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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

If he's not happy why doesn't he just leave?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3411 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Hi, I'm really new to this site, hopefully you guys can help me with some good advice. I have been with the same man for almost 5 years now and we have a child together who is 4. When I first got with him I was so happy, I fell in...

My partner left me and is suffering with depression

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3463 days ago

31 October 2014 (M) - I could really do with somehelp and guidance.I was with my partner for 9 years and we have 2 children.I thought everything was fine until one day I came home from and said she does not love me anymore and that her head is a mess.She suffers with ...

How can I get my partner to drop his friends without making an ultimatum?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3463 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - I don't like my partner's friends and it is pulling us apart. 18 months ago we made friends with a couple that live close by. The friendship began with dinner once a month at each others homes. After only meeting a handful of times my partner was ...

His ex best girl friend is back on the scene- should I be worried

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3463 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Hello people- another question for you. Been with my boyfriend now For a year and a couple of months- we live together at his mums house and are very happy until yesterday- he has a week of work (i don't) and he went to a shopping centre yesterda...

We're moving fast should I ask him for space?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3462 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Me and this guy have been speaking throughout this past summer via text. Hes funny and charming but hes quite flakey. We finally took things one step further and now we are dating but not official. The flakiness however is really making the spark ...

How do I get my girlfriend back so I can help her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3463 days ago

31 October 2014 (M) - My girlfriend and me are separated at the moment but am trying to get her back, I earn alot more money than her and all the time that we were together i tried to help her with money for which she would only refuse my offer of money and told me that ...

Worried about girlfriends nightlife

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3459 days ago

30 October 2014 (M) - Ok, my girlfriend is away at college for the past 3yrs and everything has been great. She goes out to drink once in a great while with her friends and I don't mind because I know her friends and they are good people. I myself hate drinking...

Falling for partner's friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3464 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - Hi, I have been in a relationship for 15 yrs. it's not a good relationship and hasn't been for at least 5 yrs or so, we are really only together out of easiness and we have an 8 yr old daughter. Other than that we sort of lead separate lives. The ...

He wants to live with us and I don't want him to think it's a free ride

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3461 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - Hello Aunts and Uncles. I guess I need some advice from strangers purely because everyone who knows me or my boyfriend seem to be giving their opinion based on how things were between us before. We have a four year old son, and he wasn't plan...

Did I cheat because of how he behaves on line?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3461 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - i have been in a relationship for 14 years. started dating him at the age of 17 him 27 now aged 31 and him 41. im confused. i cheated on him with a friend of ours. i have seen his facebook over the last couple of years with all porn sites and stuff. ...

We got back together but the spark just isn't there

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3464 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - We've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argue and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things have changed and so do our feelings. He said he doe...

Can steroids and ice be reason for cheating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3463 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - Hi I'm going through a tough experience. My partner and I were in an amazing rship for almost 2 years everything was perfect we were best friends and lovers n I couldn't fault him and then things changed n he was snorting ice and taking steroids.. ...

Why is he being so dodgy about this friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3464 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Hi all I need some advice. I recently found out A is coming back from US and visiting my bf whilst I am overseas. I have never met A and I know my bf met her through camp. A is currently studying in US. My bf initially kept it from me but somehow it ...

I'm very attached to him and rely on him as I am still getting used to living away from home! Advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3465 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - I moved out home for university in september and very soon after arriving a met someone. we were very close for around 5 weeks seeing each other day. and although we weree offically a couple we may have well of been. admittedly we spent too much ...

I don't know whether I have fallen out of love with my B/f, or whether we are just in a rut from never spending time together

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years exactly (its our anniversary next week), and I don't think I love him anymore. We live together and have a "family" together -- a cat and dog. We have a lovely home together and are saving for out f...

My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this s...

I do miss him. But first I want him to miss me. So HOW do I ensure that he really misses me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3464 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Okay so there is this guy I like. recently we hung out and he told me how he thinks i'm beautiful and that he likes my personality. I like him a lot too hes really cool, and we seemed to have been getting a long just fine, but the problem is. ...

Why couldn't he be nicer to me? Should I ignore him, just as he did to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I am attending a course at university. I go to this course once every week with my friend. There is a guy that I like. Today in the end of course this guy talked almost all the time to my friend and not to me and also he gave his number to my fri...

Is my Boyfriend more likely to cheat because 4 of his friends are cheaters?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Four of my boyfriend's friends (both females and males) have cheated on their partner. Does that mean he is more likely to cheat?...

Ex wants me back but is still somewhat emotionally unavailable. What gives??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I was with my ex for about 4 years. We broke up around 4 months ago due to constant fighting. I was nagging and complaining about not being treated very well and as a result he'd push me farther away. The more I tried to work things out, the worse ...

It seems he doesn't want me in his life anymore, what do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - We met 6 years ago in college and since then he have been talking on the phone and he said he used to care about me and all that but would always ask for sexy pictures. At first I refused in doing so and then I gave in. So then, he came to town to ...

I resent her, and feel bad about not forgiving her, this time. Is it time to break up with her?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3459 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - On Wednesday night I found out my girlfriend had been actively looking for someone on a dating site, after logging into the account I seen she was flirting/dirty talking with this other person, I confronted her the second I found it. We've been...

My Dad has told me he's disowning me for spending the night with my Bf. Feel incredibly hurt. What can I do?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I'm sorry if this post is lengthy and/or complicated. I'm 19 years old, and ever since I turned 18, I've been having more and more issues with my dad. My parents are divorced, and are very different from each other. My dad is very overprotecti...

Is it normal for a boyfriend to mock his girlfriend for being pretty?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Is it normal for my own boyfriend to mock me for being pretty? I've always been insecure about my looks, especially when it comes to him. Although it's gotten much better now (been together for about 3 yrs), I always have doubts about how I look ...

Why are siblings so resistant to giving any support to our mother?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid,I am the second oldest child and I have four other siblings who just act as if they don't have a living parent.I can't get them to do a single thing for my for our mom everything has a price on it they won't go to the store without ...

How can the spark be returned to our relationship? What needs to change or improve?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3466 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Well, we've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argues and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things has changed and so do our feelings. He said he ...

Since my parents divorced my mother has changed. Why does she continue to reject me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - My parents are divorced. It was a messy, painful battle, and my mother is the one who initiated it. Since then, she has moved away and changed into a completely different person. Her social life is so busy she no longer has time for me. And when...

He's controlling and abusive. What's the best way to handle this situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Been with my partner almost five years, we have a four year old son together. For the last two years our relationship has been very rocky. It has been an unhappy relationship for me, since being with him he has stopped me seeing family and frien...

How did we go from an initial attraction to FWB and then to now, where he's making little effort to keep the relationship going?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3456 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - So, there's a guy (isn't there always) who I met at the end of my long term relationship. He's separated and in the middle of a nasty court battle re kids. He and I initially bonded over our dislike of our exes (great baseline, I know) and have dis...

How do I rise above the bullying and develop confidence in me and deflect bullying?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3446 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid I feel unsupported in life. I experienced poor treatment from my dad from the beginning of my time and my mom has never really praised me that much; I felt that both my mom and my dad saw the worst in me, unknowingly. They didn't se...

My Gf is seeing her ex, but has not told me. What is the best way of dealing with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Hi, My girlfriend is still best friends with her ex boyfriend, which I aren't really okay by, but I know that if I confront her about it then she will just say don't make me choose, so therefore that means that she will chose him over me. I woul...

Why does she resort to passive aggressive and avoidance behavior?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

27 October 2014 (M) - Why does my girlfriend often resort to this type of behavior? She is an adult but I sometimes feel like she is stuck in the past. She'll try to lure me into making plans by giving me a yes or no option, but when the answer doesn't go along with he...

His apartment is freezing, but he doesn't turn up the heat! Do I stop visiting?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Perhaps this is a weird question, but some suggestions on how to best deal with this would be nice. I've got a key to my boyfriends apartment, and I have been staying at his place for about every other day these last months. It's usually his plac...

My fiancè cheated on me with his ex! I am so angry at this woman, what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3119 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I need to know what to do in my situation that I know im not the only one that is dealing. Ive been with a man for just over 2 years now. We are engaged. The problem is this: He has twin boys with his ex. Now I understand that ...

Met online. He's separated but still married. Did he break up due to me questioning him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I really need your advice here- I'm female (27) been dating this amazing man (35) who's separated but still married that I met online, -we went on four amazing dates (2 dinners, drinks and an art exhibition). We instantly clicked and we had amazing ...

Trying to process my 60 year old mother's cavallier attitude to taking a married lover. How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I'm having some issues with my mother right now. She called me tonight to get my opinion on if I would be okay with her sleeping with a man a few years older than me. I told her I didn't care about the age factor. Then I commented that a...

Can a married man fall in long with his mistress? Or is the lover just used for sex on the side?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Do married men only use their lover on the side just for sex only? Can they actually fall in love with their mistress, despite being torn because of the children? ...

Am I right to stay with him when there are so many issues in our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I'm so confused. I don't know if I want to be with my partner of 7 years any more?? The trouble is we have been together for all this time and I wouldn't know what to do or who I am without him. It has been getting clearer over the last year that we ...

My fiancé has been hiding our engagement because he's afraid of what his friends will think!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I just got engaged about 2 months ago. Since becoming engaged, he has told me that he thinks the word "fiancé" is stupid and he's not going to say it…so he continues to call me his girlfriend instead. He is also ...

Unhappily married. Is this younger man interested in me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Is this younger man interested in me? I am an unhappily married woman who is re-considering her options. One of the main reasons I am still married is for my 2 young children. My husband suffers from a mood disorder, depression and anxiety. In ...

Do I tell Friend A what is going on? What about Friend B's partner?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I'm a pretty liberal person, so am not trying to be the morality police, but am worried about my friends and am being burdened by this knowledge. One of my friends (Friend A) has been in a casual but exclusive relationship since January, with th...

Big difficulties ahead. Will this relationship last? What other options are open to me, to consider?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - A year ago, I was ready to move to another city, transfer to finish school and leave sex work behind. I had been an escort for over 2 years, had a failed marriage and a child not living with me because of my unstable and crazy lifestyle (he lives ...

My ex chose to become engaged 6 days after we broke up. Should I even listen to her explanation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (M) - My ex left me for another man who is fat, creepy old, and has a 19yr old daughter. The next day after breaking up, shes in a relationship. 6 days after, they are engaged. She is 23, he is 36. She Is a model and gorgeous, and he is disgusting. I su...

He's lied to me multiple times. And Cheated. Should I be 'over it' as he claims?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3462 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have a question that I need both male and female point of views on: My fiancé in the beginning of our relationship went around my back and began to be unfaithful. He had a second phone to do all his "dirty work" on. I noticed a change in his pe...

Only ever had sex with my BF so how could my BF have given me HPV? Is his excuse plausible? Or has he been cheating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - It seemed really strange I developed HPV from my boyfriend. I confronted my boyfriend after my doctor told me I had HPV. At this point I'm sure he was cheating, how else would he get it, how else would I get it. We lost our virginity together, so I ...

He's abusive. Why do I take him back, even though I know he is not good for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid Where do I start? I was with my ex was 4 years. Earlier it used be fun, for past few months the verbal emotional abuse is more than I can take. He withdraws affection and love. Makes me beg with him to even talk to me, at last talks to...

What should I do about my partner of 5 years who has recently become aggressive and has come close to fighting with my family?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I have been with my partner for 5 years now We live together but are not married nor do we have children Recently he has become very aggressive to the point where he has been nearly getting into fights with my family I feel lost and heart brok...

Why has he turned off sex, with me, yet initially he was enthusiastic?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Good day everyone!! Im in need of some advice. Im a healthy 36 yr old woman who is engaged to a 32 yr old man that I of course love to death. We have been together for just over 2 years now. And sad to say already having problems in the bedroom. W...

Why was this girl so rude and tried so hard to dominate the conversation and make me feel uncomfortable

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - All of my boyfriend's friends live on the opposite coast, where he grew up, so I don't get to meet them often. One of his friend's came out to visit our area with his girlfriend last week. I was so excited to meet them. I had heard all about this ...

I'm a compulsive cheater and I suffer depressed. What help do I need to stop this cheating? I do love my older Bf

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - I'm a 30 year old woman in a committed, loving relationship with a man who is nearly 50. I'm a compulsive cheater. I can't help myself and I hate myself so very much. I've had numerous one-night stands with various men. It is hard for anyone to ...