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Archived questions from: October, 2019 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My boyfriend gets nasty when I don't do what he wants!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1635 days ago

30 October 2019 (F) - My boyfriend gets nasty and angry if I don't spend the night staying over with him every weekend and refuses to come over to see me and take me out for the day because I wont do what he wants which is stayover and have sex all night and day. the ...

I took my boyfriend back and he hurt me physically

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1592 days ago

29 October 2019 (F) - So here I am. I took him back after dumping him for emotional abuse. This time he told me that things were going to change. A week later he was back to his same verbal abuse. This time tho I stood up to him. His five year old daughter was screaming ...

Why does a guy have sex with 2 women in two sexual relationships? Has the first dropped the ball? Why is one not good enough?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1635 days ago

29 October 2019 (F) - I'd like to know why and how a man can have a sexual relationship with two different women concurrently? Why isn't one enough? Does that mean he isn't attracted enough to the first one? Or doesn't love her enough? Or she isn't satisfying him? ...

I have two dates and I'm not sure I want to go on a third, even though she is HOT!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1639 days ago

29 October 2019 (M) - To start of Im a 24 year old male that hasnt been in a relationship for a long time. I still consider myself a kid at heart (or better yet immature). Ive recently went on two dates with a girl who asked me out and frankly I see no connection and s...

Co worker body shames customers

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1640 days ago

28 October 2019 (F) - I began a part time job at a fast food place where my son works to earn extra money and to keep an eye on him. (He's mildly autistic and often misunderstood). This isn't the problem. The problem is my co-worker "Xena". Yesterday, a man came in an...

Should I take a stressful promotion to help pay off my debts or stay in a less stressful role and continue to struggle?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1641 days ago

26 October 2019 (F) - This is a work question rather than a relationship one but I’m hoping that’s ok. I have been working in my current role for about 2 years now. It is a very niche industry, in fact mine is the only company in Scotland that I could do this job in. ...

I'm confused about where we stand even though she said she's not ready for anything serious

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1641 days ago

23 October 2019 (?) - when we first met but that all ended because it was basically my own doing. Recently we hooked up after talking for a few months. Everything just seemed right. We kissed held hands and I made a slight mistake in bringing up relationships. S...

Why does my boyfriend lie about his sister?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1647 days ago

22 October 2019 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a year and he told me all the time that he's the only child of his mom, and I recently found out that he has a sister that he never told me about because until recently he was so upset and he had to tell me about this ...

What is going on? I don't want to be the first one to bring it up.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1647 days ago

22 October 2019 (F) - I don't understand what is going on between my friend and I. We have been friends for almost a year, but we fight a lot every week when it comes to misunderstandings over text. I always end up coming to him and we talk again (mainly 'cause when we ...

What can I offer that porn doesn’t when porn offer endless variety

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1646 days ago

21 October 2019 (F) - I know this may seem trivial to many people but I have struggled with the issue of men and porn for many years . I have no problem with my partner noticing someone attractive we all do that but when I’m with a man and he feels the need to master ...

Why is my former co worker being like this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1649 days ago

20 October 2019 (M) - became friends with a co worker at work who I like. she talked to me quite a lot and the conversations seem to flow well. I was sad to hear she was going after three months of being with the company. was in kitchen making a tea and said to her, was ...

I'm a grown man and yet my mother controls my life. Help

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1646 days ago

19 October 2019 (M) - My mother hit me, threatened me, and made me break up with my girlfriend after one day. Here's what happened: Throughout my entire life my mother has disapproved of any women that I choose to bring in it. I know now that she is a classic example ...

Why didnt my colleague want me going to his house?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1647 days ago

19 October 2019 (F) - I hsd been part of a group of people out and about patrolling anf one of the men had lent me suitcase but it took a bit of time to get it back to him simply because he didn't respond. I eventually contacted his wife to who agreed for me to drop ...

My LDR boyfriend's messages gave me the impression he doesn't care. I don't know where to go from here

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1650 days ago

18 October 2019 (F) - I have been in a long distance situation shop with a man for almost 3 months. Before he went away we were seeing each other in person for 6 weeks. He said he was going away for 2 weeks and he has been away for almost 3 months. We have not had any ...

what do you do when your partner doesn’t make your children and partner a priority

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1651 days ago

17 October 2019 (F) - Hey everyone what do you do when your partner doesn’t make your children and partner a priority we split up for 3 month then we ended up getting back together because he promised things would change he has been working 7 days a week and he doesn’t ...

Why do I keep getting nightmares about my abusive ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1655 days ago

15 October 2019 (F) - I keep getting nightmares about my abusive ex and I wonder why. A little background: we dated for about two years during which he was awfully possessive, totally psycho, verbally and physically abusive and had a huge complex regarding his lo...

My future mother in law is irresponsible, especially with money.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1653 days ago

15 October 2019 (F) - I've been in a consistent relationship for 8 years (on and off for the first 2 years if you count them then 10 years in total). And engaged for 4 with our wedding in 2 years time. Over the past couple of years we've had nothing but issues with ...

His expectations have me confused and wondering about him! Any advice appreciated!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1652 days ago

15 October 2019 (F) - Hello and thanks So my man has been confusing me a lot. We visit each other 3 times per year we in a LDR for approximately 3 years. I love him but I see many different shades to him. He’s impatient, demanding and has a temper. He also expects ...

Is my mother in law secretly racist?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1653 days ago

14 October 2019 (F) - Ever since I dated my husband he would tell me all these crazy stories how his mom tried to hook him up with fat white chicks (preachers daughters) in the past. I’m not white and I think she hates me because I’m not. She’s one of those people who ...

I'm having a tough time with my new, older boyfriend.

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1654 days ago

11 October 2019 (F) - Hi There is this guy at work and for some time now he has deffinately been trying to chat me up ,the thing is im on work experience. He is probably in his 40's.A few weeks ago we went out and it got more serious and eventually soon after we ended up...

I know its just facebook but my online friend confuses me.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1655 days ago

11 October 2019 (M) - I got a nice one for you.. I never thought i find myself catching feelings with someone online, but i have. 4 years ago i friended a beautiful lady on FB. We pretty much hit it off as we have the same music interests, food, politics, and so on. ...

My wife is making it difficult for me to cross dress and I feel like I am cheating on her..

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1653 days ago

11 October 2019 (M) - Dear aunts, I've been attracted to crossdress since i was a child. I met a wonderful woman about 5 years ago. From the beginning i was clear about how i liked to dress from time to time and she fully accepted me. I'm not attracted to males at all. ...

I need help to get my girlfriend back.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1656 days ago

10 October 2019 (M) - Hie I broke up with my ex girlfriend 7 months ago but I can get over her because I still love her but she moved on with another guy and when ever the guy see me either talking to my ex or standing with her he tell my friends that am a threat. I ...

Is it wrong that I found this behavior on a date odd?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1658 days ago

9 October 2019 (F) - I started seeing this guy and we've been on two dates now. He's 40 and works for the county. We met on a dating app and he said he would go out for appetizers and drinks, so we met up at a local restaurant. After I came in and he said hello...

Am I unreasonable for not wanting to spend any more time with my friend?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1656 days ago

9 October 2019 (F) - This could end up being a long rant, but I will try to not give TOO many details. Basically I have had this friend for around 15 years. I first got to know her when I worked behind a bar, she would come in with her friends for lunch and we got ...

My boyfriend refuses to distance himself from female friend who kissed him on the mouth in front of everyone

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1661 days ago

8 October 2019 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. He is extremely close to his best friend (a female). It has always made me uncomfortable but I do NOT think anything is going on between them - I know he doesn't fancy her, and I very much doubt that she ...

My 2 friends have stopped hanging out with me and I don't know how to approach the subject

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1655 days ago

6 October 2019 (F) - So, this will probably sound a little pathetic since I'm a grown woman and not a teenager, lol...but here we go. There's a girl my age (27) that I grew up with; we were good friends off and on through elementary/middle/high school, and then...

My bf has become emotionally distant, and I don't know what to do!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1663 days ago

5 October 2019 (F) - Hello all. I've been with a guy for a year now - he's nearly 38 and i'm 30. I have a three year old little boy and he is fantastic with him.= - he doesn't have kids and has never been married etc. He was very complimentary at the beginning but told ...

Am I in an emotionally abusive relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1661 days ago

5 October 2019 (F) - Hello, sorry for the essay in advance! So I am engaged to a man I have been with for 2 years. For context sake he is 12 years my senior, hasn't had a girlfriend in 10 yrs, is known to his friends being laid back and kind, and his father was not v...

My boyfriend went on a business trip and ghosted

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1664 days ago

4 October 2019 (F) - My boyfriend of four months left for a business trip to another state on Sunday. Everything was normal and he said he couldn't wait to see me this weekend. We usually communicate daily. However, he hasn't reached out once and all of my texts and ...

How do I handle my girlfriend's crazy accusations against me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1662 days ago

3 October 2019 (M) - My girlfriend nearly every day accuses me of “changing/ switching” places with “imaginary” friends of mine that look just like me. This of course is not happening at all and I am beginning to lose my patience with her false accusations. She wi...

I was goingto press charges against my ex, but now I am having second thoughts. How do I move forward?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1663 days ago

3 October 2019 (F) - I dated this guy for about 10 years and I thought he was a nice guy until recently. I realize he is a liar and just toxic. I waited for about 3 years to gather enough information on him to press charges. Now that the time is here I am having a hard ...

My partner is constantly questioning the food bill. Why do I have to always explain?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1666 days ago

3 October 2019 (F) - Just moved in with my boyfriend, been together three years and he questions constantly the cost of the food bill. He gave me half towards the rent etc this month and £100 extra for the food bill and said that would cover his half for the whole ...

My sister is never there for me yet always expects me to be there for her

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1668 days ago

1 October 2019 (F) - The last few days I haven't felt well so I had to go to hospital last night. Just before my sister had called and said that I'm not my usual happy self and all I've done is complain about my health for two weeks. I corrected her and said it had been ...