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Archived questions from: January, 2017 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My husband can't see the problems with his ex wife ...

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2631 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - My husband and his ex have not spoken in years because of all the trouble she caused at the beginning of our relationship. She called begging him to come sleep with her, she kept asking to come over claiming she needed closure (she was the one who ...

Will I ever move on, get over everything and meet someone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - Hello everyone, I hope you're all well. So basically I feel and think that I will seriously never meet anyone who I feel a close connection and chemistry with. A few years ago was the worst time of my life. I had no confidence and was very u...

Is it possible to tell him everything and stay friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2637 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - Hi. I'm hurting and would appreciate a third person's opinion. I've had feelings for a friend for last 2.5 years. They kept getting intense with time but he lives in a different city so I never acted upon my feelings. We used to flirt back and fort...

He says he chose to watch porn when he was missing me. Were his actions out of line? how have others handled a similar situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2637 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - Should I be upset by this or not?. My boyfriend and I had an argument last week. He assumed that was seeing someone else, which I wasn't. We made up yesterday, but something bothered me. He said that on the night we argued, he went on to a por...

I don’t want to lose either of them. Please advise what I should do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

31 January 2017 (F) - I have been in a very serious and committed relationship for 5 years. I wasn't sure of our relationship but i realized that I really love my guy. we have had our share of fights but we are still strong and we have our fair share of restrict...

I feel guilty and pathetic because I know there are people worse off than me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2638 days ago

30 January 2017 (F) - Sorry if this sounds whiny, but I think I need some advice from some non judgemental people. Basically, to say my life hasn't turned out how I imagined it is an understatement. I've done nothing with it literally. I don't know why, but when I was ...

I'm losing my best friend and don't know what to do.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2636 days ago

30 January 2017 (M) - I'm friends with a female who ive known for six months, I knew her from work as we worked together and seem to get on, she was one of those temporary people. anyway she told me she was off to nicaragua on a water project to promote clean water an...

I don't understand the attitude of my hook-up

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2613 days ago

30 January 2017 (F) - My hook up and I kept trying to make plans to, well you know, hook up, but he kept cancelling on me because something came up that he had to take care of. Anyway he apologized for being confusing lately (which idk what that really meant) but I...

He gets my hopes up talking about having kids and then changes his mind!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2638 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - hello all of you, I'm Lauren, I would like you all to know my name. I need some advice. I have just come out of a 16 year relationship, my now ex was a lot older than me and had his fill of life experience, married, 4 kids, divorced and th...

I want a prettier girlfriend who cares about being fit and healthy. What do I need to do?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 2637 days ago

29 January 2017 (M) - I want a prettier girlfriend. I've been with mine for a few years now and it seems wrong to leave. I love her but the lack of effort (exercise counts) is making me less attracted to her. Bringing it up makes me the bad guy. What should I do?...

I'm 39 weeks pregnant and my husband is causing me anxiety as he prefers drinking and socialising with his friends. I feel unsupported. How should I handle this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2637 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - I'm 39 weeks pregnant and married for less than a year so we are pretty new. We are currently waiting for the D day and I'm extremely anxious as this is our first child. The problem is that he just isn't there for me. He prefers hanging out ...

How can I get the physical affection aspect re-started in our relationship? The cuddles have stopped.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2638 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - Hi everyone. I'm not sure what to do. My husband and I mostly have a great relationship, but for the last few months he seems to touch me only for sex. I like sex, but I'm starting to resent it and not want to have it when it seems to be the only...

I am over chasing men. But without a man in my life, then how can I be happy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2457 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - It seems since I have been 17 years old I have been chasing men. 13 years later an two bad relatiosnhios and a broken home(my parents are miserable together) I have had enough. A little back story ( since my early twenties I have done everythi...

Should I give up on men? Is there such a thing as a normal guy? I want a relationship with a man.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2457 days ago

29 January 2017 (F) - I have have asked for advice before here and wanted to come back a year later to ask maybe what I am doing wrong. I am a woman in my early 30s that has given up on love. I have only been with three men and two had a relationship with. Through t...

My girlfriend is in hospital and her family are keeping me in the dark

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2630 days ago

28 January 2017 (M) - I have no idea what to do to deal with this situation. I have been with my girlfriend since 2011, she was 18 at the time we started. We have had a great relationship, typical ups and downs, but all in all great. Her family has never warmed up ...

When will he tell me he loves me, I don't want to say it first this time?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2642 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - When can I expect my boyfriend to tell me he loves me? What are some signs that will indicate that he feels that way? (even if not saying it) I'm well on my way to falling in love with him, but don't want to say it first this time. I have sai...

I feel I am just not good enough for anything, its affecting my life and future!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2638 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - How do I get over this overwhelming feeling that I'm just not good enough? I'm going to be 18 this year and I'm just sick of always feeling this way about everything. 1) I'm the middle child in my family, and this may sound really cliqué but it's...

I don't know how to relax and be content in the moment.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2638 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. In the first few weeks, we had 2 minor communication mishaps, but it's generally been smooth sailing. My friends and family like him, and his like me. It's the first healthy relationship I'v...

Is my boyfriend not attracted to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2638 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - So I have been with my bf for a year now. He's such a caring, supportive and generous guy. During our first weeks of relationship, he initiates sex more often but not the great even but these days,he doesn't anymore. Sometimes, he even has a hard ...

He has told me he no longer loves me ... but we have been happier than ever.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - I am having some troubles with my fiancé. I am 22 years old and we have been together for four years now, we also live together and have a mortgage on our own house. Over the pst few months he keeps saying things like "I need some space" and "I wa...

Affair with my best friend but I have a partner of 18 years and a one year old that we had after years of trying. What do I do now?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2635 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - I've been with my partner for 18 years I do love him and we have a one year old which we tried for years to have. But for the last 3 year I have been having an affair with my best friend who's showed me so much love , a lot more love than I seem to ...

I kissed Max on the cheek and Mark thinks I cheated!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - Hi, me and this boy have known each other for around 3 years now. Lets say his name is mark, me and mark have been quite good mates. The other day he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. I told him not to tell anyone we were together ...

Could my bf's avoidance of my compliments suggest he is cheating?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2630 days ago

28 January 2017 (F) - I have been suspecting my bf has been unfaithful recently. Just sense a change. When having a text conversation this evening, I went on about how lucky I am to have him. What a good guy he is and how I am glad he is not like other men. I sai...

Can a man go from not wanting a relationship to wanting one?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2642 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - was dateing a man for a few months . I told him I wanted a relationship an he then told me he didn't want one . I broke it off with him . but he still tried to keep in contact with me . so now almost two years later . he contact me we talk . he then ...

Our marriage is totally devoid of all physical contact!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

27 January 2017 (M) - I am writing to you because I feel I have no one to tell. I have been married for 20 years to a woman who is the mother of my three children (19, 17 1nd 12). We haven't had sex since before the birth of our youngest child and its killing me. In f...

Could her actions in bathroom indicate that she cheated?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

27 January 2017 (M) - My wife got really drunk last night and started a fight then went and douched her vag and left the bottle on the counter on accident. Now swears up and down she didn't cheat and says I'm in the wrong for accusing here. Any thoughts?...

Is my boyfriend pathetic? Or just stuck in his life at the moment?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Ok, so...my boyfriend's truck broke down this past summer and I got a car about two or three months after. He could have got another by now had he saved better but idk. He spends his money on weed mostly and his phone bill and car insurance bill ...

Suffering a workplace bully ringleader. How should I deal with this situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Hi, this is just a work related question but it's been bugging me for a while. I feel can't speak to anyone. I have been in my role nearly a year, I love my job, get on well with all my colleagues and I am learning so much. When I started I g...

I feel I have lost my future ....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2640 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - Last week i split with my boyfriend of 2 years . Yesterday my friend shocked me with some news , she joined a dating site for single parents as she is one, i helped her set up her account and started looking at profiles and thats when i saw my now ...

I hid a recorder and heard breathing, is he cheating or watching porn?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2639 days ago

27 January 2017 (?) - Hello Everyone, I have a unique issue. I don't trust my husband. For varies reasons. Alot of people thought I should hire a Detective. I really don't have the money for that. A friend of mine suggested I get a voice recorder and set it in the m...

Is my mother just hurting and taking it out on me? How do I accept that nobody loves me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2642 days ago

27 January 2017 (F) - I'm not sure whether any of you have exactly gone through the same thing, but I feel alone in this, even though I may be irrational in thinking this and just overwhelmed by my feelings. Recently, my sibling (I'm not sure which gender specific...

Why would my husband delete his porn history, when it upsets me even more than the actual porn usage?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2645 days ago

26 January 2017 (F) - My husband deletes porn from his internet history so that it doesn't upset me. It's not that it upsets me a lot, I understand his reason for watching it is for quick release, usually his stress. And it's not ALL the time so... But I do sometimes g...

8 years ago my birth brother wasn't interested, now I've found him on facebook and want to contact him.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2641 days ago

26 January 2017 (M) - I accidentally found my birth brother on facebook a few days ago and I don't know if I should contact him or what I would even say to not freak him out. My mother gave him up for adoption 30 years ago and though we did get in touch with him 8 years ...

I found out my brother has been having an affair. Should I tell his wife or keep quiet?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2644 days ago

26 January 2017 (F) - My brother has been having an affair with a single woman who is 15 years his junior. It has been ongoing for more than 3 years. I am very close to his wife and kids and accidentally found out about it last week when he sent me a text meant for h...

Having problems with my Aunt. Should I tell my dad about this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2642 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - i've been posting several questions and for some reason i've been having endless number of dilemmas... At first i didnt know how to ask my parents for permission for a day out to celebrate my birthday and chinese new year (CNY). Eventually i a...

Is this an emotional affair? ?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2644 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - Is this an emotional affair? ? ? Last March- my husband of 27 years (M) was working at a customer's house (he's a contractor), and one day a woman (T) who lived across the street came over to bum a cigarette from one of M's workers. She a...

Did my words really crush his wish to marry me? Or was he looking for an excuse to break up, and blame me, for his own reasons?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2643 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - I met a guy on dating site he is from Europe and I'm from Africa. We met in person 3 times, he met my family twice and its been 19 months since we are in a relationship. Before 4 months he gave me an engagement ring and I accept we have differe...

How can I get my boyfriend to notice me in a positive way and in a sexual way

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2645 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - My boyfriend seems to not notice me in a positive way or sexual way. I don't know if it's because he's more attracted to his video games or I'm just not attractive enough, but either way it's lowering my self esteem. What can I do to make him notice ...

I ranted about a friend to another friend and he told her what I said!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2644 days ago

25 January 2017 (F) - A very good male friend and I used to work at the same workplace with another woman. A few months ago this woman told me to join her new company as we had all been made redundant. I got a job there a few months after her but she failed to tell me ...

Should we talk things over or let him go ? His lies and his baby Mama have helped drive us apart.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

24 January 2017 (F) - MODNOTE: two near identical questions combined with additional material from the second question combined below with the first question . . . . . . . . . Dear Cupid Am a 40 year old female with two children from my previous marriage. When I los...

What's the purpose of relationships when all it does is give someone power to hurt you?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

24 January 2017 (M) - Three years ago I was dating someone and it ended very horribly. She left me for another guy and it left me distressed beyond anything I had ever felt. I treated her with respect, listened to her when she spoke, and did what I thought was love her...

Just found out that my LDR is happily married. Do I confront him?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2644 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. We are in a LDR, but he's very caring, sweet and romantic...keeps in touch. But one thing that continually bothers me is that he never calls me at night! Two days back, I was viewing his profile on s...

My boyfriend's parents are strict and I'm not sure what to do anymore

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - Hi everyone, I'm kind of new to this so I apologize if this is a bit unorganized. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half and besides the ups and downs we are very much in love with each other and even plan to have a f...

How can an older woman feel sexy when their partner obesesses over girls 20 years younger?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2647 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

My boyfriend prefers to be with my brother and housemate than with me.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2632 days ago

23 January 2017 (F) - My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

Everything was great .... except the sex!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

22 January 2017 (F) - Hi. I am seeing someone and we get on so well. Everything is great. But we had sex for the first time and he treated me like a one night stand. He was just concerned about having an orgasm. He has never been in a relationship before. I know the ...

My son punched a guest, when guest videoed him and girlfriend having sex.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2646 days ago

22 January 2017 (M) - My son is 19 he has been dating his girlfriend since he was 16 and she was 15. We have a pretty open relationship with them. Over the weekend they went out to a party with their friends and at our house my husband and I threw a surprise party for ...

I feel inadequate!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2640 days ago

22 January 2017 (M) - Here I am..again. Now trying to stop loving my wife. During the last 6 months 3 of her former FWB have written e-mails to her remembering their pleasure moments...I found out reading those e-mails (not spying , given we both have open access t...

My wife left me for her ex, who found her on Facebook and now wants to come back. Should I give her a second chance ?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 2645 days ago

22 January 2017 (M) - My wife was contacted by an ex on Facebook who first said he only wanted to be friends, then indicated he wanted more. She showed me his messages and told me they dated in high school and college and she broke up with him twice. The first time...

How can I tell him that I suffer anxiety without making it sound like an excuse for needy behaviour?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2648 days ago

22 January 2017 (?) - Hi everyone, I suffer from anxiety, and I've suffered it for a fair few years. I've had a boyfriend now for a few months. I haven't told him yet. So when I get anxious I tend to text him quite a bit and I've noticed that his texts are becoming l...