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Archived questions from: 13 April, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

He told me he'll never change... does that mean he doesn't love me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for like 9 months. I love him so much but we always fight, I know fighting is normal but not all the time.. he has a really bad temper and he gets mad for everything and he always causes it. I don't know why he does ...

I keep going back and forth with him and don't know what to do for the best. Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have been with this guy for 8 months now. Since the first month I have been back and forth about whether I should be with him or not, despite the fact that we got along really well, he treated me well, etc. I found him to be really needy and I ...

Was I right to leave my emotionally abusive ex-boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I went out with a guy on and off for 3 months. We spent so much time together and he was so charming. After the first month, things degraded and we argued a lot. He gave me silent treatment lots. But we always made up. Then one night he embarrassed ...

Why is my life so miserable?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I just can't handle it any more! It seems like there just seems to be dozens of more crap by the day! My life has always been complicated and hard. I hardly know any of my family including my brother who to be honest has broken my heart and the rest ...

My life is going from bad to worse!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Hi, my life is going from bad to worse. I am the wife with the text cheating husband. You might have been following my story. Well I discovered a couple of weeks ago that he's had a pay as you go mobile for the last 8 months after I thought the ...

Silent treatment and no answer. What do do ...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have currently developed feelings for this guy that I've known for around four years. Things have started to develop with us but we haven't had intercourse with him. Even though we both want to do things, afterwards I feel like he's given me the ...

I need to quiet my mind, or...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Ug...I can't believe I'm even asking this. My GF and I are in our late forties...certainly old enough to not play games. My GF has taken a short vacation, for which I am happy for her. She works hard and deserves it. My concern is... On the ...

I cannot move on as I love her with all my heart and will wait forever for her to come back.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - hello, im in the army and started a relationship about 6 months ago, and everything was going great. However after 5 months my partner fell pregnant totally by accident, and everything changed. she already has one child and i treat him fairly and ...

My husband swore this was the first time he cheated. Do I give him a chance?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - My partner of 10 years and father of our 2 children,youngest 6months old has been sort of offhand with me for the past few weeks. He came home tonight and blurted out he had been seeing a co-worker for the past few weeks and has finished with her ...

Do Virgo men take an awfully long time to open up and trust women?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have been in love with a man since last summer. I made my feelings towards him fairly clear but at Christmas he said he could only offer me friendship, despite the fact that he was sending messages to indicate he wanted more. I decided I would de...

Should I take a sabbatical from all men?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have been with my current boyfriend for almost two years, he has a lot of problems and growing up to do as far as his own life is concerned and I got tired of waiting around and so I told him I was going to start seeing someone else. After ha...

No foreplay and no condoms!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - No foreplay and no condoms! I have just started to sleep with my guy - but he seems reluctant to give me any foreplay! Also he says that when we do have sex he doesn't like using condoms!! - I am confused with what to do - as I love him but am unsur...

Is he making me depressed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - i met this guy online and we have been best friends for about a year now and we talk everyday and i really mean everyday and im super happy when i talk to him and im my normal self but when we arent talking my friends and family think im depressed ...

Why do I hate my boyfriend masturbating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - This may be a very unusual query but ANY advice would be helpful! My long-term boyfriend (known each other for 5 years) has a rather strange view on sexual matters. When he gets very depressed (for instance, when we have a big argument), he sees mas...

My married man's wife is pregnant! What should I do?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4955 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I am 24 years old and have been having an affair with a 33 yr old married man from my small community for over a year now. I just found out that his wife is pregnant. I have tried to end our relationship but I always find myself drawn to him. A f...

I feel so used and hurt and cannot believe he didnt really value our friendship!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5394 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - YES, YES! I am finally admitting it, I NEED HELP! I met this guy (online) about three and half years ago. At the time I was 'kinda' involved with someone else and he TOO had 'designs' on a chick. We hit it off immediately -sharing same sense of hu...

How do I get out of our engagement? He's not the one anymore

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - My fiance and I have been together for exactly two years and one month now. I'm nineteen and my fiance is seventeen. Although he's only a year younger than me in school terms, he's just a really young guy in his graduating class. Anyways, just ...

Longing for the love I once had and want to have a family.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Hi everyone,I have a boyfriend who I have been with from I was 14,but when I turn 16 I was on a plane to the us. I was so said and hurt for leaving him down there and I always remember the last time I saw him he was crying so much. I came up here...

Confessions of an Agony Uncle

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 707 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - On the 4th of November 2008 I signed up for a name and posted my first answer on this site. It was some quiet advice on career choices. Last night I posted my 100th. Just a bit of general advice on sex. In between I've gotten my ire up about ...

What is she thinking? It's really confusing me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Hi there. I recently split with my ex of 3 years 2 weeks ago. I am 27 she is 22. It was her decision but we had a long talk and decided it was for the best as we just seem to have "grown apart". However i was in fact devastated by this and spen...

My gf wants me to choose between her or my family (with my handicapped brother)

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I wonder if you guys can help me on this matter. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now and we've started to talk about marriage and moving in together. I currently live with my mum and my twenty year old brother who is in a whee...

We broke up after we had a three-some. I felt so disrespected by him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Hi guys, My fiance and I went out last night after having a 3some with another woman the night before (his idea) We went to a bar and he kept reacting around a certain girl who was out. I asked what was wrong as he kept gasping, stopping still a...

What kind of friendship is she looking for ?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - hello people ...i broke up with my gf 2 weeks ago because it really had no future and i had a strong reason...she is and will always be the most special person for whom i care a lot in my life.... she is really sweet and very understanding and want...

My bf is 7 yrs older than me and I know it's illegal for us to date. Is he worth it?? Please read xxx

This question has 34 answers - newest was posted 5509 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - i am currently going out with a 21 year old and im only 13 (he was 20 when we started seeing eachother) the thing is he hasnt pressured me into anything and ive never felt this way before. i know about his past and everything ive spoken 2 his cous...

I am so infatuated with my sister in-law.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5399 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I am 32 male, married and love my wife to bits. she's also 32. since We fell in love nearly a decade ago we have been together all the time spending both quantity and quality time together. I have never ever, even once looked at any other woman ...

Is her love for us fading out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I've been dating my partner now for 4 1/2 years we have a lovely little boy of 2 1/2 years. Over the last 6 months things seem to have changed dramatically as we hardly ever see each other. we live together but are lucky to spend a few hours a day ...

Is there a way to salvage a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - is there a way to salvage a relationship once it has gotten to the point where the person your with is continuously disrespecting you? my boyfriend is always calling me a slut, whore even a cunt. He is overly jealous and tries to make me feel guilty ...

Should I tell him, or just stay away from their business?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - i like this guy whose girlfriend is most likely cheating on him he asked me advice but ive known the girl for 2 yrs she's never stayed in a relationship for long should i tell him or just stay out of it I really don't want him hurt....

What do you guys think? Do I no longer want boys?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I'm in a really complex situation right now. ok, I had an ex for 10months but we dated back in high school (the senior years) its been almost 2years since our break up, but during that time we'd use to flirt and always looked like we were going to g...

Should I leave my ex and move on with new lady? What about our son?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I have been together with my girlfriend for about 4 years im 23 and she 22, on and off, throughout the relationship it has not been perfect. A year into the relationship she was pregnant, 6 months after we broke up after constant arguments, she has ...

Mum had an affair, and possibly still is.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5370 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - About 5 months ago my mum had an affair with my dads friend. My dad was furious when he found out and extremely upset, my mum sounded like she wanted to leave him completely for the other guy. I found all this out gradually while overhearing their ...

My boyfriend, or the bit on the side? I like them both! What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I really don't know what to do. I am in a relationship which i have been in for 7 years and when we first got together, he cheated on me several times with my ex best friend, since then there has been suspicious incidents regarding friends and situ...

My guy made me feel like I did something wrong. Did I?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Saturday night I went out with my boyfriend and 4other people he knows(1 being a girl). It was suppose 2b me and my guy at 1st but his man called wanting to go to the movies bringing along his girl. We get in the car and the plans have change. The ...

There' so much trust broken. What more can I do than walk away?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5513 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Not quite sure where to begin. I posted a problem about 18 months ago whilst I was undergoing treatment for breast cancer. My partner of then just 6 months was signing up to dogging websites etc and you guys offered me invaluable advice - Thank ...

I need to pull myself out of this heartbreak but I don't know how.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I really need to pull myself out of this heartbreak and i dont know how. i'll cut my story really short all that i care about now is that i miss him and i dont think there is anyway back as he made it clear he has absolutely nothing else to say to ...

In love with my boyfriends cousin!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Im falling hopelessly in love with my boyfriends cousin. Everything about him is amazing. His 10 years older then me, as in I am 21 and he is turning 31. But I cant stop thinking about him. We meet for coffee and lunch every week, he visits me, we ...

I just want him to be my best friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - my closest and best friend is in love with me but i dont feel the same yet i don't want to see him sad. i just want him to be my friend. am so confused...

The Police keeps harassing us because my ex bf violated parole

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - my now ex boyfriend violated parole months ago. he doesn't live with me, btw i live in bronx new york. officers keep coming here, they just left a few minutes ago. its now 600 am, they got here at 445 am. i have repeatedly told them the same ...

I still love him but I don't know if I should take him back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Hey I need help ASAP. My ex wants me back but I found out earlier that he tried to put the moves on "K" his room mate. She laughed at him when he bought her roses. So I think he only wants me back because she turned him down. But I still love him ...

We both love each other but I don't know if I could trust her or him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months. But we broke up last week because we just couldn't handle us fighting all the time. We seemed t be fighting about the same stuff over and over. I was going to school and working too much and ...

Is my girlfriend being unfair by not forgiving me my mistake?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I've been in a relationship for eight months. I love my girlfriend but, alas, I've made some stupid mistakes. Considering that our relationship is long-distance, it's been difficult on me as I'm a guy and had recently lost my virginity (to my...

Am I wrong to feel this need for our penance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Here’s the story… This happened years ago… So, I met this girl who was a little rebellious at first. She was flunking out of school and what not. I really liked her because she was herself around me. I feel madly in love with her. She was perfect ...

I'm starting to lose my feelings for this girl but I'm so scared of breaking up with her

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Hello everybody... I've been with my girlfriend for 10 months now and we've already been through so much together... But, I think starting to lose my feelings for this girl but I'm so scared of breaking up with her because i don't want to hu...

What on Earth do I do about all this lying?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Right. Very long story short.. I've been with this girl for 20 months (engaged since August)and everything was absolutely fine until.. January sometime. Basically, she went to University, not too far away, close enough that I can see her *nearly*...

Should I ask her about this other guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Dear all, I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year now, and things are going pretty well. We get along quite well, laugh a lot, and have many things in common. We see there is a future for us. I must say that sex life is rather dull t...

Why do they do it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - why do so many girls get back with their ex's after they cheated on them?? i would never cheat, and think it is a very horrible thing to do, but why do girls get back with guys that cheated on them? how can they trust him?...

Can anyone tell me what my problem is?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - I'm a guy, i've been dating since i was 16, albeit poorly. I've tried to be every kind of guy, badass, nice, and in between. And everything else you can think of. All i want, all i've ever wanted, is a stable relationship. Something that, i can ...

I had fallen into a deep sleep but woke up because he had his hands all over me!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - Hi Guys, I'm feeling a little confused - A few nights ago I was staying at a friend's house, we were watching movies and having a bit of a drink, nothing too out of the usual. A few months ago he'd confessed to having a little thing for me, bu...

I'm back..why doesn't he make any effort to see me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I've been with this guy for around 6 months now. We had a great first 4 months, then I had to move to another part of the country. We've taken things long distance for the last 2. What confuses me now is that I'm back for a few weeks, and he ha...

Confused! Is this love? Should I give him some space?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5516 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I have been going out with my bf for about a month now and a half, how we hooked up was him revealing his love for me and i gave him a chance finally. I have been hurt many times with ppl cheating on me and it is taken me a while to stop being scar...

What would you do if your bf had 4 women spend the night?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5516 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - What would you do if your boyfriend had four females spend the night? I had recently gotten back together with my ex after a two no contact period. He had cheated on me in our relationship before and we broke up. Fast forward two years, we got back...

I love them...both.

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

13 April 2009 (F) - I've been married since last June, but we've been together since 2002. In 2005, I met a man. A great man. We fell in love so fast and effortlessly. But I was in a relationship and scared to leave for what I may have been giving up. Nonethel...

I really can't cope with the constant rejection!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5516 days ago

13 April 2009 (M) - Hi everybody. My problem is this, I am in love with a girl who is also my best friend. We are pretty much like a married couple and even refer to each other as husband and wife, i've never told her because I really don't know how she feels back. ...