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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Where is this relationship going, please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating an older (divorced) man for a year now and we still don't have sex. We are very sexually active in other ways (by masterbating with each other, foreplay...) but he says that sex means alot to him if it's in a relationship. He ...

Lack of oral sex in a relationship...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I've been dating a girl for 2 years now, and we never have oral sex. She doesn't want me to do it for her, but I do want her to do it to me. I'm not selfish though, I'd go down on her 7 days a week if she'd let me. I love giving oral to women. ...

Please help me, I don't wanna lose him, I love himm to death but I feel so guilty!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I hope you can help me, I'm a married woman age 21 years and I also have a 4 year old son! My problem is whenever my husband and myself are having sex I don't feel like it, but he never noticed it because I never let him see that, I know he loves ...

My problem includes three people, my frend, the guy we BOTH like and me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - My problem includes three people, my frend, the guy we BOTH like and me. I told my friend I don't mind if she asks him out. He said yes, but it was only to not really hurt her. So that's not really the problem, it's just that that lead to him not ...

It's been 27 years now and they still don't seem to be able to work their marriage out!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I am in my first year university, I am 20 and yes I still live with my parents. Now I am finding it really hard to cope as my parents keep fighting and arguing all the time. My dad hits my mom too. I don't really talk to my dad, we are not clos...

What on earth do you think he's up to? It sounds very dodgy to me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Hi, this is really weird. The other week I had a fight with my boyfriend, afterwards we made up and he made out he wasn't still mad, but he made this phone call in front of me just before I left his house. He mentioned a "sick plan" and some man - ...

Is he just using me for sex and company?

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16 April 2009 (F) - I am 17 years old, and was dating a boy who has turned 19 for 4 months. He dumped me on the night of a party I was hosting claiming that I acted like "a drunk hoe". I really wasn't acting that bad, he just didn't like that I paid more attention to ...

Loveless...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Dear readers, To cut a long story short, and without going into personal detail or circumstance. Is there anybody whom has lived apart from their partners for years on end and only get together may be 8 days a year... A phone call once a day to d...

I'm constantly worried about what my man is up to when I'm not around.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I'm constantly worried about what my man is up to when I'm not around. It's not like he does anything particularly major which makes me feel really silly and pathetic. I know it's not healthy in a relationship. There's so much that's right with him ...

What do I do about all the trouble and insecurity I have in this relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - me and my mate of 8 years are always arguing about everything and anything.he has trust issues with me and i have trust issues about him ever since i found porno flicks and a female video of him taping her ass and commenting on how her ass is big ...

He pushes me away now..says he's just too tired

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4928 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - my fiance and I have been together for almost 3 yrs.. i am 21 and he is 28. lately he doesnt kiss me and doesnt want sex as much.. we use to have sex about 3-5 times a week and are now down to 1 a week if im lucky! i understand that he is so...

No sex in marriage for years..why won't he come out with his "secret"??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - My biggest fear,that my husband will come up with a secret ,one day. He stopped having sex with me years ago, and I know, something is ''not ok with him'', but, I don't know what, as he knows very well how to hide his feelings. First he worke...

Weird situation-help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - about 2 weeks ago my boyfriend hit me several times during an argument, although I decided to forgive him this time, he's been acting really paranoid that I will report him- then the other day, I noticed a group of young men following me across town...

What would you do in this case?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Hello, What would you if your boyfriend cheated on you with his ex? The ex confronts you and tells things you never knew (not even that your boyfriend was seeing her behind your back), and all this time you his was over with his ex? What would...

I love him but it is suffocating me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - hi, im an indian girl, i always have been one of a kind girl. i have a problem in my relationship which may sound dumb to u ,but it means alot to me.im dating a guy, who is too perfect to be true. he is honest loving,caring,too calculated and ver...

My b/f never stops talking about "hot" women it's making me feel uncomfortable

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - The problem I have is that my boyfriend constantly - and I mean it - talks about other women as being "hot" and that he'd "do" them. It makes me uncomfortable, as he knows I don't have the greatest self-image of myself. It makes me wonder what he ...

He says he loves me, but only texts and calls me when I contact him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - i have a problem with the father of my kid.we been together for 4 years now but he says he loves me but the problem is he doesn call or sms me,he only cals wen i sms him first or give a miscal.we don't stay together, this is actualy a distance rela...

Should I give the one-millionth and one chance or should I just finally accept it is hopeless

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - O.k. Where to start? I have been married for 15 years and I know I want separation, but unsure if I want a Divorce. We have done the marriage counseling for the first time in January after my final ultimatum he finally agreed to go. Always ...

How do I get over a broken heart? I love him and want him back although he is not worth it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, Two nights ago my boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me. He was my first boyfriend and my first kiss, I was and still am completely in love with him. I had noticed he had been a bit off with me around other people but when we were alo...

How can I get her to give me that chance and start building her trust again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I'm worried that i've lost the girl of my dreams forever. We were together for 4 years and in the last few months i didn't realise how distant i had become. We broke up in November because of this but we both missed each other so much that we got ...

Am torn between 2 guys..my bf and my best friend!! what to do?!?! confused!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - hi i am 20 and m with a guy for d last 3 yrs. this guy, my bf was gud...very sweet at first...but as time passed he has changed a lot...not as a person but surely his habits have changed. now he drinks ..smokes..gambles...n is alwayz out busy with ...

Should I take her back someday?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - my ex recently ask me to break up,because she needs time to deal with some legal issues and also she wants to figure out what to do with her life but she wants us to remain friends and for me to continue with my life. she is in the process of divo...

5 years on and off - what's going on with them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Hi my friend he's been on and off with his girlfriend for 5 years! they again recently split up because she said he doesn't make her happy. he said he still loves her and she wants to still be friends he said he can't do it. but they met up ...

10 years of a loveless marriage, but met an interesting and loving guy online. Advice please.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Guys i am in a desperate need for some help. About myself in general....I am a 30 year old asian married woman with a child. I have been married for good 10 yrs now....i was married early (arranged marriage due to our culture). My husband is a...

My husband answered an online question by a girl. Should I approach him on it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5510 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I've been having trouble with my trust issues with my husband and now I found that he answered a question that was asked online by a girl is this really something to be mad over and should I approach him about it? I'm really upset about this!...

Terrible Guilt for my husband

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Hi. im going through a terrible time. I have a 1 year old and a husband who I am divorcing. We have been married nearly 3 years but have been on and off for 9 years - he is very emotionally unstable when it comes to love and relationships. Wh...

I am really baffled by this!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married a year together for two.. When we got together his oldest daughters were moved out and it was just his son.. Well his oldest daughter was living with her boyfriend and his parents. Neither one of them had a jo...

I had sex with my best friend and guess what? I'm now I'm in love with her.... so am I a lesbian?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - hi, im 17years old and i have a problem... and recently found that i have begun to have odd feelings towards my best friend who is also a girl. shes unbelievably pretty, smart, funny and i melt when she speaks to me, which is quite often as i see he...

I'm having an affair and my husband is bipolar

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4240 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Before starting, let me state that this is not your "typical" issue - at least I hope other people are not in similar situations. I'm a professional woman in my 40's with 2 grown children and a great career. I've been married for 24 years and it's...

My bf makes me upset when he talks about our relationship, almost 'failing'

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Been with my bf for a while now 6-7 months. When he gets depressed I get really upset, like last night he said to me on the phone that everyday he is with me he feels its another one off. I asked him this morning if he is happy and he said he is bu...

Is my girlfriend too young for me, do you think?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I have been dating a much younger girl for 6 months now (im coming on 27,she is 17) She is a great girl,she is understanding and caring. My problem is,she has met most of my family and friends on a number of occasions and each time she will ju...

I love her but she's sleeping with alot of men, do I stay or go?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - hi. im 19 and have a problem. in the short time I've been on this earth I've lived quite a long life. I've seen and lived thru the worst of the worst (and I mean like dad put in jail mom hates you and sister is psycho) I've been poor all my life and ...

He wanted to be single so I broke up with him but now he's uncertain

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - I'm not getting over my ex and I dont really want to either. My boyfriend of 3 years revealed to me he wanted us to go on a break as he never had a single life, he was busy doing other things and didnt get toghether with many girls at all. He is ...

Trusting my girlfriend's mates

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - Ive been with my girlfriend for about a month now. We had been close before, but it was never 'official'. I love her alot, I put her infront of myself every time I can. The only problem is, im finding it hard to trust her. Its not so much her I don'...

Recovering Alcoholics don't keep drinking after right?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - i'm sorry but theres a guy who is CLEARLY lying to me. if you were an alcoholic you wouldn't be drinking still would you? like going out getting bladdered things like that? because this guy i was dating told me he was an alcoholic and th...

Am pregnant, confused and my boyfriend tells me he needs a break, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (?) - I have this man I have known for about four months. I am a month pregnant by him. When I told him, he asked me to terminate. I was against the idea and I suggested marriage. He said he was not ready, but could support the child. Out of frustrat...

Am I too short, as a male?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - I went on two really great dates recently with a girl I met at my college through a friend. It seemed as those we connected in every way. After the second date things seemed to fizzle out. I wonder why until a friend on mine told me that he had ran ...

Is he over his wife or are the feelings still lingering

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - My man and I age difference is 31 years apart. He has 3 grown kids plus my son. I love him and he says he loves me but every time we have a conversation he has to bring up his ex wife who cheated. Does he still love her or miss her. Although he says...

I feel really bad and guilty for not being there for her.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - Ok, I am 16 years old and I have dated this girl on and off for about 6 years I love her with all of my heart. About 6 months ago she told me that she was raped and I just comforted her for awhile, later she came out and told me who did it. It was ...

Should I Break the Cycle?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Seven months ago I met a very handsome man while hanging out with friends. A month into "dating" him, I found out that he was a professional athlete, something he did not want me to know. We continued as usual. After a while, he started to trav...

Abusive BF making life hell do I try to sort it out or cut my losses?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - Hi I really need some advice about my partner. We've been together for about 5 years during which time he was going through a divorce from his estranged wife. Over the years I noticed more and more that he can be verbally abusive. He said that ...

Can someone help me define this for me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

16 April 2009 (F) - 1.Ok, should I be upset because my ex does not see my son any more? 2. A man (my ex) who had issues with a gay man who used to write love letters to him at work, used to hang out with some fruity guys at college, and whose mom also had a conce...

I will always love her!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

16 April 2009 (M) - We were classmates in highschool, at first I didn't like her much but after a year or two I got a crush on her. Unfortunately she was already in love with other classmate and soon after, she got married and had a kid with him. Seven years have ...