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Archived questions from: September, 2011 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

He blanked me out first, so who is in the wrong?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Hi people here is my problem I met a man at the beginning of the year who I really liked I thought he felt the same but he just wanted a fwb sort of thing so as I liked him that much I hoped it would turn into something more so that was that anyway ...

Why would a man do this when there are kids involved?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4579 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - My babies daddy lied to me about being in a relationship with someone else. Then we slept together. When I found out about her, he still denied he was in a relationship until she told me directly. Now our whole friendship is shattered, he can't even ...

How can I tell him I want us to go to the beach alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (?) - I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, we have been friends for years before this. The relationship is excellent and I really love him and I know he feels the same. 3 months ago P started his job and I started my placement year (he has fini...

He is afraid of committment! Is there a chance one day we might be together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - my ex and I used to be best friends and then we decided to go out together. they were the best months until once he told me that he is afraid of commitment. he feels trapped when he is serious.at the same time he does not want to lose me. he didn't ...

I work hard, while he borrows money from me and then takes days off from work to watch sports!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - My partner pays maintenance for 1 child + ex. He’s a salesman so income varies. I just had to lend him money to replace his stolen phone because he couldn’t afford to, and then he also needed extra money to tide him over until his commissions were ...

Troublesome fantasies

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (M) - I am 30 and feel really embarassed recently because i have these fantasies of sleeping with my sister(cousin). This makes me extremely worried when i face her and i am almost scared of talking to her. In the past i had expressed good feelings i had ...

Why am I treating this girl so badly?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

30 September 2011 (M) - Please can you help me.I have been with my partner for 2 years she was my soul mate my best friend and my lover, we had planned our life together, and I was going to ask her to marry me. I have had a very difficult 3 months, with work and my health, ...

How do I get my mom to let me visit my estranged grandparents?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (M) - So hey all aunts and uncles So.. I'm visiting my estranged grandma and grandpa, see I haven't seen them in 17-18 years...I'm 19 years old Like I'm nervous, I'm going to a town called flint its in Michigan. I vist them next week.. I'm so sc...

She recently added the ex as friends on facebook. Should I be jealous? Will it affect our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (M) - My girl friend used to love some guy before we met but didn't start relationship.she said she only loved him because of peer influence and she was a fresh man student and alone.this was before 5 years.now they are friends on facebook and i don't ...

I'm in love and walking around on eggshells

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I really need some help here. I'm in love with the most amazing girl in the world but, I feel like I am walking on eggshells. It feels like I have to think before I even do anything, because the most random things, like falling asleep on skype and ...

My friend's brother hit on my boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Dear cupid, my bestfriends brother is gay and he tried to tell me that my boyfriend let him feel on his body one day. And that pretty much that my boyfriend let him. At the time my he wasnt my boyfriend yet we was just talking for almost 6 months. I ...

Why do I have all of this jealousy and insecurity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Hi. I am currently in a relationship with this really awesome guy. We are really happy and its been almost 4 months that we have been together.( both of us divorced with two kids each ) I don't know how to handle how I feel. I feel jealous whenever ...

Should we even try to have a relationship with all the things going on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - In September 2010 my best friend told me about a guy she had met through her boyfriend who is in the army and stationed in Texas. She lives in Iowa and I live in South Carolina. She told him about me and vice versa. We got each others phone numbers ...

I am in relationship stress over this situation. Does he really love me? Why did he ignore me for so long after my Mom died?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Hi Dear Cupid it's me again now a senior in high school and that also means that I have more relationship stress. As you may know from my last questions I've been involved with my bestfriend/ now ex-boyfriend and just when I thought things coul...

Am I being emotionally abused? He is an alcoholic and uses manipulation and guilt to control me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - 22 years ago I fell in love with my high school sweetheart. After graduation we parted ways and I moved out of state. We reconnected last year on facebook and have been together ever since. He is an alcoholic and uses manipulation and guilt to cont...

We did break up a month ago. YET he still wants to flirt. What's up with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - So its been over a month now, since my boyfriend and I broke up. But he still has feelings for me. I guess the reason he still feels close to me is that...just because we are now exes...we are still like best friends. I don't have a problem being ...

Should just keep him out of our lives. And deny access to his child? But is it the right thing to do ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - Hi i am in a situation with my baby's father apparently he's with someone else now and we just broke up last week. It hurts to know that he's with the one girl he cheated on me last weekend but i am just doing fine what i wanted to ask was i dont ...

Is he ready to call it quits? And can't tell me yet? should I continue down the same path and give him space?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4592 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and I just can't figure out where our relationship is going and what it is that he wants. When we first started dating, things were so wonderful that I cannot even explain. We have so many things i...

He says he is falling in love with me but that he can't leave his family. How can I let go of him and end our work affair?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I need some advice. I am a teachers assistant at an elementary school. I have been working with the same man for the last three years. We are both married with 3 kids. We have formed a great friendship and seem like ideal mates for each other. W...

His sex drive is higher. I deny him probably 2 times a week, but how do I deal with him masturbating to porn?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

30 September 2011 (F) - I know this question has been posted a million times, but I was hoping for an answer on my specific situation: My boyfriend (he's 26 and I'm 23) have been together for about a year and a half, and have been living together for 10 months. Some...

Is it wrong of them? Neither of them seem to think they have done anything wrong

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Okaay where to start.. Well i have been seeing this guy for a few days even though im all that into him i think hes okay but i thought id give him a chance. I will call this boy 'C' then there is one my best friends who i will call 'E' She (E) is s...

Two Ways To Make Your Relationship Better

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - There are many relationships that are slowly destructing because of lack of two simple things...communication and action. If your partner presents a problem to you, and you want to keep your relationship strong, then you should do the following: ...

Keys to Any Relationship: Trust, Mutual Respect, Communication

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29 September 2011 (?) - I see so many people being hurt and confused by the same problems over and over again. The same questions coming in from all over the globe speaks volumes about how little people know about relationships or how to handle them. I am no exception to ...

Do I end it now or am I making a bigger deal of it than what it is?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I (and I use the boyfriend title VERY loosely since we're not officially boyfriend/girlfriend) have been together for 2 1/2 years. He moved in with me about 4 months ago because he had some financial problems. So far everything ...

RJ, both justified and unjustified

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4585 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - Has anyone here ever gotten over RJ (Retrograde Jealousy) in a relationship? Both justified RJ such as a mate having slept with your friend or enemy and unjustified RJ such as mate having just slept with other people before the relationship. ...

Should I stay in this baby mama drama relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - I`ve been in a relationship with someone for 7 months he told me about the other lady that he use to have a relationship with she has 1yr old twins that she said are his they are waiting on dna test result but he is attached to the kids and she ...

How do I assert with my elder sister the kind of relationship I want us to have?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - My elder sister is now 46 and has been suffering from variously diagnosed mental illness since she was 17. Her first psychotic episode happened when I was 14 and left in charge of my younger sister who was 4 at the time. My parents were away ...

My long-term boyfriend can't see how destructive his wanting to help his ex is to our relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Hi, So I'm in a very serious relationship, and we've both talked many times about how this is it for both of us. Yet, I'm starting to have doubts, and thinking that I don't really want to be with him anymore. Unfortunately, I get into this kin...

He never wants to get married because he is afraid a woman will take away his money.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - I've been married for 20 years. It was a loveless marriage and Im glad that I had the courage to end it. I've got my own house now and a part time job which I can manage to support myself. I've met this man 16 years older than me. I've been with ...

Should I be worried that she is still friends on Facebook with her ex, and she hasn't changed her relationship status?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - My girlfriend and the man she used to love before are now facebook friends. does this have anything to do with our relationship? her relationship status is single while mine is in a relationship...

How do you get through being cheated on and lied to by a guy who never even cared about you?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - He said he never lies... I'm struggling to keep count of all the lies he's told. He said he's been cheated on before and would never cheat... he asked other girls out while we were together and straight after we break up. He told me he's not like ...

Mother in law interference....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Hi. My mother in law is so controlling. She wants to tell me how to give her money, when to phone her and how many times. She practically wants to run every facet of my life. How i am raising my children. Apparently i am staying with two of her ...

Does this make him gay?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - My bf told me that he is bi and likes me to use a dildo on him. Does that make him gay? I'm afraid I will lose him because he might want to be with a guy. He loves sex with me and I turn him on. He also tells me he loves me . He says he doesn't ...

My family wont accept my boyfriend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - I am 26 yrs old, my partner's 28, yet my parents will not and cannot accept him. He's Black Canadian, I'm Canadian by birth but my family is of Lithuanian descent, so that makes us Lithuanian-Canadians. However, they won't accept him AT ALL....

Feeling confused about this relationship

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Feeling Confused: I am in a long distance relationship with someone who I love very much. We talk everyday for aprox an hour. Now I am feeling confused about he feels. He lives with his Dad and I still live with my ex husband. A situation I know i...

He deleted some girls off Facebook when I said I don't like them, but then a few months later they are back! What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - MY Bf live in US and i live in greece so we just talk and chat everyday,before i told him that i hate those bit*** on his facebook friendlist and he removed them,later because of studying i deactived my facebook profile and then after 2 or 3 month ...

He talks about his ex too much and he said he still loves her! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - I have a boyfriend. I love him very much, but he Talks a lot about his ex. I'm really over it and he told me he still loves her, it's really upsetting me and idk what to do. :( help me please...

GF lost all sex drive before our relationship became long distance

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - My girlfriend left the country to study abroad for a year. We decided to go on with a Long Distance Relationship as I will visit every now and then, as will she. We used to have a very sexually active lifestyle before the news of her scholarship, ...

Pregnant with his baby and he said he wanted to get married but now he has changed his mind!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - hey im in a relationship and i am having a baby, i am having a boy, i am 7months and the guy im with we been together for 3years and were young lovers but he treats me like he loves me, and then another minute he acts dumb but i love him dearly. man ...

Why is she texting me, giving me mixed signals, and calling me? does that mean I have a chance. Or does she just want me around while she grieves?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (M) - My ex and I broke up about 4 weeks ago. Its hard for me to talk to her because it was my fault we broke up. She is still mad that I facebook chatted this girl I want, suppose to talk to while I was drunk and we talked, then turned to sexting. I hone...

How normal, or how often, is it likely a person could get depressed by what their loved one says?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - How normal or often is it to get depressed by what your loved one says? sometimes I feel like I was in a better place before I talk to my boyfriend. He's very politically centered, and I just don't like politics. everything has to be poli...

I think I have to choose between my career and my boyfriend.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - Hi, Just a quick question! Should I accept my boyfriends offer to financially support me or focus on my career just in case?! I live with him for a few years now and have always been pushing myself really hard to get a great career so I'd have s...

I want a legal marriage, but he's being distant!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

29 September 2011 (F) - hi please i need a help.ive been with my guy for almost 4yrs.we even have a boy of 2yrs.just recently he talked about marrying me the traditional way which i refused.i wanted the legal type so that i will be secured.but he also refused.since then he ...

Am I about to get played AGAIN? Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Please bear with me... I know this is long, but I DESPERATELY need your help! Well, I am having a little bit of boy trouble. Y'see I've been crushing on this boy since last year. But then I got over him because I thought that he was a stuck up s...

Feeling lost after we've stopped talking completely!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4593 days ago

28 September 2011 (M) - okay, so the query continues from here, http://www.dearcupid.org/question/the-dilemma-of-my-long-running-relationship.html i'm now trying to forget her. its been more than a week since we've communicated. but its becoming really hard now...

She saved herself for marriage, but we went too far! She's been crying for days!

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

28 September 2011 (M) - I was an arse. I've been with this woman for a year and she has been saving herself for marriage. Last week, she asked me to let her experience only a bit of myself and I impulsively took her. She hasn't stopped crying for days. She says she lov...

I've been waiting for 2 and a half years for my boyfriend to talk to me! Is he worth it?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4592 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 years and a month. (Since I was 12, and now I'm 17.) After 2 and a half years together, he moved across the US from me. Before he left, everything in our relationship was GREAT! He was the perfect ...

My ex keeps saying OK to meet up, but she's never available. Is she genuinely busy or doesn't want to see me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

28 September 2011 (M) - My ex and I broke up about a month ago or so and after a while apart I started getting all these mixed signals from her. We have to see each other a couple times a week due to something neither of us can avoid. She has been flirting with me...

I used her laptop to watch porn, and now she's mad at me. I don't understand the fuss!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

28 September 2011 (M) - Hey there, I got in somewhat of a shocking fight today with my girlfriend, let me explain. First of all she found out that Ive watched porn on her laptop in her house when she was in class. That day I woke up and she was already at class, I ...

My brother is obsessed with his ex wife and I can't deal with helping him anymore! Do I write him off?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4594 days ago

28 September 2011 (F) - Hi there, I'm curious as to what everyone would do about this (if anything) My brother was divorced from his ex wife about 8 years ago. They have one daughter who is now 10 yrs old. The trouble: he is obsessed with her and it's making him sick...