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writes:Sorry if this is long...Four years ago, I graduated from a small blended middle/high school in Tennessee. I moved to New York for college, and while I was there, I lost a lot of weight. I look a lot more attractive now than I used to. A couple of weeks ago, I came back to Tennessee to visit my family, and decided to visit my old school. I went and a lot of people still worked there that I used to know, including my history teacher, who taught me for five years (middle and high school combined). He was always one of my favorite teachers, and for the better part of my high school years, I had kind of a crush on him. He was also one of the younger teachers there-11 years older than me. He didn't really recognize me when I got there because I looked so different than I did in high school. When he realized it, he was happy, but I could still see that he thought of me as attractive. Well, we hung out most of the time I was visiting the school, and when I was going home, he asked me if I wanted to go out for dinner or something. Honestly, I was kind of flirting with him, because I still liked him a lot, and he still wasn't married, or involved with anyone as far as I knew. So, I went out with him, and I could tell it was kind of a date, and I had a really great time with him. And at the end, even though I could tell he felt kind of weird about it, he kissed me. I went home really happy, and flew back to NY the next morning. Since I came back, I've been talking to him almost every night on the phone, and I plan to go back to Tennessee to see him (and my family, of course) pretty soon. So, we're kind of like long-distance dating. But, I really don't know how to feel about this because 1) Sometimes I still think of him as my teacher, and almost call him Mr.____. 2) We live so far apart, and we're both kind of grounded where we are, with his job and my school. But, as cliche as it sounds, I've never felt like this about anyone before, and I think I really love him. I just don't know where to go from here-is this relationship wrong?
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reader, d e e p w i t h i n  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 hey!I dont think thats wrong at all, actually i'm kind of jealous because a small part of me wishes things could have worked out between me and my former teacher who i had a HUGE crush on while in highschool (i am now 19 and have just graduated last june) But for some reasons, it couldnt have worked out. I say, if you guys really like eachother and he makes you happy, i say go for it. if you find though that along the line you realize you guys dont have as much in common as you think, it may not work because of the age gap. if that doesnt happen, have fun! XD
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): I don't think that is wrong at all. I have a crush on a former science teacher I had in school and see him just about every week. My heart starts pounding when I see him and he helps me out on a lot of my college homework. When we are together though we start talking about random stuff and I know a lot of stuff that he hates and he just starts making fun of them and we laugh. He's been to my house once and every time we part we hug. So I don't see a problem with your relation with your former teacher at all.
Good luck with everything!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): you are not his student, you are not underage...theres nothing legally, morally, or ethically wrong here! It would feel a little weird at first tho...lol...good luck
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (19 September 2009):
 Oooh
I didn't read the age thing. I just assumed you were older because you said you'd left school.
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reader, Tevote +, writes (19 September 2009):
Hey there,
No this relationship is not wrong, it's perfectly fine!
Although some people will not reccomend it, or they just may not like the idea. It isn't wrong. You're attracted to who you're attracted to. And because you've left school, four years ago, it's okay because you haven't been there for such a long time and you're the right age.
So don't worry. Have fun.
Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow, yeah, I put messed up on the age on my account, haha. I'm 22 :)
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