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Archived questions from: 20 April, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

We're getting married in 3 weeks time! Is he always going to be a liar?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - OK... I have been dating the same guy for 4 years. He use to always look at porn, I asked him to stop because it hurts me and he promised he would. I caught him doing it again! He then put a ring on my fingure and promised again he would not look at ...

Is my boyfriend cheating/losing interest/ or generally just busy with work.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - I don't know, I have quite a weird feeling that things are not going well with my boyfriend. We've been together just over four months. Firstly, he's always at work and is always so tired when he gets back that we can't really do anything (he is a ...

Is my boyfriend normal?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for just over 5 months. He gets really annoyed if I text or email any of my friends that are boys. I have promised and reassured him many times that I would never ever cheat on him but he always answers with 'I ...

How can I make him understand that being this unfair with me won't lead us anywhere?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I hate the Internet, I hate this! But I love him... Turns out me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years. Sadly, we live in a small town so everybody knows everybody. The thing is, before I met him, I had a blog, I had a crush on t...

I'm in love with my step brother.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I'm in love with my stepbrother but the only thing is my stepdad has kids with my mom so he is my little brother and I don't know what to do. I mean we really feel for each other no we haven't dared to have intercourse but we are so crazy for each ...

My boyfriends stares at other women constantly.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend stares at other woment constantly. He makes sure they know he is looking my making obvious suggestive eye contact with them. I am hurt and embarrased by his behavior. I have told him how I feel and he promised to do better. That ...

My friends don't like me because of my penis size!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - I'm 13 years old and some of the people at school hate me because of my penis size. My dad told me I was a early bloomer. I didn't get why they don't like me, someone told me that I was stealing their girlfriends. I try to tell them that I have a ...

Please help me! Is he gay?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for a few years and we're supposed to get married later this year. The problem is I found out that he's been looking at gay porn on the internet. He does watch some straight porn but I seen a lot of gay. I asked him and ...

Recently my wife has been very cold with me and I'm paranoid she may be cheating!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - hi, I need some advice as I feel paranoid and depressed at the moment. I am in a LDR with my wife of 5.5 years... we've been living apart for the past 2.5 years. She's been recently very cold to me... never says anything nice or writes nice emai...

I find it difficult to make conversation with my boyfriend of 3 months. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend of 3 months are great, there's just one problem, I have a problem with talking to him. It's not that I'm scared to talk, it's just that I find it hard. I can see it's starting to annoy him now and I just don't know what to do. ...

Because we live 50 miles apart I only see him weekends but he never seems to want sex!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - HELP!! I'm a 31 year old woman driving myself MAD!! I've been with my fella for 8 months now and we live 50 miles apart so see each other most weekends... my sex drive is way high and all I want to do is *well-you know* when we get time together, ...

How can I open up to my mum more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I'm not a very open person about anything really, I like to keep things to myself and that's the way I've always been. I'm close with my family, but not "close-close" I can't tell my mum anything, and I don't feel right talking about a lot with her; ...

I care for her way too much to lose her completely.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - Ok, so here is the deal... I've been friends with this girl for a long time (9+ years). We were really close, then just kinda friends, and now really close again... I've matured (I'm 25) and am comming to realize I really like this girl. I would ...

I cant get over that he cheated on me with the ex

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20 April 2009 (F) - hey guys i recently found out that my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend 2 months into our relationship.. i didnt find out for 5 months and then out of the blue his ex girlfriend phoned me after obtaining my number from a mutal friend... ...

How do I know if he REALLY means what he says this time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for about 5 years, I thought something was wrong with him but since he was going to Iraq for the 2nd time I thought he was stressing over that. Well he left for about 6 months and when he came back he was making a lot ...

It bothers me that my husband chats on the phone with a single woman.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5069 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - My husband has a job that is very boring and he is allowed to chat on his cell phone. A month ago he complained that I don't talk to him enough so he has to talk to "Rebecca". At the time, a month ago, we established the fact that he and Rebecca ...

Am I over reacting and have I a right to set those boundaries?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I am a 36 year old mother of three, that has been divorced for almost 2 years. I have been in a relationship with a 28 year old for the past 10 months. I was married for 12 years so it has been very challeging to going back into the dating scene. My ...

What should I do to motivate a proposal?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5487 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - Hello I'm 29 years old and my partner is 50, we have been shacking up for 2.5 years outside of the few times I kicked him out. We are both attractive and it is not a sugar daddy realtionship I love him deeply and do not want another relationship. We ...

Is she a total slut? Or just desperate for attention?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - So I've been seeing this girl recently who I really like and who really like me back. We are in a semi-serious relationship in which we are pretty devoted to eachother but not entirely yet. I'm finding out increasingly that we may not be the best ...

Why does he always prefer porn to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I have been married to my 2nd husband now going on 18 years. In the beginning of the relationship we had a great sexual yearning for each other. We lived together for 2 years prior to marrying so 20 years altogether. This started about the year of ...

Made the mistake of idolizing my gf

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - I am in my first real relationship. I met a woman who I thought was out of my league and being the first woman who I think ever loved me, I created in my head a perfect vision of her. I put her on a pedastal even though she felt like slapping me ...

I make him miserable and he says after 9 months he's sick of it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - Someone please help me. I'm afraid of losing him. I love him more than anything in the world, but I make him miserable. He says he is getting tired of it after 9 months. Not me, but the way act sometimes. I flip out when he doesnt text bac...

Backoff..I'm in a relationship

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - how do you get someone you had an affair with to backoff because you are in a relationship??...

Problems with g/f's past, concern about our future

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - I have an issue with my girlfriend's sexual past. Before you all tell me it's my problem (which i acknowledge) or that it shouldn't matter if I truly love her, hear me out. My situation might be different than some. The root of this is that i w...

Too much? Or am I not understanding men properly?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - (Figured out how to ask questions finally) Ok situation goes: I'm in a realtionship with a really great guy. Very work focused mind, but i understand him and why. But we posed a problem the other day, where i was telling him i loved him, and i a...

Signs are pointing toward him breaking up with me but he deniesit

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - i was told that my boyfriend stoped caring about me 4 months ago by a guy that works with my boyfriend and he is going to breack up with me and move away in aug and he is going to let me know a month ahead and i ask him and he says no. then 3 weeks ...

Loving a cheater

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid im pregnant and love my boyfriend very much but the thing is he is cheating on me, when i ask him about it he always want to put the blame on other people, for instance he would blame me accusing me of listening to my brother's girlfr...

He goes to porn sites to see skinny women,anal sex, squirting!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - Hello,i am a 26 year old female with what i always thought was quite a lot of confidence about my body!Recently i have discovered that my partner of almost 7 years has been using porn frequently-now i don't mind the porn,its the skinny size 0 girls ...

What will I do without her in my life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - I am a 22 year old boy and I was in love of a girl. She proposed to me last year she told me that she loves me, I liked her too so I accepted her proposal. After 2 years of close relationship she is telling me that she doesn't want it any more. I ...

Do I have to accept that this is my life?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - So it comes to this - nearly six years in a relationship and I am online looking for answers to the questions I have created for myself. It's simple really, I am in a relationship that I want to get out of. I am in need of a miracle that can...

I still love my ex and do not want to hurt him again but I love his fried too.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I am almost done with my ex, but now his friend is asking me out, what should I do? I still love my ex and do not want to hurt him again but I love his fried too....

I live with my boyfriend and every single day I cry!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I live with my boyfriend who I have been with for a year now and every single day I cry. He makes me feel so lonely and unwanted. He never wants to spend any time with me at all, he's always busy on the computer or with his mates and he reckons ...

Secret relationship with previous instructor?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I've been seeing my new bf (I suppose) for about a month. I am the only person he is seeing so I think we are in an relationship. He is nice to my friends and he doesn't mind my housemates knowing that we are together. He has a good friend who just...

I told my crush how I felt and now he distanced himself from me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I have a crush on a guy friend for about 2 years.. at first we only hang out to study. However, during the very last semester, we hang out quite often along with few other friends. Then i discovered that he likes another friend of mine but then that...

One and a half year, and he still has not proposed to marry me!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - dear cupid, i been in relationship wd my bf for one year an a half but he hasnt proposed to marry me yet... he says he loves me and serious about me but he hasnt proposed yet...i tried opening the subject to him...he said to keep things ...

I need help with a friends with benefits situation.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - we see each other once a week, have a great time, laugh, talk and carry on, occasionally go to dinner or a party together, and then we have sex. i don't hear much from him when we aren't together which is fine, whatever. he tells me in bed that ...

Mistakes were made when I was drunk. Now I am confused. Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - at a party around christmas time last year i hooked up with this guy who is in the group of people that go to the same parties as i do and during that summer we were together and all was well. one night he was having a boys night and my friend had ...

I have never had an orgasm, now he won't touch me.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for over 8 years now. I never have had an orgasm through intercourse. I always faked it. Well, I felt that maybe if I came clean he would work on this with me, but now he doesnt even want to touch me, he says I pretty ...

Why is my husband stingy with me?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3573 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I am married in about a year already. I am in a totaly new place and have known only a couple of friends. I had a job before but I quit when I got married and relocate to my husbands place. I had no jog for almost 8 mos, and now I just started a ...

If she is engaged, why did she initiate the date?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - hey there, yesterday i was busted more than ever... i had a date with the woman whom i have known for a month....we had a nice talk, i found that she almost makes up my dream girl,our interests almost match, i told her she is amazing and she also...

Should I try to go back with her? Or just move on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5359 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - This is going to be really difficult to explain to me, but hopefully people will get something out of it. So I was in a great relationship, my first serious girlfriend. We met in my college sophomore year, were together for several months, ...

4 months into marriage and already unhappy in SoCal

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - UNHAPPY IN SO CAL:~( I have been married for 4 months now and I think that there is somthing wrong with me because I just hate having sex with my husband. I have never been attracted to him but I thought I would still want to make love to/with ...

Confused because I was slapped

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - About 6 weeks ago, my boyfriend and I were out at a party and we both got very intoxicated and ended up fighting. I decided to leave the party because I was really embarrassed about this, and went back to my apartment building, which my boyfriend ...

Is it normal to want a ring after 5 years and a child together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I need some advice. I'm kinda in a state of confusion, I already no what I should do, I just need to hear from someone else. In May my boyfriend and I will be together for 5 years, we have a 3 1/2 year old little boy. I don't want to get maried righ...

We fight a lot lately, so how do we get this resolved?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - My bf and I are in a long distance relationship; and I am planning to move in by the middle of May. The problem is that we've been fighting for a lot of time now. We fight, we reconcile, then we fight again. Our fight is about anything, we seem ...

Why did my guy I met on online dating site drastically lower the communication?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5507 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I met a guy from an online dating site. We talked for one month through email and kind of went on dates for a month. They went really well and things seemed promising until I met his best friend and sister and I didn't get along with the best ...

Sometimes comments on our age difference weighs me down, so how should I overcome this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I am in a great relationship with a guy 20 years older. We are both legal adults. Most people around when we are on a date treat us like they would anyone else. Usually once or twice per date we get a rude stare or worse. Once when we were toge...

How can I have a borderline superficial conversation to get a woman's interest?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (M) - Hello, I have a question that probably doesn't have any simple answer but I just was wondering what people might have to say. I tend to be able to have good long conversations about significant things or even things that aren't necessarily too impo...

Why won't he sleep with me more often?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We have a 2 yr daughter together. After the first year, he and I gained some weight. As the weight started adding on, the sex became less and less. I love having sex, and he loves having ...

I don't often feel fireworks

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend so much but i dont feel anything when we kiss that much. its only when he like touches me, like my sholder my hand etc. that i am like i love you :-] only a few times i felt something like fireworks when we kissed, is this ...

Help! Would you say we are together again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years and for the past year and a half I've felt that we were ready to get engaged and begin the next step in our lives together. He however, wasn't so sure. Fast forward to now and we moved ...

Would you say we are together again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - I just want some opinions on my current situation. I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months. We hit it off instantly. About a month ago, he breaks up with me because he wanted to focus on himself and his work. He was very stressed and ...

I have bruises from where he thumped me!

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 5503 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - A few days ago I threw my boyfriend his phone and I haven't got a really good aim and it sort of hit him in the side of the face, not hard, and I apologised and said something like 'eek sorry you know I'm crap at aiming' and he grabbed me and ...

Drama between me, him and her!!! What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - There is this guy I am in love with and I think that he likes me... We have went out, in fact he said he loved me and stuff, I don't know if he does like me or anything.... well his gf found out we were talking (cuz we're friends me and him) and ...

Should I feel sparks at the beginning?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

20 April 2009 (?) - I met this man a week ago. He is definitely a gentleman, the kind of man I'm not used to. I always fell for the bad boys which has always been disasters. I enjoy being with him, but I find myself wishing I was with the last man I was ...

How can I help my new husband become a better lover?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - First of all, I only had one sexual partner before my husband. Anyways, when I was seventeen, I lost my virginity to a guy I dated for two years. Four months after he and I broke up, I met the man I am now married to (we started dating within a ...

Help me with this love adventure...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - My ex.... well I loved him soooo much and he said he loved me but this girl came in the picture.... okay I thought she was my best friend... well she told him that she loved him soooo he dumped me and he said it was because I flirted with other guys ...

I think he only wants to meet me for sex... but I'm NOT ready!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - Hey, I need help asap. A guy I have known for about 6 years now, we are very good friends has asked me to meet him, I am really scared because I think he wants to have sex and I'm not ready, specially not with him, he's told me he just wants to ...

Broken up with disrespectful boyfriend, don't know where to go from here...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

20 April 2009 (F) - Hi again everyone, this is an update to a situation I brought up on here a few weeks ago. My boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years and I had gone "on a break" because he is 26 years old but acts like he is 5 (does baby-talk, has hissy fits) and is very ...