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Archived questions from: 29 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I'm not going to let him have his way, I want him to take me serious.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - What the heck?!? My boyfriend of a few days kept joking around and making comments about having sex. So, I figured that I should mention 'no sex' yet. I want to get to know him better and not rush into it! Basically, I'm not ready yet. His respo...

Why did my boyfriend lie about the mystery girl he was texting?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Why did he lie about something like that? I have a bit of a problem. My boyfriend and I have been on a break since november. Until around christmas, we had very little contact. For about a month, he didn't answer my calls or text messages, etc. B...

A foolish affair turned sour.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Regretfully, I have been having an "affair" with one of my husband's oldest friends. This guy lives over 500 miles away from us, and we have met up a few times, and talk for hours on the phone/e mails. I've left my husband, not for this guy, but for ...

I never think about having sex with my boyfriend, or I am NEVER in the mood.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have a HUGE problem! I'm a 22 year old Nursing student... I'll be 23 Feb 28th and I never care to have sex. I am healty, 5'1'' 140lbs, work out regularly and I am usually a very sexual person, and always think about looking sexy or feeling sexy. ...

Every time I like a girl and ask them out I get shot down.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hi there, I'm new to this so hear I go. I'm 21, I have never had a girlfriend because of the way I look. I never had sex but that's not a big thing. Every time I like a girl and ask them out I get shot down. Is there anything I can do....

What man stares at another man with passion in his eyes?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I've been married for 1 year but with this man for 6 years. Before we got married any woman would have wanted him, strong, smart, handy, a great lover, a good friend, I can go on , but I will stop there because it all was a bunch of bull sh!t. Maybe ...

Break my heart over and over...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - Hello, I love her. But she does not love me. I think she just liked me as a friend. She broke up with her boyfriend a time ago. But still loves him. We've seen eachother from time to time and I thought she liked me. She flirted, she was smilling ...

How can I lift his spirits? Is time the only healer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I have just broken up with my boyfriend of 4 years. This is the second time it has happened (the first time, we had one year apart before giving it another go), however this time we are living together. I feel so terrible, as there is nothing ...

I am pregnant and don't know who the dad is? One is white, one is black

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am 4 months pregnant and my boyfriend who thinks he is the dad and is in prison. My midwife worked out my due dates and the baby could have a different father, who is black called W. I slept with them both within a day of each other (as I...

My husband and my friend... an item?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 11 year and were together for 14 years. Then about two and a half years ago I injured my back at work. It has been rough on our relationship that is for sure. We were making it though we supported each other ...

For three months everything has been perfect, why now is she acting different?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I've have been talking to this girl for about 3-4 months and we never had an issue on communication or distancing, until recently in the last week. She would text me and call me regularly and I would do the same also. We would spend our latter half ...

Is cyber sex just as bad as physical cheating?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4955 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi, i have a problem i am in a happy relationship i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he works away in the week i only see him at weekends. I have been chatting to this guy online but i also now him, everytime we talk after a while it ...

My GF's parents think I'm too old!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I'm 20 and my girlfriend has just turned 16, when she was 15 she told me that her parents were strict and wouldn't approve of the relationship, she's now 16 and they found out about us even though we didn't want them to know yet. They've made her...

Do you guys think, he still loves me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My husband and I like to do 3somes sometimes. It's his fantasy.. to have a 3some. I am not a lesbian but I like to try have 3some and want to know what it's like. I just want to make my husband happy cuz he tells me he never had any chance to do ...

Boyfriend get drunks every night and friends don't like him!!!

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29 January 2009 (F) - Hi there. I've got a problem with my boyfriend. I love him very much. My family are very rich and my boyfriend don't have money. We met on the internet. We are going out 5 months now and my parents like him but he's got a drinking problem. He ...

Does she still like him and just want me for sex, or does she love me and just wants to really be friends with him??

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5550 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I met this chick during summer school last year and we totally hit it off. Before school was out, I asked her if she wanted to hook up and have some fun, she enthusiasticaly agreed and so we got together. I really found her attractive and really ...

I'm scared he'll run away if I bring it up...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5362 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Recently a co-worker I'd invited to my house party hit on a man I had just begun dating. I am not sure what happened between them but something started at least because he did go to her house a few times she said when she blurted it out to me a week ...

He's more like a little kid than my boyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4702 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I'm really confused. My boyfriend never seems to say the right thing with me. Whenever were doing sexual things etc. He always says the wrong thing and ends up putting me off. Then he never really seems interested in me. Like, I want to have sex...

I want to be happy and outgoing, independent and confident but I'm not. My heart is breaking and I just don't know what to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my other half for 5 years and he is the love of my life, but we are having a really rough time. Like any couple we have had our ups and downs, we met over the internet and when we met I was always honest with him telling him that I ...

How can he change so quickly???? I KNOW he's hurting here too...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I am a 30 year single mum of 4, over 3 years ago I split with a violent ex. I met a fantastic man last year, he was a few years younger and didn't have children of his own. We met online and we chatted for 8 weeks, sometimes we were up all night. He ...

My boyfriend called me fat and repulsive!!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Ok I need some advice please, I have been going out with my boyfriend for around four years... he can be controlling with me and mean but I never feel like I have the strength to leave him. I suffered a bad eating disorder last year and lost a ...

I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Well, I cheated on my boyfriend of a year with another guy. Now I feel like I want us to break up so I can continue seeing the other guy and seek out new relationships... do you have any advice as to how to break it off with him? I know there is no ...

I looked into his account to see he was in contact with the ex

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and i love him with all my heart and he tells me the same. However theres one thing that he does which really upsets me. He still talks to his ex daily, by this i mean he often has long text conv...

Is he conflicted? Does he really want to just be friends or is he fooling himself and possibly me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Question: What does all of this really mean? Is he conflicted? Does he really want to just be friends or is he fooling himself and possibly me? Background: I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We have only been seeing eachother and no...

He hasn't technically cheated, he's crossing what I see as major boundaries.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My bf hangs around a lot of girls who all have crushes on him. They are always very physical with him, hugging him, kissing him on the cheek, touching his legs etc and getting him to put sunscreen on them and they put it on him. On several occasions ...

I feel pressured to say "I love you"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, we get on very well and I can see a future. The problem is that he is acting very needy and clingy and I feel under a lot of pressure to say I love you to him. He says it to me, but I dont want ...

Relationship going nowhere

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (M) - I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years. We're both in college and we've have a ton of problems. 2 years ago i kissed another girl and she never really got over it and we still get into talks about my past with girls (too many before her ((14)), ...

Was he trying to change me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5548 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had been having problems in our relationship for a while about his ex girlfriend who looks exactly like me, in which they hadn't been together in 15 years. Our relationship was absolutely amazing until we went to a party and his ...

Is my ex fiance playing games with me I'm so confused?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My fiance in the military of almost 2 years broke up with me out of the blue but after the break up I didn't contact him for a month, then I initiated the first contact he replied to my outmost belief quickly when we talk he talks about the future ...

Gang intimidation!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - The other day my daughter came to me with a problem that she is having and although it is horrifing me, I am not quite sure how to handle this because I am afraid that taking the wrong actions on my part could possibly place her in a dangerous ...

I feel so violated and stupid now that I was nearly scammed by my "boyfriend". How do I get over it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - The guy and I were friends for a month before he asked me for a relationship. I met him on a penpal site, and we just talked about our family lives and I helped him find scholarships and stuff (he was from Africa). When he asked me for a relatio...

Did I have the right to be insecure in our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - I'm trying to gain some insight on things.. I wish my ex would come back but I have questions the situations that happened over the course of the 3 years I was with him. I wanted to reveal some aspects that made me feel insecure which led to a c...

Guy wants a booty call but I don't want to be one, how do I tell him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - This guy Im friends with and am attracted to has been hot and cold with me, calling me recently only when he wants a booty call. We used to talk about everything from school to friends to family but now, he only talks when he wants 'some'. I do...

How do you forget someone that you feel you owe everything to?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - How do you forget someone you feel like you owe everything to? My ex-boyfriend had been there for me through my best friends death and some rough times with my family. I ended our 2 year relationship when he started abusing cocaine and heroin after ...

I'm worried about bachelor party, strippers & lap dances!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4881 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - Hello, I'm getting married and well, of course I'm excited. My fiancee is great. He truly is. But I have a bit of a problem regarding the bachelor party. I don't think he'll cheat. But of course there will be strippers. it's a tradition, and...

My boyfriend watches porn whenever I leave the house. Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

29 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend watches porn whenever I leave the house. We live together and are rarely apart. He told me he threw out all his porn, which he did, but the history on his cpu (which I use for work) says he was watching it last week, in the middle o...