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Archived questions from: 17 April, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Why does he not like giving me oral sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - This guy I've been seeing is completely uninterested in giving me oral sex!! I give it to him every single time we're together but when I ask him if he'll reciprocate, he says he does a good enough job with his hand and no thanks. What is u...

I am so very lonely and living in a dead town doesn't help with nobody to talk to...

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4261 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I am very lonely, I have no friends, no boyfriend, there is nowhere to go in town, its living here. Nobody understands my loneliness and my sadness. I cry because I am so lonely and upset. There is nothing I can do about it. I go nowhere, I ...

Do you think he'll come back?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have just broken up, he has been seeing another woman for a month, I found this out yesterday. We've been together for a year and a half and I feel as though my whole life has come tumbling down. I know who the woman is and ...

26 and never had a boyfriend, it's really getting me down...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Hello, my name is Jo and I need some help/advice, I am 26 and have never had a boyfriend (I am a virgin), the thing is I am never really attracted to anyone and the one time I was when we kissed it just I don't now, I ended up pulling away and ...

My boyfriend would rather spend time with his friends than me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend would rather spend time with his friends than me. I don't know why, I know he's not cheating because it's usually at his house with his grandma there and she would never allow that to go on. And when they do go out several of my friends ...

Is it worth continuing with him, in the hope of things ever getting better? Do people change or at forty is he set in his ways?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5510 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - hi, I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years, he has cheated on me once in the past (during our first year together), as far as I know he has not since. In the three years we have been together, I have never met any of his family o...

Hubby and I argue all the time, I'm at the end of my rope. Help!

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17 April 2009 (F) - Me and my hubby have been together for 11 years now and married for 5 years, we have 4 lovely chilren. We argue all the time about things that don't matter, so much now to breaking point, it's depressing me... when I try to tell him this he says ...

I thought I'd feel relieved that he's found someone else. Why do I find it so hard?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Hi. I'm a thirty year old woman with a seven year old son. Me and his father split up because we were arguing all the time - he didn't want to end the relationship and was quite possessive but I couldn't handle it any more. I felt really bad ...

Mom's house has a picture of his other woman and lost daughter.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - my man had a daughter with another woman and now they are divorced and the girl is in foster care. It's been 10 years the little girl was being abused but not by her mom. Her mom gave her up for drugs, the woman that was abusing her was her step ...

Think I'm pregnant..he has comittment issues..what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year now. We never use protection when we have sex. now i think im pregnant. i am afraid to tell him because he has comittment issues. i don't want him to think im trapping him. what should i do?...

I'm in an abusive relationship

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I am in a abusive relationship. My boyfriend is a possesive and jelous maniac. He does not let me go out with my friends, he doesnt let me talk to any male friends, he does not let me work in places that any guy will be, he doesnt let me wear alot ...

How can I help my negative partner....

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship with someone for two years and am seriously wondering how much longer I can continue or even if I should. The issue here is that my partner is VERY negative and judgmental of most things from sun-up to sun-down. If she i...

Am I a trophy to my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Well you know there are times when you want your boyfriend to like you for what you are and not for who you are.. the same with me I am 20 and my boyfriend is 21 and we were really attracted to each other from day 1 and we still are.. so basicall...

Has something similar to this ever happened to anyone you know?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I've just moved house a few days ago to a town twenty odd miles away from my boyfriend and I hadn't yet told him where I'm living, as we had a physical fight a couple of weeks ago and I'm thinking of leaving him. Anyway, last night he rang me and ...

Emotionally immature and sexually confused!

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17 April 2009 (F) - It’s been a couple of years, but the same issues are popping up again. I guess I would just like to know if anyone else is a emotionally immature/sexually confused 23 year old? The last girl I dated I broke up because she wanted more than ‘frien...

How do I make him come running back to me?

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17 April 2009 (F) - Basically a guy I've been sort of seeing in an offical way, we never see each other enough though we just speak online and texting. I sent him a text telling him we either start something or leave it and he didn't reply. So he obviously isn't that ...

He keeps calling me his ex wife's name by mistake... and it hurts!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and have been dating for 11 months now. He has been sweet and all those things good and bad, yet it's all good. A few times he has called me by his ex-wife's name. He done it once or twice... The problem came in when this afternoon we ...

My partner's children say they never want to meet me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5224 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - 6 years ago I met my partner in work and he was married for over 15 years with 2 children. Wrong I know! We fell in love and 5 months later he left his family and moved in with me. 5 months later he went back, but left again after 2 weeks. She ...

My marriage is in trouble. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - I've been with the same woman for over three years. We have a little girl and we have been married for over a year. I'm sick of it. She has literally sucked the life right of me. It has been over a year since I have played golf, been fishing, or b...

I think my partner's parents have some peculiar habits. What do you think?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - My partner has divulged that his mother sat topless at the dinner table once in front of him and his brothers (he was about 12 or 13 and is the eldest). Apparently she said she had wanted to see their reaction but her husband told her not to be s...

We make out then he ignores me afterwards...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - The other night me and my boyfriend got pretty intimate, not sex or anything, but we came close. The thing is, he hasn't contacted me or answered my calls since. I think he's avoiding me and I'm upset because that's the most I've ever done with a ...

Does he feel the same or is he just using me for sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I am in love with a guy that i have know for years. We are not bf and gf but we have had sex on many occasions. He was my first (as in i lost my virginity to him) and he has been my first for many things. (First guy to cook me dinner, first guy i ...

Does she still likes me and ignores me just to try and make it easier?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5509 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - A while back two of my good friends split up. He felt she was too close to me, and was jealous, and she couldn't stand it, which brought all kinds of things up between them. I tried to be there for them both, but he blamed me and wouldn't talk to ...

Should I believe him? He said he didn't post profile and messages on online dating sites.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - hey there i need advice as im soo confused me n my bf hav bin 2gtha a yr, i had my doubts about him cheating as hes told me a few lies in the past, so i decided to do some hunting. i went on to google n typed in the user name he uses the most, t...

Should I let my feelings for her remain a secret, at least for now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - I have had a best friend for 10 years, and known his girlfriend for around 6 years. I have always been incredibly attracted to his girlfriend but have never done anything to make a move or compromise their relationship. For example, if I feel I ...

My boyfriend is confusing the hell out of me about sex and I don't know what to do...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Ok, I need some serious advice from the guys out there, how would you want your gf/wife to handle this situation with you?? My boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year now, and up until recently he's had a drinking problem and the only...

My husband lies and gambles our money away. Where do we go from here?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4973 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - im 22 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years.We have a 2 year old son and we live together,but my boyfriend has a gambling problem. He lies to me all the time and gambles behind my back,he also thinks that its alright and makes me feel...

Should I be a self sacrificing dumb a*s or a self preserving b***h?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - ok so i have a problem. i have never been in a real relation ship, so i do not know how to handle this. There is a guy i have know since i was eight and he was twelve. i loved him from that moment on. im twenty now and he is mine and my brot...

I think I'm pregnant yet we're not supposed to be around each other.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Now i'm 16 and his 20. I have no clue what to do i think i'm pregnant by him which cause a problem cuz we're not suppose to be around each other. that's my mother's doing....

Too perfect... what to do???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Hello dear cupid, my problem may sound really weird but it matters to me a lot. My boyfriend is a very perfect guy, he knows everything, really calculative about everything. He is mature, understanding, loving and caring. We both love each o...

Will he come back to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I've made out with a guy who is 11 years older than me. He was my graduate student instructor last year but we started hanging out this year in March. in Fed, he met me again and talked to me and also asked for my #. One week later, he asked ...

His comment to the porn and DVDs I found: "My private life is my private life". Is there hope in this marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I'm 33, and my husband's 35. I was off work yesterday and cleaning the house to make it look nice, since we have guests coming over at the weekend. Our house looked sparkling, and still does now. I was shocked however to discover DVDs hidden ...

I can't make any sense of a relationship.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - Ok, so I took a job in Dubai. I met an Asian girl during my 1st month there. We had a date, but then lost contact, then bumped into each other again. I have a problem with girls, I often get like anxious. I talk to lots of girls and take lots of ...

I want to love him but I'm scared!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I have a problem but at the moment I don't know what to do. I'm a 21 year old female and I'm depressed, I was born with a rare craniofacial disease called cruzouns syndrome, I excel at most things in life work, friends etc, but when it comes to ...

Lost in space...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - Background: Our relationship was born out of a triangle and sadly had a turbulent birth. There were months of tension and passion. She is a professional and this last year and a half I believe we have had it good. We don't live together, we are a ...

He's losing interest in me because of my lies!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I'm involved in a relationship where at first I used to tell lies but at the moment the guy is realizing that I'm full of lies and I was never honest with him at the beginning of the relationship. At the beginning I took it as a joke but now when ...

Why would he say he had Gulf War Syndrome if he'd never been in the military?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - My husband came home from work yesterday and told me he has got Gulf War Syndrome. This doesn't make sense to me, as he's an office worker in a local distribution firm, and has never served in the military at all. Why would you say you had Gulf...

Is she just joking or are these strong hints from her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Agh, im so confused. basically, me and my best friend, who are both bi, have had feelings for each other for god knows how long. however, she is not out, and we are scare it will effect our friendship so we have decided not to do anything abou...

My boyfriend kissed two girls. Is he at fault?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - right i have a question guys. If you have a boyfriend who likes to make friends with any one. Would you class this as he's fault. We been together over 2 and half years. And two times he has made friends with two different girls and they both kiss...

Loveless...split family

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Dear readers, To cut a long story short, and without going into personal detail or circumstance. Is there anybody whom has lived apart from their partners for years on end and only get together may be 8 days a year... A phone call once a day to di...

It's all so confusing for me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - I have posted on here before about a friendship I have had with this girl and we were friends for almost a year and had some good times together. She has had a permanent partner since I have known her but she has cheated on him more than once and ...

Is this fixable? Should I give it another try? Should I let it go?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I am 23 years old with a 10 month old son. Abit of a long story//sorry! Please Help ME!! I met this guy who was 13 yrs older than me when I was 17 years old. He convinced me to go out with him, keeping it secret from both our families, until I ...

How can I reign in my emotions after being lied to?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5363 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I posted a question on here recently dealing with trust issues I have been having with my boyfriend of four years. I've gone back and forth thinking that it would be easier to just end it, but have decided to just give it time and try with all my ...

She says she loves me, but has no time for us?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - Hi I have been facing a peculiar problem. She is my office colleague. We started dating about 10 months back. However, during this period, we could not spend more than 20 hours so far. Every time I ask her out she seems to have an engagement. ...

Is my roommate gay and has feelings for me? He claims he's straight.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - (I'd like to apologize for the wall-of-text you're about to get.) Basically the story boils down to the fact that I could swear a roommate of mine is gay and has feelings for me, but he claims he's straight. I would like to state that I have neve...

Am I being selfish wanting my cake and to eat it to?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I'm 21 and he's 27. I will be graduating from college next month and my boyfriend revealed to me that he wanted to take me on a special trip to celebrate my graduation the day after my graduation. However, I told him that I would love to go but that...

Why do I still love him and want him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Hey guys.Here's my question:I lived next door to this one girl and she had a boyfriend who used to talk to me.Then the girl moved and I never saw them again. Well,I was 9 at the time.It's been 5-6 years later and I finally found her boyfriend agai...

Go with the flow or time to talk about it now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I've been casually dating this guy for about eight months. We have not been exclusive. I'm going thru a divorce and he had just broken up with his girlfriend when we first started hanging out. We have talked almost everyday since the beginning, ...

My head says no but my heart says yes, should I give him another chance?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - 5 months ago i discovered my boyfriend of 4 years was cheating on me, found a text saying 'come over so we can finally be alone' and believed that they did have sexual relations but merely emotional cheating at that time. Inevitably it was over ...

How can I make my Mom trust my boyfriend/best friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (?) - Hello! My mom doesn't like my boyfriend at all. She doesn't trust him. He broke up with me once for a day and I was shattered, but even before that, my mom never liked him, back when he was just my best friend. Any tips on how I can make her see...

I lost her, Please help

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - Well first thing we had what you would call an ideal relationship. We were talking about getting married and having kids. It was perfect. But one day she broke up with me because she said "Do you think we were better as friends" I said no i don'...

Is my man just using me for sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5495 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - i am dating a guy much older then me for 7 months now, but it s not a normal relationship, he lets me see him once maybe twice a month...and it s mostly sex, he is divorced, lives alone, and i believe doesn t want anything serious, but i feel he ...

Is it wrong for me to fake my own death to see if she still loves me?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

17 April 2009 (M) - Well basically my ex havn't been going out for ages, but I'm going out for her best mate (2 months) and she's always trying to get her to dump me but the girl i'm with doesn't want to dump me so i'm thinking. Is it wrong to fake my own death to prov...

His family likes me, but I don't get why he doesn't (like me)

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5454 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - i'm fifteen. and i lost my virginity to this amazing guy. we were together a few months after i actually had sex with him for the first time. we didn't do it all the time. we've probably only done it 10-15 times. but about a month ago, he dump...

Family problems and how to tell teacher she is my "mother figure"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I;m 15 and my family is going through a rough time. Always fighting now. one of our close family friends died last month and our best friends got divorced. My parents are always fighting. Alot of it gets pinned on me. I really want to reach...

Should or or should I not, travel with him this summer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (?) - Ok, I know I may sound superficial, but in my culture, IMAGE is all that matters for a woman; the way she dresses, she talks, her actions and who she goes out with. I would like you to bare this in mind. My reputation is very important for so...

In Love and Uncertain

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5508 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - My question: I'm single mom of 8 year old boy. He is also a fulltime single parent of a 14yr old daughter, and he picks his 9 year old boy (of another relationship) every weekend from out of state. It's been over a year. Most everything betw...

My life is full of bad stuff. What can I do to make it better?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm 13 (account age is wrong) and I just started high school. I think my life is just crashing down on me and I think I really need help. Well basically, life at home is no better either. I'm embarrassed to say that my sister is possibly mad ...

Married but in love with my cousin and now he's going to marry to have kids!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - my story is going to sound very confusing but I need help please I'm 35 years old married very young at the age of 14,it was my parents choice to marry my husband so he can sponsor me to the US and then I'll sponsor my brothers to establis...

Why does he use Porn to get off...and ignores me??I am more than willing!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - Hi... i feel kinda embarassed to asked this but i have to since i cant get answers from my bf.. We've been together for almost 7 months now, out of all that time he has been watching porn for like 1 1/2 almost EVERY DAY.. He didnt tell me he was ...

I feel like something out of the Jeremy Kyle show, help!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

17 April 2009 (F) - I feel like I am on the verge of a massive break down and everything is compouding onto my chest. I was sexually assaulted 3 years ago by someone who I thought was a mate, 2 months later my badminton coach and close mate of my dads started perving ...