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writes:Hoping people can help. I am on a board of directors. I am the only woman and my ex is on there. He was the one who ended it and wanted no contact but it seems to me he picks his words to wound. He will often repeat back expressions I have used and in passing mention his girlfriend. I am already fighting an uphill battle with this group. I had enough the other day and thought to myself...I am going to cry. I did not but guess I looked upset. My ex then got nice and tried to include me. When I walked into the meeting he said we needed to be civil but he has been anything but in the past..cutting me off and saying hurtful things. I think the guys on the committtee respect me but I feel tired and alone from dealing with it. I am considering leaving but know they may think they chased me away. Why is my ex like this and should I stay on this committee or go. Do not tell me to talk to my ex. I do not even like being in the same room as him. He hurt my pride and I have written him off.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 September 2009):
Is there anyone else on the committee that you can talk to about this?
I mean obviously they are going to notice that he's being an arse to you.
The chairman could easily pull him up if he steps over the line.
I don't think you should leave, you should stand your ground, but also don't let him upset you as much. Go out of your way to get over him a bit faster if you can and then when he talks about his new girlfriend, then you'll just think he's pathetic and not be bothered.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): Don't let one stupid prick ruin your life.
You've already put up with it and thank god he dumped you because he is obviously lower than the gum under my shoe. He's being a bully....and I don't have to tell you why bullies are the way they are. He is attacking you because you are the only one that he has dirt on. Don't sink to his level. I'm sure he is making himself look like a fool. Similarly you should try to get to know the board a little more. Maybe somewhere along the line they will understand who you are and what you are about, and not have to put up with someone that cuts you off.
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reader, califnan  +, writes (18 September 2009):
 I have no idea why it is when someone dumps someone - that they are Still Not Satisfied.. Yes he is trying to get to you, and hurt you even more than he already has.. He wishes to then tell You to be civil.. The bottom line is: If you wish to stay on the committee, prepare yourself so well for your job on or about the committee, that you will perfectly blend.. And yes, of course you may ignore him.. If you wish to speak to him regarding committee business, then do so..
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