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writes:Hello I'm 29 years old and my partner is 50, we have been shacking up for 2.5 years outside of the few times I kicked him out. We are both attractive and it is not a sugar daddy realtionship I love him deeply and do not want another relationship. We recently miscarried what would have been my first child. He has purchased me two rings but niether was an engagement, I'm tired of waiting on him to propose officially he has asked numerous times but those doesn't count to me. Should I continue to anticipate him realizing how much of a lucky old man he is or should we end the charades. Help what should I do to motivate a proposal? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): Tell him what you want. Simple as that!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 April 2009):
 Hi there,
Why did you kick him out? What did he do to deserve that? As I read your question, I get the same vibe that "Kellyxxx" got - why do you want to marry him? Not only does he have to have done something to deserve getting his butt kicked out, but he certainly is much older than you and if you're trying to have children... they'll be sadly getting an old man for a Daddy. To have a father die while a child is still young, before they get married, have children, etc., can be devastating. Not to mention, they won't get a terribly active Dad, at least not for long. If he falls ill, you'll be the one taking care of him AND the kids.
But true, genuine love is true, genuine love. If you can't live without him and if he treats you fantastically and makes you feel like a million bucks, talk to him about your future together. You need to ask him questions, ask him if he wants to get married in the future, and if so - are you the bride?
Some real thinking and a good talk is in order for you two. Good luck!
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (20 April 2009):
 Are you sure you want to marry this man? You aren't exactly going to be spending the rest of your life with him. When he dies you'll be a widow and still young! Why don't you just ask him if that's what you really want? X
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