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writes:A while back two of my good friends split up. He felt she was too close to me, and was jealous, and she couldn't stand it, which brought all kinds of things up between them. I tried to be there for them both, but he blamed me and wouldn't talk to me, and so I ended up just trying to cheer her up.I had fancied her for ages, and a few weeks later she admitted she liked me too, and so we got together, but secretly as we didn't want to upset him.We had a few times when we found it difficult, but we were both so happy and always got through it. Then he started saying things to her, like how he would never get together with any of her friends and how he hoped she'd do likewise for him, and she found that really tough, as they were only just getting along again at this point. Because of this, she ended things with me, not saying that she didn't want to be with me, just that the timing wasn't right for her.I found this really difficult and ended up moping round lots, but at least we were still getting on fine with each other. Then one night, I ended up chatting to one of her friends, and the everything came out, how we had been together and how i still adored her, and the friend then told her everything i had said. She didn't seem to mind so much about what i had said, just that i had broken the secret, and other people now knew.We have been chatting over text since then as i've not had internet and we've both been away, but now we're back she seems to ignore me, only chatting occasionally, and only small talk, not actually chatting properly anymore.I can't work out whether she still likes me and is ignoring me just to try and make it easier, or if she wishes i'd ignore her too. She's the only thing on my mind the whole time, and i don't know if there is any hope for us.What should i do?
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 "What should i do?"
Well you have two choices:
1. Leave things as they are and remain casual friends.
2. Try to win her back.
If you pick the first option you know what the outcome will be.
If you pick the second choice, there is a range of different things that can happen. You could win her. You could make a fool out of your self for love. She could call the police on you.
You are young and it does not seem like you have had your heart broken nor have you made a fool out of your self. Most guys do these thing at least twice in their lives, so you could decide to get both over with now.
If you decide the second option and ask 10 different people what you should do, you will get at least 11 different answers. So you might as well take your best shot at it your self and see how it turns out.
I know the above is not the advice you were expecting, but no one knows the answer to the "should I go for it or not" question, especially those who say they they know.
Best of luck.
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