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writes:Hi everyone. I dont know whether im being pathetic but this is just the way i feel. I'll start by telling you how old me n my partner are as i feel at this age i shouldnt be having these problems. im 23 and partner 24 and we av bin togetheer for 2 years well ....basically i am a lil selfconscious due to things being said to me in the past (although i think i have changed a lot and feel a lil better bout myself sometimes) also i have polands syndrome which knocks me majorly..i have had surgery but since i have been breastfeedin the size difference in my breasts is really noticeable. Also,,after having my baby 11 weeks ago im a bit down about my body,,,im not fat but i dont have the body i used to have. So...the problem is i think my boyfriend is not that into me. sex is a problem, we dont really have time because of baby but we find the time as i feel it is important in a relationship and i understand a mans need for sex...but although we dont have sex as much aswe used to... i always suggest "some adult time" together..and on a couple of occasions he has made excuses..and it upset me a lil as i have never ever been turned down...i thought every man would jump at the idea of sex. Also, just to keep a lil fun and passion in the relationship, I suggested that he liked some melted chocolate off my cleavage after HE smeared it on me.... again he made excuses not to "im full" again...i thought he would have jumpd at the chance. i tried talking to him about it but he just said i was been stupid an d after that i feel like when we do have sex its sometimes so i dont go on at him or that he simply needs to "empty his balls". Another thing..he is always swapping sexy pictures and videos on his phone with his mates ..which i just think ok...hes just trying to look good in front of his mates. now i havediscovered that he has been watching porn on the computer behind my back. i dont understand y he has to do that when he has me...n if its because he dont get enough action....Why turn me down? I've confronted him about this but he has denied it even though I know he has as it was on our history and it wasn't me. I feel really... I dunno... ugly i suppose as i feel he'd rather look at other women. Another thing, when i was pregnant, I found out he spent approx £200 on a night out, some of which in a strip club... he told me he oonly paid £10 for one dance but where did the other £190 go??? he tried denying that too... but what really hurt me was that he came home that night wanting sex. with me... after another women had turned him on. Please give me your opinion, it's killing me. p.s I don't "think" he's cheating, I just think he's not into me and maybe just with me for babyxxx
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (18 September 2009):
 Well sex is part of a healthy relationship....but you shouldnt have sex just because you say a man has needs...soo do you as a women...you should be made to feel sexy and attractive as his girlfriend and mother of his child....it might be because having a baby is hard work so you get tired etc....but paying money for a stripclub when it should be spent on you and your baby.....talk to him tell him how low your feeling....also why dont you do date night....not sexy time but go cinema go for a nice meal were you both can relax and chat alone!
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