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Archived questions from: 8 April, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

How can I help my girlfriend when she drinks and refuses to talk to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - hi people hope some 1 can help me! im with my gf 4 nearley 2 years now and at the moment we r struggling! i tink she is depressed! she gets upset alot and she gets really down! when i try to help her then she jus turns away gets angry at me does...

I had sex with my married teacher and now I want him to be with me!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5461 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - okay i posted a question quite a while back saying i tried to kiss my teacher but he rejected me. However last night i was at a nightclub with my friends and because hes only like 26 himself he was there and we started talking and he was saying how ...

G/f would black out and wake up with guys..she can't remember what happened!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5517 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - My girlfriend recently told me something that I wish she never had. She was going through a tough time, and slept with guys, then woke up with them in her bed, and didnt remember what had happened. She said this happened several times. There was ...

Still love my first love - but I have a new boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Hello, Here is my situation: I am 19. Back in June, I was very very close to taking back my first love We had been together for 3 years, he broke my heart very badly, and it took a year to forgive him. But in this past summer, I felt h...

Follow up: My 26 yo wife having an affair with a 72 yo man

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - Thank you for your help with my question I posted at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-wife-cheated-with-a-72-year-old.html Here's some more context on the situation. Someone asked: (original question, with answers in brackets below!) ------...

My ex wants to have sex with me on my Birthday, but I am not a cheater. What should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - so i have a bf but i keep thinking about my ex and is crazy because i love my bf but we have sex issues. the sex has never been good but i didn't leave him because i love him and i didn't want to just tell him and hurt his feelings. but we have spo...

He refuses counseling. What shall I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Dear Agony Aunts, I am 28 years old and I've been married to the ove of my life for almost 2 years with a 1 year old son. We've known each other for almost 11 years and he's mostly been a good person. But for the last six months we've been ha...

Why can't he ask me to be his girlfriend already? Is he afraid of commitment?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating this 23 year old guy for over a month and he still won't ask me to be his girlfriend. In the time that we spend together, he treats me really well, better than I have ever been treated before, but he is always horny and wants to h...

Is he bored? He chats on MSN more than with me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend haven't been going out for long but i think hes getting bored of me because he always talks to his friends but hardly to me but on msn hes really nice to me and says he misses me all the time but when i actually see him hes acts...

I wish there was something I can do to give him a reality check

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - omg.. where to begin.. well im 17, a senior in high school he's 18 and a college freshman. we'll I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 9 months and everything was perfect in the beginning we were together all the time.. we never e...

BF's lies to parents about our relationship. Should I expose everything?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. We were engaged 11 years ago, but broke up only to get back together 8 years later. I found out he lied to his parents about our breakup to make him out to be the good guy and me the bad. He has ...

Is it wrong for me to feel unappreciated?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been together a year. I love her very much. Since we have gone out, I have paid for the gas for us to travel (my vehicle ), every date (movies, eating out, etc.) This has never really bothered me, but I also am a coll...

Is he looking out for us or is he just a damn bimbo?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I recently had unprotected sex with my boyfriend, and i feel i might be pregnant. the problem is that my boyfriend for a year is telling me to get an abortion. i was stunned as he always talked about me having his first child. he's calling me ever...

I feel really sad about my 25 year long marriage

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I feel really sad about my 25 year long marriage. I feel ,my husband has no love for me,but he says he does. I want to know what is your opinion,on this. This are the things ,I feel ,that he does not love me. -he is not affectionate -he has no ...

How do I suggest different sex position to my fiance? Or is she just set in her ways?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - Hi. I've been with my fiancee for two and a half years. I love her dearly and wouldn't change her for the world but, unfortunately, I'm getting bored with the sex. It's her on top or me on top. Most of the time it's her. I've tried talking to...

Unfaithful woman woes

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5506 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - For seven months, I've been dating a woman who is 10 years older than me. This is the longest relationship I've been in, and I lost my virginity to this woman. She is my everything. She has problems with being unfaithful. She said that is on...

I am married and attracted to a woman I have never met in person.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - I am married and increasingly attracted to a woman i have never met in person. She is also married. Everything seemed to be going well. I even wanted to meet her and was willing to travel the distance to do so-we live in separate states. I just want...

Am I being possesive?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year now. last fall he quit his job and is staying with family now. he calls me everyday and text me sometimes. the problem is he doesn't live that far away now and i only see him once during the ...

Does he want me back, or just stringing me along?

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8 April 2009 (F) - I have been broken up with my bf for about 4 months now. We have never not been in contact the whole time and still hook up/hang out sometimes. He has told my sister that he is going to marry me.. called my mom to catch up.. and keeps sending me ...

Was I just a FWB or a Plan B only?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - It has been a while since I’ve been here at Cupid asking questions mainly because other than sorting out my life I haven’t been in any sort of relationship to have any issues. Its a bit long... But quite interesting... And there’s quite a bit of ...

How do you cope with being taken advantage of by your family?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I have family problems. When I was 15, my brother (whom I'd always been close to) married a woman who in my opinion (and in that of others) is pure evil. She took a dislike to me and over the years (36 of them) has turned my brother against me. T...

When should I break up with him, and how do I do it in the nicest way possible?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Hey - please can you help me! I'm 16 and have been with my boyfriend for 5 (nearly 6) months. Recently I've been thinking about breaking up with him - I just don't have the same feelings for him anymore and there are lots of things that he d...

In love with two women

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - Ok, Well i'm Scared to admit it I am in love with to girls I have known one for about lets say 7 months and the other about 3-4 maybe 5 months total the first woman lets call her (awkwardkitty) and the one I know less (jynxy) please note these are ...

He doesn't want to have sex

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8 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I are both 26, we have successful careers on cruise ships. We have been in a relationship for about 3 years. When we are separated for a few weeks +/- 4-8 weeks at a time, we we get back together we have amazing sex for about two ...

I'm very concerned about my flatmate: her boyfriend cheats on her all the time!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5515 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Hi Everyone, This is sort of on behalf of my flatmate. I'm really worried about her and her relationship. She's 21 and leaving uni this year, and for the past 4 years on and off, has been with her boyfriend who treats her like a doormate. They w...

I want out of the relationship but she's so depressed I'm afraid to leave!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - I feel more like my girlfriend's mental health carer than her boyfriend. I never relised she would need to go to cousoling and take anti-depressents. I spend most days trying to cheer her up for one reason or another and it's bringing me down. I've ...

Should I contact him? Was he just telling me lies?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5470 days ago

8 April 2009 (?) - I have been seeing this man for a few months. Everything was going so well. We talked about making things official and moving to the next level.Which he he brought this up first and i told him how i felt about him and i only wanted to date him. No...

I left him, after he hit me (and other problems). Did I do the right thing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - im a 21year old girl im very confused.my past is very hard, i had a baby 2 years ago with the guy i loved and shortly after my baby was born she passed away due to an illness. since then me and my partner have been helping each other get through ...

My boyfriend was lovely but now turned abusive. Help!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Hi. I have a massive problem right now, cant sleep at night, cant eat. I don't know what 2 do. Here goes. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and for the first few months he was so lovely and so good 2 be with. But now I am so scared...

The picture I sent wasn't of me, and now he wants to meet in person!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5513 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - ok i have a big problem now and i don't know what to do so i'm confused i have been dating someone for two weeks now and he is so serious with me but the problem is that i lied to him about my picture, i sent to him another persons picture without ...

Is Mum right for giving me these lectures and calling me immature?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I live with my Mum and every now and again we have trivial arguments, which mainly arise when she talks about what life is actually all about and more importantly how I should be living it. She is fairly random and brings it up whenever she feels ...

How can I ask him to let go of his ex's "memories" and what I mean to him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5514 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Well this is it. I had to make a call to my mom from my boyfriends phone, my phone is in for repairs, right, so well i was going down the list to find my mom's number i came across a contact called 'sweetheart' allow with his ex-wife details. I was ...

Is she happy because she may be seeing another guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5521 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - Ok so me and my gf have been going out for a few months and things are kinda rocky atm. She has been going through some rough family times and was pushing me away till recently. She says that it will take time for things to get back to normal betw...

I have lied to him about my age but I love him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I have recently met a guy and we have got off on a really good start the problem is i have lied about my age saying i am 19 when i am really 16. he really likes me too, but him being 10 years my senior i know he wont like me for the followin...

Who should I choose? "C" or "R"?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5521 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - ok so i have been going out with my bf for just over a year now. my bf ("C") has always known that i have been really close with his brother ("R") but it has only been a friendly jokey type of thing if you no what i mean, its just like hugs and ...

He's a great guy.. But Pot is in his life..

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Readers, I recently starting dating somebody. He is a really great guy. I have some strong feelings about him, and he also feels the same about me. I am a " good girl" as you call it. No drugs, no drinking, partying or bars. I am also a mother to a ...

Is 30 years long enough?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid - I don't really think you exist, but I'll write you anyway. I met a pretty red-headed girl at a football game during my senior year of high school and fell head over heals for her. The buddy who had arranged for me to... double date...

Once her heart is turned is there a way to unturn it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (?) - I can't forget her... and its been two years. So we. she and I, were together two years ago.. for only about..6 months. Then we got separated by our jobs. By the time we got separated I was convinced she was wifey type, just that quick. I mean, ...

What kind of relationship is this? What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5521 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - When I'm out in public or around her family it like she doesn't like for me to say anything. I talk to her in the stores when we shop but its like it goes through one ear and out the next. Kinda like talking to a brick wall or someone who wants no ...

If it's platonic, why say that he loves me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5521 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I'll try to keep this brief and not include every detail of the past three years... I started seeing an older guy at the end of my master's degree. I got a job and moved away. Then when he graduated with his doctorate he moved to the same area...

Whats the game plan here with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - My ex of two years split sometime ago, I found out she was seeing someone else. There have been ups and downs between us, and we have never quite had closure. She has played games with me. Anyway she recently has started to show an interest in w...

Is it me or is there too much attachment with his daughter?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I have a great boyfriend, but the problem is he is too attached to his 22 yr. daughter. We've been together for almost 3 yrs. and during the 1st yr of our relationship he did not have his daughter. But somehow a summer stay has turned into fore...

Should I listen to my head or my heart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5520 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Alright, there's a story involved with this one. I like this boy. A couple months ago we started hanging out and things progressed and we did some pretty inappropriate things together (use your imagination here). We never really intended for anyt...

Does he just want me me for company and sex? What is in his mind?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5518 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - My story is a little complicated . I married very early and I am 26 and we separated now. I met a guy last year and became crazy for him in a short time , he is 35 and just broke up with his ex at that time. He said he likes me very much and we h...

Me and my boyfriend fight a lot

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5521 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend fight a lot, but we want to be together and love e/o, were both stubborn but wana make it work we've been together for only 11 months and from the start its been tough. Specially since he never gives in after we argue, he has too ...

He's trying to control my life

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5521 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - He's told me that there are two things that will make him treat me well and one of those things is good sex. I have always let him know that he makes me feel amazing and makes me feel better physically than I ever have (it's true),...

I am getting fed up with this game playing!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5505 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I'm confused, seriously: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and it hasn't been perfect, but I am at a loss with what is going on now. We talk to eachother everyday, text, msn ect and now it is going on 4 days and nothing. Lately he's ...

He screamed at me and left out of the house! Now, he's accusing me of being GAY!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5521 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with my fiance on and off for 5 years. We have been back together for about two. He used to be the biggest sweetheart, i swear. But now he screams at me and when he's mean I almost immediately cry. I'm 19 so it's not ...

I know that I need to leave my wife...but does she really love me?

This question has 30 answers - newest was posted 5096 days ago

8 April 2009 (M) - I am in the most difficult situation that I have ever been. I am 34 years old, married and have an 8 month old baby girl. About 2 years ago I hired a woman to work for me who was 6 years younger than I was. After about 3 months I knew that I was ...

He's caused me so much hurt! Why do I love him so much?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5521 days ago

8 April 2009 (F) - I'm completely lost with my feelings at the moment. I'm still madly in love with my ex even though he broke me and betrayed me on more than one occasion. It's been a month now since we split and i felt completely emotionally drained, i didn't even ...