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Archived questions from: May, 2005 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Little things he does seem to be adding up to "it's over between us". Am I right?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6861 days ago

31 May 2005 (?) - I am in a relationship and have been for over two years. He has a daughter and I have 5 of my own children. He has a slip disc in his back. For the last 6 months things have not been going well between us....we hardly talk or laugh or have sex. ...

My ex looks like his working through the problems that broke us up, but I feel insecure and unsure about him...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6253 days ago

31 May 2005 (?) - I've been with a man who cheated (massage parlor), smokes a lot of pot, and who gets verbally abusive (sometimes physically aggressive). It's been a year since I moved out and broke it off with him. Now he's showing signs of change, and growth. He ...

What can I say to my fiance to try to convince him not to break it off with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6253 days ago

31 May 2005 (?) - My boyfriend and I are dating for 4 years and 5 months on the 06/06/2005. He's 25 years old and I am 21 years old. We got engaged on Valentines day and were busy planning to purchase a house. We have gone through so much things simply because we ...

Can I help my tomboy friend to look more like a girl?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

31 May 2005 (?) - I have this friend named Shay. She's a tomboy but my boyfriend thinks she's gay and sometimes I do too. But I constantly beg her "can i give you a makeover, find you a dress or skirt and fix her your hair?" But when she does try to look like a g...

I'd like for our relationship to be going somewhere, but he's adamant he won't take on my son...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6253 days ago

30 May 2005 (?) - I have been with my boyfriend now for just over 2 years. We do love each other but there is one barrier - he will not take on anyone else's child. I have a son from a previous relationship. He has a son from his previous too, whom he sees every ...

Sometimes I lose my boyfriend... to a computer game!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6864 days ago

29 May 2005 (?) - I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and we moved in together nearly 2 months ago. We are enjoying living together but the time he spends on the computer is causing a problem. He really enjoys a particular pc game and will spend every ...

Don't want to leave my son's dad, but I love someone else! What do I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6360 days ago

29 May 2005 (?) - I dont know what to do. I have a 14 month old with my partner but I am seeing someone else who I love. I can't leave my partner though because I need his support financially and to be a dad to his son. What shall I do?...

Two lap-dances cost him $150. Now he feels guily, but I'm feeling hurt!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6898 days ago

29 May 2005 (?) - My boyfriend of 2 years recently went to a bucks night which ended up at a strip bar. He stayed later after everyone else left and had 2 lap dances with a stripper, which cost him about $150. This is a lot of money for him as he normally pretty ...

His mum can't decide whether to nag us about having kids, or try to break us up!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6899 days ago

29 May 2005 (?) - Hi, My question is I have been married for 3 years and it seems my husband has changed overnight. Before he was like my best friend and now it seems like he's not interested in me. I have been married before andI also have a child. When I to...

Once I get drinking, I do things I really wouldn't do if I were sober!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6900 days ago

28 May 2005 (?) - The problem is, that I think I have a drink problem and it's starting to affect my social life. It's just at weekends I go out, and once I start drinking I get silly and start downing shots and pints which I can't handle!! I really drink too much...

Maybe we should have a break. He says I'm stressing him out...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6900 days ago

27 May 2005 (?) - I'll try to keep this brief. I've been dating this guy on/off for 10 yrs, since I was a teen. A few years ago we started getting serious. However, while we were dating he married someone else. I found out the hard way (catching them together...

Trying to get back together with my fiance, but we've hit an impasse on the issue of kids...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6901 days ago

26 May 2005 (?) - I am currently in the process of getting back together with my ex-fiance. We broke up just over a year ago as I felt trapped and not ready to make the commitment as I was very young (19) when we got engaged. However, during the year apart I have b...

When we argue, he throws me out of our shared house. What can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6901 days ago

26 May 2005 (?) - My bf and I live together. We lease our house from a member of his family. Every time we have an arguement he either throws me out or says I should look into getting my own place. As far as I am concerned the house is our own place and he knows ...

In every relationship I've had, they fall in love with me, and I feel... nothing.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6901 days ago

25 May 2005 (?) - Well, I will make this as short as possible. But, the problem is, it has been going on my whole life. I have always had really good relationships and all. I think it might be me... Let me explain. Every relationship I have gotten into has been lon...

What can I do to heal my relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6903 days ago

25 May 2005 (?) - What steps can I take to redeem a troubled relationship?...

My girlfriend yells and swears at me when I suggest I move somewhere else...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6903 days ago

25 May 2005 (?) - My gf of 2 years is playing on my mind. I moved in with her 6 months ago after her parents moved away. We are house sitting for them. At the end of each month we have no money left after paying all their bills (including rates)..feeding their do...

My boyfriend's friends don't acknowledge me at all... and there's more...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6018 days ago

24 May 2005 (?) - I have been dating "Bob" for 2 years now. He is 27 and the man of my dreams. However, there is this one situation with friends of his that has me quite confused. He is friends with this married couple named "Shelly" and "Nick". This couple ...

A lying and drug-using boyfriend led me into financial ruin. What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6904 days ago

23 May 2005 (?) - I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost four years. My boyfriend is 23 and I am 27. I have a college degree and he does not. I am from a great family with money and he is not. Over the past couple of years he has lost all of my ...

My boyfriend's bi & that's OK, but what if he's actually gay?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5115 days ago

23 May 2005 (?) - I suspect my boyfriend may be gay....I know he's bisexual,bbut he tells me he sees men as sex objects and women to treat nicely and end up with. He tells me he wants a family with me one day. I'm scared he just wants me for my ability to one day ...

He won't tell me what the problems are. He just wants us to have a break...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6904 days ago

23 May 2005 (?) - hey I'm dating a guy who is older than me by two years. I'm 20 and he is 22. He has a kid coz he was married. Things were cool but not anymore. He really changed towards me with no reason. I tried to know why but the answer was "let's take a break,...

Sometimes he makes my skin crawl when he touches me, but my bf wants sex all the time!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6894 days ago

23 May 2005 (?) - This is a sex question. I have been with my b/f for almost 3 yrs, in the beginning things were great. Then he started drinking real bad, getting physical, very jealous, accuses me of sleeping with every man that crosses or path. I love my b/f, and...

The man I love is jealous and alcoholic... and I'm afraid to leave. What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6904 days ago

23 May 2005 (?) - I have been with this man for 2 1/2 yrs. He is an alcoholic, very jealous, and physical. He has low self esteem. I do love him, but I can't keep walking on egg shells. I don't want to leave, but I want and need to be happy. We have a 1 1/2 yr. old ...

Things were bad between us, but we wanted to work through it. Now I find I just don't feel attracted...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6905 days ago

23 May 2005 (?) - A few months ago, things were not going so well with the Mrs. Financial stress and me being at school a lot was tearing us apart. Long story short, we grew apart, considered divorce, then decided to try to fix everything. The thing is that I ...

I know he cares about me, but he keeps breaking up then coming back!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6425 days ago

22 May 2005 (?) - I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 yrs and we lived together for about 2 1/2 yrs. About 8 months ago things started getting rocky and he decided to move out for a while and we would try to work things out. Since then, we have had an on again ...

I pushed away a nice guy, due to my past experience. Should I forget about him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6905 days ago

22 May 2005 (?) - Two years ago I was in a threatening relationship and fell pregnant. Things had to stop so 6 months ago it finished. I'm currently 7 months pregnant and about 5 weeks ago I started seeing someone who I didn't treat very well but cared for and coul...

I might be falling in love, but the guy doesn't want kids or marriage... and I do!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6905 days ago

22 May 2005 (?) - Do I stay with a great guy who doesn't want to get married or have kids? He's in his 30's and absolutley amazing to me, takes care of me, and we have a great chemistry. I think I might be falling in love but I want be married and have kids and he ...

Suddenly my boyfriend "loves" me, but isn't "in love with" me. What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6905 days ago

22 May 2005 (?) - My b/f and I have been together for almost 4 years. We live together and have talked about getting married. Then the other night he tells me that he doesn't think he wants to get married he feels that he is too young (22) and hasn't dated alot of ...

He thinks that I like my friends more than I like him, so, should I dump my friends?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6904 days ago

22 May 2005 (?) - Me and my boyfriend have been together a few months, and recently I have found out he has large insecurities about me and my friends. He thinks I like them more than I like him. I have told him he is the only one I care about, butI don't want to ...

Why do we get physical and abusive when we disagree?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6905 days ago

22 May 2005 (?) - me and my boyfriend love each other but sometimes we get verbal and physically abusive when having differences what do we do? sadly loving#21...

He wasn't able to have sex with me, so I broke up with him..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6905 days ago

22 May 2005 (?) - I broke up with a man who I had a four month relationship, love him so much, everything was perfect except sex, he could not perform intercourse, he said he was not impotent, but I think it is psychological, he is only 41. I wrote him a letter, ...

In just 3 months I'm due to marry a man I feel like I hardly know any more!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6905 days ago

22 May 2005 (?) - I have been in my relationship for 4 yrs, have 1 child, & getting married in 3 months. Although it sounds great, in reality I feel like I always have to walk on egg shells. I can never seem to do anything right in his eyes and in his families eyes. ...

I'm fed up with doing my girlfriend a million favours. How do I put an end to it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6694 days ago

21 May 2005 (?) - How far can the knight in shining armor thing go? I have always gone too far to accomodate girls. My gf of over a year has enjoyed me fixing her drinks and snacks, tickling and backrubs, anything and everything I have to offer whenever she wants ...

My boyfriend doesn't want to find a bigger place, but I think we need it...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6905 days ago

21 May 2005 (?) - My boyfriend and I have been together for the past 10 years. We have lived together for the last two years. I have two girls with him, he treats them very well and they love him too. I have been wanting to get a bigger place but he refuses. I ...

Lately, it seems more like I love my boyfriend as a best friend. He's just not romantic.!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6906 days ago

20 May 2005 (?) - I have been with my boyfriend for a long time and lately, I have been having some doubts about our relationship. I feel as if I am going to be stuck in one spot with him forever. He never does anything romantic, he hardly tells me he loves me ...

My mistake was accusing her of cheating. Now she's mad at me, forever...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6908 days ago

20 May 2005 (?) - I made a huge mistake with my current girlfriend and now she is mad at me and says she will be mad at me forever. I also asked her if our relationship was done and she said she doesn't know. I accused her of cheating and she says she has been fai...

A phone call to a guy friend made my husband think I was cheating. Now all we do is fight...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6907 days ago

19 May 2005 (?) - I have been married for 11 years and this year I was talking to another guy just as a friend and only by phone. I only seen this guy once in person but he made me feel relly good about my sefl just by talking to him. My husband caught me talking ...

He's only said he loves me once... and that was when he was drunk!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6909 days ago

19 May 2005 (?) - We've been together 16 months and i still don't know how he truly feels...... I have been with my boyfriend 16 months and things were rocky at the start of the realtionship, this was due to the situation of him living with his ex. he's only ever tol...

Things went stale after we moved in together, and now it's like we're flatmates!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6754 days ago

19 May 2005 (?) - Hi I've been with me current girlfriend for over 6 years. Up until recently everything has been great. Well until we moved in together. Now I feel as if we are almost flat mates. Everything has gone completly stale. No excitement or passion. It's...

My girlfriend has a large number of male friends. She says not to worry, but I don't know...

This question has 89 answers - newest was posted 4277 days ago

19 May 2005 (?) - Hi, I have been going out with a girl for a few months. We love each other and are very passionate and she tells me I am the love of her life. We spend as much time together as possible and I believe her that she loves me. However, the only caus...

Five years together, a house and a puppy... but no engagement yet!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6909 days ago

19 May 2005 (?) - I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years this coming weekend. We have a house together and are in process of purchasing a puppy. BUT, he hasn't popped the question yet. He says it will come in due time, but I'm getting sick of waiting. I kind of ...

What's wrong with me? Why am I be punished for what other women did to my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6909 days ago

18 May 2005 (?) - I am living with my bf for nine months, known him for 3yrs. I'm wearing a promise ring he gave me, but for months now he tells me he loves me but that he can't love me to the fullest the way I want. He has had other gfs in the past and went to the ...

Sometimes she's nice, sometimes a bitch, sometimes she tries to flirt... It's so confusing!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6890 days ago

18 May 2005 (?) - I am a fifteen year old girl and very confused. I have a girlfriend who I feel has been coming on to me. Is she attracted to me? I don't what to do, but we are not talking to each other anymore after a row we had after sobering from a drunken ...

Should I leave where I live, to stay with my boyfriend? I'm not sure I love him...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6905 days ago

18 May 2005 (?) - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now. He travels for his job in another Estate of the country three days a week. I feel lonely and want us to be together all the time instead. He asked me to come and leave with him near his...

My wife can't seem to stay away from speed... or the guy she gets it from.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6910 days ago

18 May 2005 (?) - I have been together with Caroline for 12 years and married for 11. She is 41 and I am 43. Both us us knew it wasn't right to have children in previous relationships, but felt it was right for us and we have a 4 1/2 year old daughter. We'...

I like to fantasise about other women, but I'm still sure that I'm straight and my bf doesn't understand!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6890 days ago

18 May 2005 (?) - My fiance has found out that I have sexual fantasies about women and now he thinks I am gay. He doesn't believe me when I tell him that it is just a fantasy. I don't think I could ever be with a woman physically, but I do enjoy fantasising about ...

I get irritated when my b/f tells me to "relax", even when I know it's the right thing to do...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6910 days ago

18 May 2005 (?) - I've been having quite a strained relationship with my bf lately. Firstly we don't really see each other very often, only about once a week, so we don't have the luxury of time when it comes to solving our issues. He feels that I need to relax mo...

In the beginning, we were great, but 2 months later he runs hot and cold!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6905 days ago

17 May 2005 (?) - I have this boyfriend who I have known for a long time, but we have only been together about 2 months. At the beginning of our relationship everything was literally perfect. He told me he loved me and that he would do anything in the world for me. ...

His family doesn't even know we're engaged, because he won't talk to them about us...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6905 days ago

17 May 2005 (?) - Hi! My boyfriend will not tell his family we are engaged, not to mention he won't talk to me about me. Hhe talks to his one friend who doesnt even like me, let alone know me. Now every time I try to talk to him he hangs up or goes off the deep end...

Things between us go well for a while, then my boyfriend turns nasty...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6906 days ago

17 May 2005 (?) - I don't understand my boyfriend lately. Things are going so good for us, then he turns out like an animal and treats me awful, IE answers me nasty, makes me feel like I cannot do anything right. I don't say anything or complain. He always wants to...

Even simple affection is a chore for my b/f. He gets all his kicks from looking at amateur porn...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6905 days ago

17 May 2005 (?) - Hi, I'm not sure if im asking the right person. My problem is quite basic: like many women hate their partners looking at porn, they feel rejected, unwanted and usless, well this is how I'm feeling, except my problem is now affecting our sex life. ...