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Archived questions from: July, 2013 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I lost my friend to a girl, now they're fighting. Are they likely to break up or patch things up? I want my friend back.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3918 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - Basically I'm just asking when couples start having arguments to the point where they think about breaking up, does that mean they are likely yto break up or will putting wrong to right make them stronger than ever then make them work? I'm askin...

He said I should pay our bills because I don't have kids

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3915 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - Hello Aunts and Uncles. My boyfriend is always short of money, I have to pay for our all our travel, the whole rent and he pays 1/2 our food. He says he can't afford any more because of maintenance for his daughter who is 8. I do not know what he ...

Found out that my ex lives near the home my wife rented. Have made it complicated for myself? What should I do now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3918 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - Dear Cupid, I arrived in US three weeks ago. I'm Indian Muslim . I'm 28. My wife is also 28 Recently, I bumped into my Ex”L” while jogging and she lives just one mile away from my wife house. She was also American and dumped me four years ago. ...

I don't know if I could ever trust again and build the relationship up, which seems like double standards based on my past behavior.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3918 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - I'm not quite sure where to start with all of this, so here goes; I've been in a relationship with my partner for 13 years now, and I love her very much, we have three young kids together. About four years ago I discovered that my partner had t...

My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for December 2013 but I don't want his friends there.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3918 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for Decenber 2013. The problem is I don't want his friends there. Please advise me on how to handle this. Six months ago (when we were already engaged), he was invited to a wedding without ...

Every day since I came out there is an argument!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3891 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - I'm not sure if this is the best place to go but I don't know where to go really. Since I came out 2 years ago things changed completely between my mother and I and its frosty to say the least between us. What happens is that every day there ...

He's gone distant and I'm unsure what to do. He seemed like such a good guy!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3918 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Ok ,I'm totally confused here .I will try and cut a long story short .I net a guy online ,we totally hit it off and I didn't jump into bed with him straight away .I'm very impulsive so it was hard for me .we had a great time and he's always asking ...

My boyfriend was looking at dozens of pics of his "ex" while sleeping in my room, in my parents house, after we got engaged!!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3917 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - My bf and I got engaged a few days ago. We have what I thought was a ‘perfect’ relationship, we’ve known each other for many years, started dating sometime back, we clicked, we were absolutely made for each other…or so I liked to think and from what ...

Stuck in an unhappy marriage. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3916 days ago

30 July 2013 (M) - Hi everyone, I've been married for over 15 years. For the most part it has been a good relationship. I've always been an easy going guy and not a lot rattles me, but over the course of the years I've really felt like I've taken it on the c...

Was she hiding something, or trying to reassure me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3920 days ago

30 July 2013 (M) - My girlfriend gets a phone call from a guy while we were cuddling. They seem to know each other very well judging by their tone of their voice. Afterwards, she automatically and pro-actively explains to me who this guy was - they have known each ...

Divorcing, and I feel hurt and anger and extreme regret!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3919 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Any tips on coping with feelings of hurt/anger/regret? Husband and I are divorcing-next month we can finally submit paperwork. He feels I'm trying to take every penny I can, I feel he's trying to keep every penny he can. We have a 2 yea...

My bf of 3 years wants us to take a break as he thinks I'm too clingy.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3920 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years wants us to take a break as he thinks im too clingy. This all happened during our recent vacation. I wanted to spend time with him but he wants to hang around the bar which made us to fight. We made up during the trip ...

Would it be an insult to get my wife an anniversary card after I cheated on her with a prostitute?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3920 days ago

29 July 2013 (M) - I admitted to my wife just after Christmas that I'd cheated on her with a prostitute. I regret my behaviour very much and have no intention of ever repeating it. My wife is trying to forgive me and we're still together, but she doesn't wear her ...

My boyfriend flirts shamelessly with other women but freaks out if he sees me with another man. Why do men flirt when they are in a happy relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3921 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - My boyfriend is 3 years older than me we've been together for 4 years and lived together for 3 years. He's very sweet and always compliment me and tell me I'm beautiful. His problem is that he likes to flirt and I know its harmless but its getting ...

I am hurt that my boyfriend of 4 years is going on a 3-month music tour without consulting this with me!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3920 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 years is a music teacher, and I just found out he has agreed to go on a 3 month tour with his friend's band (their normal bassist can't do it) without thinking to discuss it with me. I am so hurt! Surely after 4 years this is so...

My girlfriend got angry with me and wants to break up because I didn't accompany her in to Starbucks, I'm considering giving her what she wants

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3919 days ago

29 July 2013 (M) - Story: We have being dating for just 3 years. We are both each other's first gf and bf. I am 28. She's 27. We are both Asians. I went to my gf's place to pick her and her sister up to attend their parents' event about 1.5 hrs away. They wante...

Things used to be great but I'm seeing another side of him and I'm starting to feel like I can't trust him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3921 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - I'm 23 years old, and have been in a relationship with my 23 year old boyfriend for 2 years. We don't live together. Things started off great in the beginning, but the honeymoon phase is over and I'm beginning to see the not-so-great side of him. A ...

How can I have a relationship when she is still in his life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3921 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - Hello everyone. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm going through a situation and I'm trying to get some opinions. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months now. My problem is that he's still friends with his ex, ...

I told my girlfriend's friend she was hot, and now there is friction between them

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3921 days ago

28 July 2013 (M) - Dear cupid, Just eight days ago , I said to my girlfriend's close friend , in front of her, that "Oh my God, you are one hell of a hot girl." . Her friend just smiled whereas my girlfriend said "Enough" . Ever since that happened, my girlfrie...

My dog doesn't get along with his dog

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3921 days ago

28 July 2013 (F) - Hello I really need some help with this. I have two dogs one female one male. My Partner has one. we have been together for sometime now BUT my male dog when introduced to his keeps going for him. This is starting to put a strain on our relations...

I'm confused and don't understand the behavior of my ex

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3921 days ago

28 July 2013 (F) - What is wrong with my ex ?.I'm confused. He is the one who contacts me first most of the time ( I hardly contact him, but he contacts me every few weeks to see how I am doing ). He contacted me on Wednesday last week, and asked me if I wanted to go ...

What do I do to keep him chasing me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3922 days ago

28 July 2013 (F) - I have known this guy for a year n half we were pretty close. Recently he has given me excuses that is far too busy to msg me i let it slide he may be telling the truth. I have his other number i see him online on whatsapp at stupid times. Anyway...

Should I let my sister and her family stay at my family home? I don't trust her.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3922 days ago

28 July 2013 (F) - My sister wants to stay with my husband and I starting next week. Her, her boyfriend and their three children all under the age of 12 want to crash at our place, she says for 4 nights. I said, we could discuss staying if she had secured arrangements ...

Update on alcoholic partner who can't choose between me and his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3922 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - Mod's note: this is the original post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-with-an-alcoholic-who-goes-back-and.html This is the person who has the alcoholic mate who goes back and forth between me and his ex. All the answers were very helpful...

My fiancé is still in touch with his ex and I'm concerned about his feelings for her

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3913 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - So I know snooping etc and everything is not a good thing and I guess I wouldn't normally but the opportunity arose as my other half left his email open and I couldn't help it......my fiance had dogs with his ex wife and as far I knew they still ...

My boyfriend was meeting his ex behind my back and I'm finding it very hard to trust him again

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3923 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - I really want to work things out with my boyfriend but I don't know if I can trust him. We've been together two years, we met when I was finishing with someone else and he waited almost a year to actually be with me, during which time he had plen...

Dirty talk and sexy photos with another man - should I tell my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3921 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - I have a bf for past 4 yrs. its a long distance relationship. I also had a good friend with whom I could share all my probs and all my opinions..but never loved him any near to my bf. Recently he broke up with his gf. Just to comfort him I said.i....

Need Advice to get my best male friend back!!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3921 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - I need help, I'm confused and hurt! I'm a 29 year old female with two kids that just now file for a divorce, before our divorce I always call my childhood friend (married man now) for advice cause he's always good at that, he's the type of friend y...

How can I improve my attitude towards dumping guys too quickly?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3922 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - I just need you all to read dis and help me wit a reasonable solution. I am a young pretty girl in my twenties,bt i have never had a stable and lasting relationsip ever since i started dating. Am always getting piss off easily and always e...

I fall in love and then disaster happens. How do I keep believing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3923 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - I really need some advice. I am going through a major shipwreck and I don't know how to handle it. The situation in particular while sucking all the same is not what would break a person. It is the history around it. My life has been dogged b...

My trust issues are ruining everything how can I put this right?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3923 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - Hi aunts and uncles! Please can you help me. I'll start with a bit of past background, I'm one of this that's always been unlucky in love, and it doesn't seem to be getting any better. My childrens father cheated numerous times, and subseque...

I ruined my boyfriend's friendship without meaning to, how can I fix the situation?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3922 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - Hello all. As background:My boyfriend has always been concerned of whom I talk to. To the point where he feels my male friends or males that try to talk to me are all trying to get me into bed according to him. This triggered me drawing myself f...

He doesn't want a relationship but I do. Should I end things?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3922 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - Hello, advice desperately needed! Firstly before everyone says it I know I am an idiot for getting myself into this situation but I've fallen for a guy who doesn't want a relationship. We have been 'seeing each other' for about 5 months now - by ...

How strange is it to feel relatively normal so soon after leaving a bad relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3923 days ago

27 July 2013 (M) - I left an abusive relationship about a month ago. In retrospect, I wonder why I put up with the screaming and cursing, the threats of violence, the baseless accusations of cheating, and the infliction of pain and discomfort (e.g., puckering up as ...

I'm with an alcoholic who goes back and forth between his ex and me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3922 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a man who is an alcoholic and drinks liquor and beer everyday.He has for 5yrs. now been going back and forth between his ex-girl friend and me.He'll be at my house one month,then at her house the next month.He ...

My neighbors are careless regarding security and have been consistently rude to me since I politely pointed this out to them

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3924 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - I am pretty irate at the moment. I have new neighbours who I can refer to as hypersensitive. When they first moved into my building, their visitors used to leave the main building door open and this posed a major security risk. I even witnessed ...

I lost my best friend because I didn't want to date her. Now she has shut me out of her life and it really hurts

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3924 days ago

26 July 2013 (M) - Hi everyone. My best friend has had feelings for me for a long time, we both knew it but we decided to not worry about the future when I would fall in love with someone else and "just enjoy today". She knew I didn't feel the same and said she wa...

Why does my family have so much to say about my mom's well being when they don't lend a helping hand at all?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3924 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid ,I have wrote many times to you about my situations about my mom and sibling not wanting to help me with her so two weeks about she had a terrible accident and it landed her in the hospital now she is in a seniors home getting therapy to ...

I don't want to feel like I have to defend my boyfriend all the time!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3924 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - My bf and I have been together for a few months and have been friends for years. Within the past year I have experienced a deep depression and recently have felt better with my bf's support as well as time weekly with my therapist. There are time...

My boyfriend is addicted to sports news and it's driving me insane

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3924 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - Help. My bf is addicted to sports news. When he wakes up in the morning he has to watch and read sports news on tv, he listens to more than 5 radio stations consecutively just to hear sports news which is more or less repeatitive anyway. During the ...

Do guys when they are stressed push people away who care about them?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3924 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - Do guys when they are stressed push people away who care about them? What is going on with me is this guy and I have been talking a lot about relationships, the future, our goals, work and mainly everything. We been getting super close that way...

He told me she was only a friend then later admits that he had sex with her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3685 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - i met a boy via social network some 9 months ago, we became friend,then he proposed me, though at first i was negative,we met and i started liking or loving him..he told me about his past relationships including that one with one of his junior, ...

After everything do we still have a chance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3924 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - i am in a relationship with my guy for the last 5 years. for the most part sadly, it has been an LDR. since 2012, we have been arguing and fighting over petty issues because of communication gap .... but this is true that we have been madly inlov...

I'm so frustrated it drains me and leaves me tongue tied

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3924 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and we've hit quite a bump in the road. In the beginning and for the first few years of our relationship, I always made the effort. I think I did it too much to the point where I spoon fed him everythi...

The relationship has been going down hill for the last year ...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3925 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid My bf of 4 years was not nice to me for the past 1 year, he behavior towards me is deteriorating as each day goes by. I am not sure whether all relationships goes sour as days goes by or its just me. He never picks up when i call, g...

Should I just be with this man not matter what even though he wants to be a female?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3925 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - I saw this site on the interent so thought i would message in as i dont really know who i can talk to and i am starting to wonder if it is me with a problem, rather than others. I am really worrying about my future now but i dont seem to have any ...

After 2.5 years with me does he still have feelings for his ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3925 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - Does he still have feelings for his ex My partner has been with me go 2 and a half years. Before me he was with somebody else for 7 years and had 2 children with her. I found out after he was with me that he left her and the children for me ...

How do I open myself up to others and be more social?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3903 days ago

25 July 2013 (M) - hello I have some social issues. I'm reserved person and I it find hard to talk with people, even with people in my age. When I was in primary school (age 7-14), I was too shy. I've always felt diffrent from others, like I don't deserve to be treat...

He sends texts that he'd like to cheat but then doesn't follow through. I'm confused!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3924 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - Hi, wonder if anyone has any thoughts on this. A guy started texting me in May after having done some work at my home. The texts became intimate quite quickly. A few evenings of sexy texts during May then he saiid he couldn't come to house t...

He says he can't marry me because of his parents but we are intimate. Should I stop this?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3793 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - Well I don't know from where do I start. I'm in a very difficult condition to be understood by anyone. My story has started one year back when I kissed him for the first time. It's not that I haven't kissed any guy before him but with him something ...