/emotional abuse/manipulation?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - I have been dating a man for just over a year. We broke up at one point for three months because he got cold feet about the relationship. (He’s been divorced for a number of years and hasn’t had a committed relationship in that time, only dated ...

What to do with flakey friends? When she has a guy she ignores me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - One of my good friends from highschool tends to ignore me when ever a guy pays attention to her. When things end I am the first person she calls when she is sad. I am sick and tired or being put on the back Burner the minute a guy shows her inte...

Cheating:( How do guys keep their girlfriend from cheating?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

30 January 2013 (M) - How do you keep your girl from cheating? Please i am asking for a range of different answers, so please give me your opinion on whats the best way to keep a partner faithful, or atleast, what actions can a guy do, to keep her girl from seeking ...

Did I over-react? I thought we had a connection. Maybe not? I feel he's messing with my mind!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4093 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Hello I just wanted some views on my situation. I met a guy on holiday and we kept in touch. I went back to visit him and we spent lots of time together. I met his family and his friends again. When we were apart we always have arguments ov...

What can I do to make it easier for us both to adjust to living together? He struggles with dealing with my 3 year old daughter and I think I'm pregnant again.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

30 January 2013 (F) - Hi everyone i recently moved in with my boyfriend and I am finding it extremely hard work. He is very argumentative. The least little thing i do sets him off. He is always having a go at me i feel like im walking on eggshells all of the time. W...

Hate my toxic work place, where cheating is the norm. How can people cheat and not feel guilty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4097 days ago

29 January 2013 (M) - I am really hating my workplace at the moment I feel that its really poisoness. Everyone seems to be cheating on everyone else and I am the only who seems to think its disgusting. One girl at work was giving me all this relationship advice with my ...

He's 24. I told him I was 18. How can I tell him the truth that I'm 17 and not lose him when I do tell?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4091 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Hello, I'm 17 years old and iv met a guy and we have been seeing each other for about a month and we really like each other. However, I told him I was 18 as we met in a bar that I got into. He's 24. I want to tell him that I'm actually 17,...

Never violent, nor unfaithful. But we did horrible things to each other. Yet I love her still. How can I get over her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

29 January 2013 (M) - I was with the most amazing woman in the world! The time we spent together was the most amazing time I have spent with anyone. We got each other on every level. Mentally and physically! When things were good they were the best they have ever bee...

Bestfriend is depressed and I am tired of being the rock.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Me and my best friend Lucy have been best friends for almost 3 years, we do lots of things together, have classes together and hang out all the time. She's always been quite high maintenance, she's very insecure and makes up for this by acting ...

My girlfriend does not know if she would marry me, but ultimately wants to be married.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

29 January 2013 (M) - I started dating my girlfriend back in 2010, and for me it became love at first sight. She felt the same and then we started the relationship and everything was perfect. I will admit, I was not the most emotional person and I tend to express my ...

Why did my B/f have three naked pictures of the same girl on his phone?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4097 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - I have been with my partner nearly two years now, he has never been the type to admire any other girls ever.. he got a new phone and when he had it I said would you like some pictures of me to get off to when I'm not around he refused and said he ...

My ex is threatening me by saying that unless I get back with him, he will assassinate my character and ruin me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4097 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - i am from India..i am in a major trouble. i broke up with my boyfriend because he was so manipulative and controlling. he made my life like hell.In the initial days of our relationship i gave him my gmail and facebook password.Not even in my dr...

Escape from this narcissistic lover

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3883 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - My lover is a Narcissist but perhaps this is it.. First off all I am going to post a link so you can see what has been happening http://www.dearcupid.org/question/jeky...

Your thoughts on this? He's verbally abusive, spends time online gaming and watching porn. Have to ask him for his % share of bills. Is this relationship working or is there an answer?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4097 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - hey guys i am writing this because i am at the end of tether with this man who is supposed to be my husband. We have been married for 4 years and it was long distance. I moved to the US about a year ago and since coming here my relations...

Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4097 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Should I remain a friend to my ex, or should I leave him alone? BACKGROUND: My ex-boyfriend and I dated for three years in university then broke up. Before we split up we never fought. We are both down-to-earth and had only dated one...

Any tips to help me get over this and move on? I am about to break up with him. He's happy I'm leaving. His teenage children rule the house. He refuses to back me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4097 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Hi, I won't make this too long but would really appreciate some of your views. My partner has asked me to move out of his house. We have been together 5 years and i moved in 3 1/2 years ago away from all my family and friends. He has 2 kids tha...

Is my Bf bi-sexual or gay? He says he's shared oral sex with guys. Do I seem to have a closed mind?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of 3 months recently told me that has fooled around with men before. He hasn't had sex with them, just oral. I wasn't ok with this when he told me and I am having a really hard time with it. A lot of people tell me that if a guys e...

Am I over-reacting? Should he have left me alone? Was I right to refuse to go to a place where I'd be the only woman?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - So here's my story. I'm visiting my fiance where he stays due to work. Yesterday he wanted us to go watch soccer at his friend's place (actually home boy), I refused to go because I don't know his friend's friends and I was going to be the ...

Everything things my guy and I have the perfect relationship. But I feel confused and I'm thinking of breaking up or cheating. I already talk online to a guy. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4096 days ago

29 January 2013 (M) - Hey, sorry for being dramatic about this but I didn't know where else to go for help, thanks for reading. I've been with my boyfriend since 2009, and he is 3 years older than me. I came out when we started dating, and it was hard, very difficult w...

Married four years and she does not want to work. I'm ready to walk. What would you advise?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4083 days ago

29 January 2013 (M) - Hi I have a question we been Married four years. Before that she was working. Now she feels she doesn't have to work. I talk to her about getting a job. She won’t do it, and I'm tired of doing it all. He is no help. Instead she wants me to do a lot...

What to do? He's abusive to me and humiliates me. I've lost confidence in myself, and in him, because he shares everything about us with his friends

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - Hi, I just want know what to do with a boyfriend that listens to his friends advices for almost everything. When we planned to buy a house he took all the documents about what was happening.and talked to his friends. He has been abusive to me an...

My boyfriend watches an inordinate amount of porn.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

29 January 2013 (F) - I feel like this is a question that's been asked over and over again, and will probably be asked again many times in the future. My boyfriend watches an inordinate amount of porn. He's 22. While the fact that he's watching porn seriously bugs me,...

Trying to make my marriage blossom, but I can't last 5 minutes without thinking about my lover

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - Married for 23yrs I met the love of my life who has been married 24yrs. We had an undeniable connection, and made love 24hrs after meeting. His first time and my first, since our weddings. We live in different states. I returned home and ...

Does she have the right to ignore me like we were strangers even though I pushed her away and ignored her because I was scared of a relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4098 days ago

28 January 2013 (M) - There was this girl who I had been seeing for quite a while, but I felt it was getting too serious for my liking, we were growing a lot closer far too quick and I knew it wasn't what I wanted. Because I'm not a relationship person, i'd be a terrible ...

My best friend who is like a brother to me admitted that he's gay and attracted to me. I am now avoiding him because I don't know how to handle this

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4083 days ago

28 January 2013 (M) - I’m a man in my early thirties and right now I have a complicated situation in my life. My best friend confessed to me that he’s gay. We know each other for almost 25 years and he’s like a brother to me. We grew up together, we went in the same ...

I don't understand why my friend suddenly went quiet!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4098 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - This will sound a little silly coming from an adult but... one of my friends is being a little strange and I just don't know why. We have been friends for three years now and have become pretty close in that time. We are both married, so the usual ...

I love him to no end, I would do or give anything for him, I can't move on but it's tearing me apart!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4097 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - 1 year and 9 months ago me and my boyfriend broke up and he refused to speak to me afterward even though he said we could still be friends. although we never spoke i could never get over him and a year and 2 months after we broke up he started ...

Everything was fine until my first love put a hold on our relationship, what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4097 days ago

28 January 2013 (M) - Everything was fine until my first love put a hold on our relationship, what do I do? I've been with my girlfriend for just over one year, and it's my first serious relationship that I've been in however I now need some advice. We're both from ...

My boyfriend doesn't talk to me and threatens to leave me if I don't stop nagging him!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4098 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - Hi My bf of 3 years always ignores me, he doesn't even talk for 10 minutes with me but has time for his friends and for watching TV and playing games. Whenever I ask he says I'm nagging him and if this continues he is gonna leave me. He doesn't eve...

Should I give up at the last hurdle of 5 year long distance relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4098 days ago

28 January 2013 (F) - I have no idea what to do with myself. We live in different countries in Europe. When we first met nearly 6 years ago, he promised me [m24] he would be there with me after we finished university/college. At one point I just wanted to dump it all a...