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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Question from a forum. What is my fault? I just want my money back from him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Copied from the forum pages - not from me personally! Question to all males: My boyfriend always tells me that he has never met any female who has the kindest, most white heart he has known as me. (I am the only woman he seriously dated) ...

I thought he was a player, so why is he obsessing over me??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for almost 2 months, on and off. it seemed like it was going nowhere, so I slept with this other guy I had just met not that long ago. He knew I was already seeing someone and He's kind of a player so I assumed he knew ...

He hasn't approached me for sex in a year, what's the problem?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I am really concerned about the lack of a sex life between my partner and I. We have been together for 2 years and are both in our early/mid thirties. We've only managed to have full penetrative sex twice since the start of the relationship as I ...

I broke up with the guy I had for the guy I wanted but he dosen't want me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - hi, i am phoebe and i am 17 years old. i was recently in a horrible love triangle and i haven't recovered yet. my friend set me up with this guy and he absolutely fell head-over-heals for me. but i didn't like him back. he was too sexual when he ...

Cheating, Love, and Hate.. I don't know what to do!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Me and this girl have been friends for a while and her boyfriend and I have been friends for even longer. I am talking many years and I would consider him my best friend. Anyway one day she starts to touch my arm so I start to do it back. This es...

Please help me cope with this shame..

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - i have a great girlfriend, i love her to the point of dying, though i have done something stupid, as i sit here i wonder what all of you will think of this but i really use feed back as a way to cope with everything. so me, my girlfriend who i...

He deleted his Facebook because of me!?!?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - hey thanks so much for this im really struggling with something... alright, I met this guy on facebook a few months back commenting on my friends status and we added eachother and we hit it off as good friends you know? He is a famous pro wre...

I truly love this guy and I cannot believe it has come to this. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Oh God, someone help me. So me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up a month ago and I was devastated. In the month though we have been in constant contact, initiated by him. He even told people we were back together. This guy told me I was his ...

Would you let go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi, i have been in a relationship for 5 years, he was my first everything and now i just dont know what to do, he doesnt seem to care anymore, this past week when i didnt call him it was 4 days till we talked, apparently according to him thats ...

Who should initiate things again when we are both afraid of the relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - He was deeply hurt by something he thought I caused. Time has passed and now he knows I did not cause the action. We talked about it and he has overcome this and sees he was wrong. But his reaction caused me extreme hurt and I mean extreme and he ...

Should I stay with my bf in this circle of revenge?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. So I've been going out with my boyfriend for just a little over 10 months now. We have had two major problems throughout our relationship, otherwise everything has been great. In about the third month of our relationship he started to ...

I'm dying with guilt! I feel like I cheated...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Ok this is kind pf complicated but ill try my best to put it in writing ….I was in a long distance relationship and we were totally in love .We meet and after a past abusive relationship I never thought id ever feel for some1 like I did now. His ...

I love him amd know he can be a better man, but his past demons creep into our lives

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship for just over two years. The man I am dating has had financial problems from the very beginning. Of course I have helped him out but this has put a strain on our relationship. IN addition to this he has also lied to me ...

What words do I use to not hurt her feelings, but to say that it's best that I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - My ex asked me to write to her and I did, but now I regret it because I still have feelings for her, which I thought I was over and I had moved on in my life. She's been in a long term relationship and I've been alone for many years. I don't know ...

I want my ex back, but I don't know if he wants me. Should I wait and see if he calls?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 110 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I can't understand this. In the past with my ex I was always the one to go running back and get him to talk about what happened and it worked. But this time I am waiting on him. We had a great time the other night but it has been a few days and ...

I try to break up with him when he's mean, but then he goes back to normal again. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Why can't I make up my mind? I've been with my boyfriend for two years. Lately he's been acting weird- he's acting rude and careless towards me. So when he's like this I get so mad and I prepare myself to break it off. When I go to do this though, ...

Betrayed by the one I love most in this world! I need some advice :(

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 107 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Hello everyone, I feel used and betrayed ;_; I met this girl at work about a month ago and we got on like a house on fire; we have soooo many similarities it's like we're made for each other! Anyway, it's only been recently that I have st...

He keeps on running away from me but I know he still loves me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 111 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - im a 18 yrs old girl..i have problems with my bf.okay....here's the story....my bf was being trapped by his own cousin, his cousin smashed his car windows and until now i don't even know what is the exact reason. This happens in a sudden and he ...

My boyfriend is forcing me into something I don't believe in!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 114 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I'm a bisexual female in an open relationship with a man. He is currently dating another woman and myself. We are all aware of each other and have even become friends, but not intimate at the same time. I went away to college, and the two decided ...

Am I being unreasonable and does this guy deserve another chance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Here's the story. Eight months ago, I met a guy online. We were instantly attracted to each other, met up and quickly fell in love. We met during the Christmas holidays, but I was working abroad at the time. I eventually had to go back to work, but ...

He did not reply to my last text and am now very worried, but I don't want to loose him...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - my three months boyfriend has started to make me wonder, i text him asking if there was a problem coz the last time we chatted he acted strange in the sense that usually he used to call me baby, honey , sweetheart and stuff like that but that last ...

I told my friend how I felt and now he has ended the friendship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - i had a male friend of six years and fell in love with him and i told him this, he has now ended the friendship. What should i do?...

I'm scared to leave in fear of living alone in a tiny rented flat for the rest of my life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I'm 35 and in a bit of an emotional mess. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend/partner for 10 years and while she seems happy, I'm not. She is 10 years older than I and this has never been a problem (and suits me as I don't want ...

She's up late at night doing who knows what? Is this a sign she is cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - My gf says am not payin her any attention and that one day i would regret it...now ever since we met i have been there for her emotinally and all the rest of it and lately i've realised that she 's up late at nights doing god knows what. dear read...

How can I make my girlfriend fall in live with me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 107 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - out relationship is just three months old and she is scared because she thinks i dont love her and i would dump her when i finished my schooling. i have tryed to make her to understand that i wouldnt leave her, but she just made up her mind on the ...

Am I doing something wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been seening each other now for a year and two months. this whole month of july him and i just argue, fight, not speak to each other and all that, and its starting to become a daily thing. why is that? am i doinq something ...

Did my girlfiend cheat, or was she raped?

This question has 71 answers - newest was posted 111 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - I feel so silly for even asking this on the Internet, but I just need to get some opinions. First of all, I'm 18, and this is my first girlfriend. She is 15. We've been dating for 10 months now. In the 2nd month of dating, we broke up for 2 days, ...

We were so close and helping each other with our problems, but then our feelings for each other got in the way!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 113 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - ok so long story. and yes i have problems.. feels like i cant do anything right lately.. i had a close friend who just got out of a 2 year relationship and then i just got out of my 2 month relationship.. and before that my 1 eyar relationship.. and ...

My boyfriend always seems to drop his plans with me to see his friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I had made plans to hang out with my boyfriend and a day later he made plans to go golfing with his friends instead. when i asked him about it, he says he forgot. he's done this before. and both ended with him dropping our plans and hanging out with ...

Relationship stuck in neutral!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 103 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years,and i feel like he is still in love with his ex.They were just going threw the divorce when we began dating but still he keeps their wedding photo in the drawer next to the bed,he's kept all their ...

So confused, sick and tired of my relationship!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I'm really starting to get sick and tired of my relationship. I have been involved with this guy for three yrs. I love him dearly , but I have a trust issue with him and I am trying hard to get over the fact that he has lied to me in the past. When ...

I don't know whether to carry on and to hope that I'll feel like I did, or to let him go.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Basically, to try and cut a long story short.. I was in an abusive relationship for 11 months, i got cheated on and there were kids behind my back etc.. And at 16, getting knocked out by your 'loving boyfriend' was pretty horrible :( as i finally ...

Just want him in my life...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - We started seeing each other a year and a half ago. We have never been committed, and we have done a lot of terrible things to each other. I love him. I was finally moving on (because he started being really horrible to me) and seeing another g...

I feel hopeless... Is he ever going to stand up for me? Should I leave and try to find a new life without him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I feel hopeless, violated and disrespected I have been with the same man for over 7 years, also we love each other very much, of late it seems like nothing is happening. We have some problems, but three of the most prominent are the constant int...

Living through a nightmare with her family! I'm scared for her and for my family!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Until October last year I was living with my fiancé and our 2 little boys aged 3 and 1 but the oldest child has special needs and also he isn't my biological son but I treat him no different, love him as if he was my own and there isn't a day that ...

I'm just not comfortable with her going out and drinking with a bunch of single guys!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Me and my girl friend have been together for almost 3 years. Everything was great til about 2 months ago when she said she wanted to go out and party and get drunk and go downtown with her friend. We have never been the couple to do all that. So it ...

How do I confront my partner about his cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my partner for over 7 yrs. He has cheated on me once, early in the relationship when it was not 'exclusive' but it hurt me a lot. About 6 months after that I went through his phone and found lots of intimate messages between him and ...

Her daughter is standing in the way of us taking it to the next level!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Need opinions please. I’m a 47yr old male in great 3.5yr relationship with 50yr woman. The woman lives with her 27yr old daughter and I do not. The daughter smokes pot daily (moms more of a friend than a mom) has dead end job, never has had a car ...

How can I stop liking someone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - how do you stop liking someone? Because I cant stop liking this guy and its getting on my nerves because I know what he's like and he can be nasty....

Do I have a good reason to be angry?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I hace been talking to a guy for 2 weeks now and he has a gf. I didnt know that for a while but then when i found out i was furious. I know we arent together but he says hes comfortable in this relaionship and doesnt like the girl shes been pushing ...

We stayed together after her affair, but she's not happy!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 100 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - My wife had an affair last year. We are still together as I was desperate to keep things together. The thing is, she doesn't seem very happy. I'm certain she's not seeing this chap anymore but she seems so miserable all the time and cry's whenev...

All I want is to find a girl and develop a relationship like most normal people!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hi everyone. Just looking for some advice. I am 23 years old and i seem to be having a real problem with finding girls. When i was youner i was often described as a "player" and often messed girls around. I then found a girl who was perfect for me. ...

How do I show my girlfriend I love her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend 3 yrs and she recently asked if i loved her. i was quite angered by this as she knows i do. what things should i be doing to let her know how much i love her other than the occasional flowers, chocolates etc?...

Ways to deal with my aggressive mother...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I'm bisexual and have been in a relationship with a guy for eight months now. I spend weekends at his, and make up excuses to my parents who are conservative and petrified/repulsed by homosexuals. To the point that any defence of homosexuality is ...

How do I avoid this feeling of anger?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - hi i'm afraid that my boyfriend doesn't appereciate me enough,he doesn't communicate enough and i'm afraid that i also get angry too fast...how do i avoid this feeling of anger?...

Is there a way I can completely get over him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi - I need help in getting over this guy. I have had an on and off crush on him for ages. Some of the time I feel like he's amazing and would so be the right person for me - but then other times he just infuriates me (he doesn't deliberately do ...

We had a great relationship until he said that I wasn't the one he would marry.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for about a year and a half...its actually been a year and four months. Anyways we were doing great... everyting was perfect but I had a bad feeling and when we were drunk I asked ...

I fell in love with my bestfriends girl, now what?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 106 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Me and this girl have been friends for a while and her boyfriend and I have been friends for even longer. I am talking many years and I would consider him my best friend. Anyway one day she starts to touch my arm so I start to do it back. This es...

I turned him down and now he's threatening me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 115 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I met this guy recently who i thought i could be good friends with. i thought he was nice at the time but when i told him i didn't want to date him after he asked me to go out with him he changed. He started saying things like he was looking for sex ...

He says he flirts with other girls to feel better about himself, could this be true?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 116 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Ok, guys i been with my mate for a few years now. like more than 4. Lately he will do anything to get another female attention, or like he need some type of validation from another female. He recently admitted to me that he have low self esteem and ...