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Archived questions from: September, 2008 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Do I have a right to ask her to stop smoking, or should I just deal with it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

30 September 2008 (M) - Ok.... My girlfirend...who i love so dam much, and we are as strong as ever....I made her quit smoking after being with her and smokes for about 8months...i had enough of it by then and she knew i didnt like it.we talked...she told me she had no ...

Do I hang in there, or leave him until the divorce is finalized?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5663 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I am 27 years old and dating a 30 year old man for 4 months now. He is legally separated from his wife and they are currently going through a divorce. They have been separated for 4 years. He has asked me on several occasions to be patient with ...

The only reason I went through with the wedding is because I paid for it all. I also love someone else. Please help.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5332 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - Me and my husband were just married June 14th 2008 and i'm not in love with him. The only reason I went through with the wedding is because I paid for it all, and therefore somebody was going to get married that day! Anyway, I've been in love with...

Boundaries with my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I am (was) dating a guy that I knew had a "past" (prison "stuff") and I still went out with him. I have a habit of saying "I'm Sorry" and he told me to leave and respect his boundaries. Then the other day I tried to surprise him with a home made ...

How can I cover up the bruises and scratches I got from my boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - How can i cover these bruises i got from my boyfriend and the scratches on my wrists that i did to myself because of him hurting me? They are fresh and just done today. Before u judge me about hurting myself. Its because my whole life from six years ...

Why does it always rain on me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I don't know if im enjoying life to much but im doing the best i can. Im a really nice person, so i get told. If that's the case i don't understand why i get the treatment i do off others. I just started college this month, made some nice ...

My husband acts like I cheated when I didn't! How do I get him to stop pushing me away?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5086 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I've been with my husband for 17 years and married for 15. During our relationship I have always been honest and faithful and gone through a lot with him. In the past, he has given me many reasons not to trust him but still, I stayed and moved on. ...

I have a mental block when it comes to my girlfriend and I lose my erection!

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30 September 2008 (M) - everything is great btwn us ... but we have this problem with our sex life.. we've had sex on and off for the past couple months.. but we've gone awhile without sex.. when we try i lose my erection as soon as we are about to have sex... i'm hard ...

Is it possible for someone to love and not lust after you?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5670 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - Hi there.... I am hoping to get a bit of advise regarding my current relationship. I met this guy 9 months ago. we have a great relationship and since day one we have been inseperable. He is 37 has never been married or had kids. We started ...

My boyfriend is always waiting for the next best thing. Why is it so hard to walk away?

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30 September 2008 (F) - well i am 20 my boyfriends is 28 w have been together for 2years and i feel really uhapy we live and work together. we speand somuch time with each other. he makes me so happy. i love him so much much. i really need happy to put a smile on hisface ...

Am I being naive or am I just plain dumb in love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5061 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I've been together and living with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. The first 6 months were like that out of a fairy tale novel; surprise trips, PDA, affection, respect and a complete gentleman willing to do anything to make me smile/laugh. After ...

His jealousy has reached levels that scare me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5664 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I really am at such a loss of what to do, or even what to think at this point... I have been dating a man from Italy (I am American) for a little over 6 months. We met in a way where our trust in one another needs to be strong enough to get be...

My husband's ex interferes with our marriage! Any advice?

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30 September 2008 (F) - I hae been married to my husband for two years. His ex-wife has been a constant interference in our marriage. At one point he was discussing our relationship with her and getting advice, he also was talking to her anywhere from 3 to 6 times a day. ...

My step daughter wants money but shows no respect, because I didn't raise her! At what point enough is enough?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5683 days ago

30 September 2008 (M) - Dear cupid and agony aunts out there, there is a heck of alot going on here ! I am a married guy, 49, and my spouse, female of course is 46. we both have children which are now in their twenties. we have been together for 14 years, having struggl...

I love him, but should I keep working at this!? Any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - Hello everyone, I hope you can help. I called the Samaritans but feel guilty, because I feel pretty blue. I met this man when I was 18. We went out and got married twelve years later. Since then we have split up loads of times but always got back ...

Am I just being pathetic? I think I should have moved on by now...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (M) - hey, I was my girlfreind for about 5 months, shes my best freinds sister and we were in secret for literally the whole of the relationship. A lot of people had worked it out, and obviously we both told our close friends. The problem is my be...

Begging for help: pregnant and very broken.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I feel very desperate I need help before I completely break down. It was love at first sight. And for 2years we had never experienced such immense happiness while being with someone. We really fell in love. We had all those typical talks th...

Pregnant girlfriend wants to leave the state!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (M) - Well I guess I should say first that she, after yesterday, is now my ex-girlfriend. We had been dating since late February and moved in together in mid May. Our relationship has had it problems, more so than the typical relationship. She did cheat ...

Is this guy interested in me or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I'm not sure if this guy is really interested in me or not.We've hooked up on and off since January (by the way it was a completely non-physical relationship). The 1st time we stopped talking because he heard that I had a boyfriend which was ...

Should I move in with him? My boyfriend says it's over if I don't....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He wants me to move in with him, but my family don't really like him and don't want me to. They say that I'm too young and that they don't think I'm ready. I originally said yes but when I told my Mam she ...

I need help with my husband's child's mother before I hurt her!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5124 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - Hi, everyone! ok i have a big problem. im married to a great man who has a child by another women. they had him when they were teenagers and now we are in our early 20's. the childs mother is crazy! my husband didnt have any parental rights {wasnt ...

I feel so used and violated. Does anyone else think this behaviour is abnormal?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5679 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I think i was violated by a guy i just had sex with. I hung out with this guy twice, the first time he tried taking my pants off but i insisted they stay on. I wish i would have listened to my instincts that he only wanted sex from me, but i ...

I'm sexually frustrated, how can I let him know I need to feel wanted and taken once in a while?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I am 41 years old and I started dating a 34 year old. I do not think he has any previous experience with women and I do not think he knows how to please a woman orally or even in bed. He is a great guy, very gentle but how would I let him know that ...

Shall I go back to my ex-girlfriend and move on or stay with him - the person I love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (M) - Well how shall I ask my question, that’s a big question already but yups why not start by introducing u to my story. I always have been known for being so down to earth and outgoing, well that’s what friends and ex- partners say about my persona...

I'm almost certain he doesn't like me. But now,.he's showing an interest...what is going on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - Well, there's this guy I've known for a very long time. For about a month or two recently, there were many rumours that he liked me. I thought they were true cos he got all concern over the littlelest things that happen to me. But currently, he ...

Are there any good old guys still out there? Where do I go to find him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - After I got divorced I started to date. Seems that I am horrible at choosing a good,honest guy to date. So far the few Ive dated want only a casual thing and they are way selfish in bed and two minutes and they are done and thats it no ...

Dating a year and I want to meet his family...but when I suggest it...he gets so defensive! What is happening?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and still have not met his family. Everytime I bring it up he has one excuse or another. He also shuts his phone off everytime we are together and will not talk to people over the phone in front of ...

I can't trust my boyfriend-- this is destroying my relationship! please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5685 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - Hello I need a lot of help here, I am in a relationship with this really wonderfull guy, he does everything to please me, he is very introverted but for his actions I know that he really cares about me, we have been 8 months of relationship, I am 27 ...

Are my friends jealous of me or is it my imagination?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5396 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - I'm the thinnest one in my group of friends. I'll admit, I can be annoying but I know when to stop, my friends always say I'm annoying but we can still get along great when I'm controlling myself. I'm the only one that wear a bikini and my friends ...

Should I put my mom in a nursinghome?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4744 days ago

30 September 2008 (F) - Hi I am going through the hardest time of my life right now and feel terriable and guilty. My Mother is 84 years old with really bad dementia. So me and my daughter had to move in but she has never liked my daughter and has a controlling ...

He's hot but I think he may be gay! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (M) - hi i met a guy how is hot and i think he is half gay. i really like him and we make each other laugh. i tried calling him but he wont answer or even txt. he is on to drugs and were the same age 13. the other day 9/27/08 i was asleep at a sleep over ...

I have a tendency to fall for people really hard and really fast! How can I get a grip on that?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - I have a tendency to fall for people really hard and really fast. I hate it because I always end up semi-heartbroken! I feel a lot for this person and the relationship is new, too new for me to feel the way I feel. At times they are okay and at ...

I let him go because things didn't get any better, but I miss him so much!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - I had to break up with him. Although he said he does love me. He never shows it. Never says it...only through a text. Never kisses or cuddles me anymore. Even a non existent sex life. So i said all this to him. and he said he'd try. Just that he ...

How do I get past these feelings of inadequecy, beating up on myself, etc?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - I am confused. My husband and I have been married for 2 months, and dated for about a year. Sometimes I'll tease him and not make love to him and other times I will make love to him. Thursday night, I kept delaying making love to him and my stomach ...

Is there any chance of her coming back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (M) - I'm 14 years old. About 2 years i met this girl. I immidiatly fell in love with her. after a year she went out with me. I was thrilled it was really the happiest day of my life. it was my first time i ever relle felt love for someone in such ...

Is this picture really that big of a deal? My girlfriend is freaking out over it...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (M) - I ask this because I want to make sure that I'm being reasonable, because I don't want to be that guy who only thinks of himself. My girlfriend took a picture of me sleeping in my underwear with my hand down my pants (hilarious!). She sent it to s...

Just found out my husband of 8 years is a member of 100 online pornography sites!! Now what?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - Three weeks before I was to get married I caught my soon to be husband trolling for sex on the internet. He promised nothing other than curiosity was happening and I forgave him. Now here we are 8 years and 2 kids later and I catch him with an ...

Has he been emotionally abusing me for years?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - I have two children, 6 and 8- my 6 year old has autism. My husband has been battling alcoholism for years. He just informed me he has been seeing another woman and left. He has treated me especially poorly over the years and very much so now. I ...

Do we leave him in the dust and say life goes on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (M) - Hello! Recently i've seemingly lost a bestfriend to his new girlfriend. He has never had a real relationship before (he is now 21) and recently found a 17yr highschool girl that he fancies attractive and fun. A year ago, she was fun and all...

My LDR isn't working and I don't know if he's cheating or just not that into me. Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship just over a year. My track history with relationships is dire so I am not sure how a healthy relationship evolves over time. I loved the honeymoon period of our relationship but that ...

What to do about a cheating friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - My husband is good friends with a guy who lives close to us, and I am friends with his wife. We have always thought of him as a decent person who will help out when he can. However, he has recently confided in my husband that he cheated on his wife ...

He seems a bit intense. Should I end it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - I've been dating this guy for a few weeks and by his own admission we aren't technically boyfriend and girlfriend. I'm not even sure if I like him. But I think I could. The problem is that he always wants to be around and says things like, you kept ...

How do I date someone at some point when a male friend still likes me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - So I have chatted casually to Andy, same age as me, 2 kids too in the pub for a couple of months, just amongst others too. A few months ago i met a guy, Jack, 8 yrs younger than me in there and we txt most days, just asking if we've had a good day. ...

Should just tell him to drop dead?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - I desperately need help before I lose the plot! My boyfriend cheated on me, and when I say cheat I mean he had a full blown relationship with another woman. We broke up for ages talked and finally decided to get back together. But since this ...

Should I pull out now completely (not even friends) and move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5657 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - I've been dating a guy for five months. He is 32 and I am 27. In the beginning we both wanted to be free and enjoy life and time together without labeling our situation. I warned him that as we progress my feelings could change and I may want to ...

All he wants is oral sex to satisfy himself - what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - been with my partner for close on ten years ,i have always had to ask for sex and all he wants is oral sex to satisfy himself ,he drinks far to much and we just shout and scream at each other ,i want to leave but my problem is we have property ...

I can't escape seeing him so what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - So, about 9 days ago my boyfriend(we will call him jack)of three months broke up with me and it killed me, and to make it worse it was homecoming. It killed me but I went to homecoming with my 2 best friends. I started talking to jack again and we ...

Our adult son is addicted to drugs and we cannot say no to helping him...how do we cope?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5685 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - This about a parenting dilemma. I hope someone can come up with some good advice. My adult son is addicted to drugs. We tried to help him many ways. We never found out ,what happened in his life what made him turn to drugs.. We tried many ways to ...

He hates my past so he calls me ugly and disgusting! How do I cope with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5687 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - My boyfriend hates my past. Even though it wasn't terrible, I mean most people would think it's mild (the worst I did was give oral sex to a friend once). So yeah, but it bothers him. We were arguing, and he told me how ugly and disgusting I am....

My bf is insisting I give up my chat room friends!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

29 September 2008 (F) - ok.. so here's the problem.. my boyfriend and I fight all the time! one of things that we are constantly arguing about is the fact that i like chat rooms and all that stuff.. he wants me to give up msn and my chat room and leave all the f...