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writes:I am married and not happy. I am 60 but look 50 my husband hasn't given me any affection for many years. i have worked at my company for 14 years and have meant someone who is married and 6 years younger than me. i have commented adultrey and feel bad for it. he does not really act like he wants me but i can't seem to get over him. i told him not to call me or email anymore because he only wanted to see me when he wanted to see me. i feel like i jumped in to one frying pan to another. my husband is a good man he just does not know how to express himself. i just don't know how to stop thinking about this man i slept with just once. i know its wrong. it hurts and it just sucks. i am so sorry what i did and the people who would be hurt if they would have found out Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): so what is your question?? or are you merely posting to extract some sort of sympathy and for the aunts to tell you thst it is ok to lie and cheat and betray your husband. maybe you should take a critical look at yourself and ask yourself what you are going to do when this mess will come to light. believe me, the truth always comes out, it is only a matter of time before all hell breaks loose.
".....he does not really act like he wants me." instead of trying to mend your married life you are still runnig after your lover. your lovers behaviour indicate that he is finished with you, yet you pine for him. if you know what you did was so wrong, instead of chasing after your lover then work on your marriage - a marriage i must add, that YOU DESTROYED.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (19 September 2009):
 First - I don't think you should ever admit to your adultery. You can never have your old relationship back if you do and it could kill it forever.Second - I don't think you should continue a relationship with this other man. Just accept it was a fling and probably has helped your marriage by reminding you that you are still desirable.Third - You have a lot of talking to do with your husband. You may even need to bring in a counsellor. If hubby won't join you, go alone. Fourth - Sometimes we need to redraw the relationship/marriage contract. You aren't the same people you were when you first got married. As you get into later life, companionship can be as important as sex. See what you can agree to. Find out what you both want from the relationship. Communication is the thing!
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