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Archived questions from: 10 April, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

How can I be a better mom?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5516 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - How can I be a better mom? I am disturbed by my ex husband. I've gone through a lot. He kicked me and our son when the child was an infant from our home. It was late night when I had to pack clothes and my son in a carriage to walk to my parent's ...

He wants me to wait 2 years till I finish university..but I am not sure that he'll wait for me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - help i dont know wat to do!!! hi i am only out of a 5yr relationship because my partner is moving to canada when he finishes uni. i would go to but i have 2 yrs to do first. we were set to plan a wedding then he decided to go back to where he used...

I'm no angel myself but I want to work things out and she just wants out!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - Hi I have been with my baby's mom for 6 years. Recently we have been having alot of problems. I have found wierd numbers on the cell phone bills, she has been coming home. I know Im no angel my self. I get really angry. Recently I found out my mom ...

He's twice my age, married, and yet this relationship is keeping me from meeting others

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Okay, so here it is...I went onto this site (games) and got chatting to this guy, who I found out is twice my age and married...and doesn't even live in the same country. It was just innocent chat so I added him on msn and the more we talked the ...

My friend is annoying me so much at the moment, how do I deal with her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I've been going out with this guy for 3 months and things are great between us and it was my best friend *Hannah who got us together in the first place cause she knew I liked him and wouldn't say anything to him about it so she told him and it ...

After his experimenting 7 years ago, I'm terrified my boyfriend might have sex with his best male friend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Firstly, my boyfriend has never given me a reason not to trust him - as far as I know, he's never cheated on me, or any of his partners. But, we where talking a few months ago, and I found out that when he was about 16, he had a gay relation...

My boyfriend loves me but is trying to break up with me...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are in a serious relationship. We have talked about marriage and know that we want to be with each other forever but the past month there have been some fights and things haven't been picture perfect. I see this as growing but he ...

Boyfriend's Muslim family wont accept me :-(

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5511 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - i have been with this guy for 6 months and his family is Muslim, but he doesn't believe in that. i am white, and not Muslim, therefore they don't want me to go out with him. they found out about us, and forced him to break up with me. but we got ...

I'm getting the point where I just feel used for sex.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - So ive been dating this guy for 8 months on and on. But not going out. He says he wants to be single but we cant see other people. Of course it sketchy to me. But we've been hooking up all the time. And im getting the point where i just feel use...

My bf still texts and calls his ex-wife and denies it. What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend hasn't been divorced too long. They had no kids. We have had ongoing arguments about how they call each other about minor things and how it bothered me so I thought it had stopped. He told her there was no need for contact unle...

I looked at her texts and I think my girlfriend is cheating on me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - hi i have a girl friend and i think she is cheating on me the first thing that made me think that was i looked at her texts and it was one of her friends saying that she would set my girlfriend up with there male friend that they both know and th...

Opinions on not marrying or having children

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5494 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been hesitating in asking, but ended up asking anyway since I want to know as much opinions as possible concerning this. I grew up in a loving family. I never had any abuse of any sort. Currently in a loving relationship with a man. I ...

Is this a lost cause or should I give him another week?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Okay Im a bit torn right now cause my boyfriend of 7months said some bad things about me over the phone last night. Let me start from the beginning, everything was good Tuesday night til I went downstairs to get the laundry; I came back in the ...

The Unforgivable and Most Heinous Act thinkable

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - My Boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years and we have gotten into many arguments over time. Things progressively got worse. He used to throw things and break them, then he started pushing me and I will admit that I used to hit him ...

Will the ex ever be gone or should I just walk away now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been married almost a year. I am 26 and my husband is 28. We dated for almost 3 and a half years before we got married. We dated the first time while in college. He was still involved with his ex girlfriend (behind my back), so I left...

Sad lonely and dying inside

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Help I started a new job and this man 11 years older then me started displaying a huge interest in me. I used to go to school with his partner and this is was the common factor in our friendship. I never found him attractive or interesting ...

Should I break up? Because she is too afraid to

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - My gf of 6 years broke up with me about a year ago this time. That lasted for all of 2 months or so and she returned saying that she was just going through changes and she felt kinda trapped. She has since felt horrible about doing the break and ...

Am I a needy girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I know most people define needy girlfriends as being too possessive; which I am not. However, I do try and get him to spend some time with me a lot. Thing is though, it never works. We're both in High School, so we dont have time consuming jobs yet...

My gf is changing and she is afraid to show me......

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - To give background to the situation..Im 27 and my gf is 22. She tends to keep to herself for the most part very kind and loving, somewhat painfully quiet at times. She has been trying to come out of her shell more and thats fine, I want her to. Whil...

Should I stay with him? This is more emotion that I can process...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5510 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - i am 17 and have/had a boyfriend before he took a gap year and moved to mexico, we had only been going out 4 months before he left but we had gotten so close that it really was heart breaking, i was a mess for a while and even though we had agreed ...

Why is he suddenly being so difficult?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been with my new bf for a few months now things were going really well up until he went out on his mates stag weekend since he has come back he has barely seen me. I have hardly had any texts off him and when i do they are quite moody, w...

I was an escourt and my b/f of 4 years can't seem to get over it

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - 10 years ago I worked as an escort. I met my boyfriend 4 years ago and, as soon as the relationship started to get serious, I told him of my past. I wanted to be honest from the outset, and give him an opportunity to walk away. He stayed with...

My fiance is a foreigner, and I have found out he is married!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for quite along time now and we have recently engaged he is of foreign nationality. I have recently discovered various things i didn't know about him eg: marriage of possible convenience for status. I don't know wha...

2 years into the relationship, he still calls me by his ex's name!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend was with a girl for 7yrs,and they split up. a year after splitting up from his ex,he met me. we've been together for over a year now. in the early stages he called me by his ex's name,which i didn't like but i understood,maybe it was ...

Follow up: My husband's "mysterious" trips to Canada

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - A follow-up on my original question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-my-husband-having-business-trips-.html I thought I'd post a follow-up. Apparently my husband had been living a double life - in Canada and over here. I know this becaus...

Are we too early in the relationship to go for counseling?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Ok dont know where to start.... Have been in an on off relationship for the past 2years,my boyfriend is ten years older then me and basically a complete opposite person to me however by some miracle we clicked!! We have had many bumpy rides in o...

I'm in love with two best friends

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - me and my bf (mr x) have been dating for 2 years but we broke up for 2 months and during that period i dated his best friend (mr k) although it was a long distance relationship i was happy, when ever mr x hurt me mr k was there to help keep me sain....

Please help. I feel so worthless and not wanted!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - Hello guys, Basically, the background of this story is that my ex-girlfriend dumped me about 7 months ago last August. We've dated each other for 2 years and have known each other for a total of 4 years. I am a junior in college currently gr...

Should I trust my wife's decisions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - Ok where do I start? We are coming up on our 1 year anniversary. Now my wife was raised by men. Her father guy cousins and older brother. She was always more of a tomboy. I understand all this, but my problem there lies within. Her best fri...

She has a nude picture of her ex in her phone. What do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend has recently been away to visit someone with a friend (You may note the person she went to see is an ex sexual partner). Our relationship has been a bit rocky recently and she said she needed to get away for a few days, which i agre...

He said he liked me now he's ignoring me :-(

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - My guy friend told me that he liked me but I wasn't sure if he had a girlfriend or not so even though I happen to like him myself I was friendly to him but nothing more, I still stayed and had a chat and let him have my number too. He was texting...

So many differences between him and I. I am confused. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - hi friends, i need your help.i'm very much confused about my relationship with my friend. i'm 18years old. before 9 months i met a boy.we became close friends.i've never talked to any boys before tat. he's the first boy to whom i've talked oth...

Three star crossed lovers

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - so im married and i think i really like my buddy in the marines, he is in iraq and makes it a point to call me almost everyday. my husband and i have had close calls of divorces lately and were trying to work it out. im confused. i grew up with...

I have no idea how to even begin to get through this. Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - 2 years ago, at a party, I met this girl. We totally hit it off, and found out that we were both (randomly) moving to the same city (2000 miles away) for the summer. She was graduating college and moving back to where she grew up to be around her ...

Can he not hear me when I talk?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - ok so here's my problem. tonight i asked my husband if he really listens to me, because sometimes i have to ask him three to four times and eventually just call out his name. he said he listens but doesn't answer because what i said was not impo...

An equal loving relationship between three, where all are involved. Possible, or not?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5512 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - So, the short... I've been married to my husband, who i love from depths i cannot describe, just over a year now. But he has a part of him that i want to understand and support but still sometimes doubt if i am really capable of making work. He...

I just wish I had someone to love me and make me feel great!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - please help! i don't know what to do!!! i wrote on this before, but i really don't think anyone understands how depressed i am! normally Im a happy girl and i like to enjoy life to the max! but recently i get these pangs where i feel so so sad! ...

I need female and male opinions about this, I really need advice, and badly.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I don't wanna write my life story, but here's the deal. I grew up with a single mom who never dated and kept to herself all throughout my childhood. She never wanted to talk to me about guys, and when puberty hit I would try and mention crus...

Now I don't feel the same for him any more. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating this terrific guy for over two years and have been holding back the urge to tell him that I loved him for a couple months now. (I was holding it back because he doesn't acknowledge me as a girlfriend because he doesn't believe in ...

My husband destroyed my life

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4824 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I apologize for the long post. I need some advice on how to move on and how to cope with what I have been through, all I can think about just now is revenge, it is eating away at me. I separated from my husband last September (married 5 year, ...

I cannot read his mind!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Here's my dating dilemma: Im 26 and have a bf who is 28. We have been seeing each other for 3.5mths now. At the beginning he used to be very txty to me from his cell, and wanting to see other frequently during the week or over the weekend. ...

My girlfriend doesn't seem to want to hang out with me anymore...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - I am looking for advice from people that have been or are in long term relationships. I have been going out with this girl for 6 years now. We met in high school, I went away to college and we continued dating long distance, then she moved to the...

I just can't figure him out!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - There is this guy I have been dating, but I can't figure him out. He will start calling me all the time and then we will go out. Then he will call me the next day but will go about two or three weeks before he will talk to me again. Then he does the ...

I had a bad feeling I ruined the whole evening with this rejection

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I live in Germany and travelled to Sweden (I travel there every second month because my Dad lives there)3 months ago... there, I met a guy and fell in love. I have been there for 2 weeks, we were seeing each other, doing things that couples ...

Really erm... distracted and confused!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Hey, I joined the university gym about 2 months or so ago, and since I joined I have been going every day at least 6 times a week because my gym closed down. When I was working out one day I saw the most gorgeous guy there, and as weeks have ...

I hate my life right now and all I want to do is cry...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5039 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I currently hate my life. First my boyfriend of four years breaks up with me and I have to move back home, where my parents who are retired now and are always around. Then the transmission on my car breaks. I can't afford to fix it because my ...

He later apologized but I have yet to get over the betrayal of the whole evening.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - Last night boyfriend and I were having wine after work at a nice place when a guy my b/f knew sat down next to me and started talking to him. I found him to be completely obnoxious but I tried to join in on their bantering but then the guy asked me ...

Any tips on convincing her I don't wanna marry her just for sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (M) - Hey Everyone, I was hoping someone could help me with an issue I seem to have brought into my relationship. I've been dating my GF for nearly 5 months, when the other month after asking her why we hadn't had sex, she told me that she was waiting ...

Can anyone please explain this type of male behavior to me please.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5519 days ago

10 April 2009 (F) - I've known this man for almost 3 years now (he's almost 40). We broke up so many times but always got back together(I want to believe that he's a nice guy deep down and we have a strong connection). Last time I broke up with him because I was ...