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Archived questions from: 28 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I don't know how to ignore her or get her out of our lives... help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about six months now, we get on amazingly and are very happy together. however, his ex girlfriend is clearly still not over him, they broke up over a year ago but i can see she still loves him. when she first ...

Any advice on how to get her to come round to the fact that me and my boyfriend are an item would be appreciated.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Ok this is going to take quite a while so here goes. . Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year, there is quite a big age difference, I'm 19 he's 30 but that doesn't matter to us at all, the problem is my parents, well my mum especial...

Partner has depression I need help to understand how he thinks

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5552 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - This question follows on from where my last one left off. I got some very sound, impartial - and ACCURATE advice, so I'm hoping for more of the same. Well, even just a sympathetic ear would do... Cheers. Let me start by saying this is a long d...

We're fighting almost daily, I'm trying to change myself and I am not happy!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Dear Agony Aunts, I'm 19 and I've been in my current relationship now for 23 months. We're living together (renting an apartment) while attending college. I feel so lackluster lately. I'm never happy with my boyfriend and we get into fights cons...

Do I have baggage? Or is he trying to control me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating my fiance for two years and we have been living together for the past year and a half. We have been engaged since May. Both of us have been married before. I have been divorced for 5 years and he has been divorced for 10 ...

Am I in love with him or do I just want something I can't have?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - ok so here it goes im attractive im 17 and im very confused!! Thers this boy and we have known eachother for 5 years and we have admitted to eachother that we do have strong feelings for eachother but agreed they were just like a brother would love ...

Issues with his attention seeking ex-girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Well I have been seeing this guy for about 1 month and a half now and his ex GF wont leave me alone. She is a major attention seeker when ma bf dumped her when they were seeing each other she tried to overdose on her inhaler. But i have noticed at ...

If we're happy, is our relationship still wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4880 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Dear agony aunt Im 18 and recently started a new job, theres a guy there who is is 55 and we have got really close. He is such a lovely man and i love him and he loves me, we have had sex but recently people at work have been saying things about us...

Hoe can I prove how sorry I am after I cheated on my BF?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Dear cupid I'm 16, i lost my virginity when i was 13, but anyway, im 16 now and i have a boyfriend and i went to a party and i met this guy who i didn't realize is my boyfriends 2nd cousin, i had sex with him at my boyfriends house and he cau...

I want to break up with him, but it hurts so bad!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - me and my boyfriend have been together over a year. he is pretty much the best thing that has ever happened to me except he hurts me so much. I find myself crying over him ATLEAST once a week. However, i always find it in myself to forgive and ...

They just started going out and she flips because he didn't propose!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - My buddy's dating a new girl. He's looking to settle down and he thinks she great but I think he's tolerating too much. Am I way off on this? I think the fact he's looking for get married soon is affecting his perception. They've been g...

He thinks I cheated and now he won't talk to me, help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Heyy; i split up with my boyfriend a few weeks back; because he thinks i cheated on him. the story is i live quite far away from my school; so i have a different group of friends during the holidays to who i would hang around with at school. Well; ...

How do I help my girlfriend stop blaming herself for bad sex and start blaming the GUY?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - My girl friend met a guy and a party and began dating him - he pressured her for sex. After a couple weeks she gave in because he said all the right things and she trusted him. Once he got what he wanted he dumped her. She moved on to me - and ...

What is his game?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - This is a really long problem. started seeing this guy 6 years ago whilst still married with 2 young kids. Ended up falling in love and moved in with him. As my husband threatened me with all sorts of nasty things i.e. kidnapping the kids, turning ...

Can sex be used to control someone or a relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5571 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I've never done "it", but can "it" be used to control someone or a relationship?...

My BF is being forced to marry - should we run away together?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5549 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - my boyfriend of 3 years is being forced to marry someone else, my parents do not no about us as they are very traditional but his parents do. What should i do should i just run away with him, i cant live without him but i know it will destroy my ...

Shy with his feelings but not to ask for money...any opinions?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I am seeing a man who I love dearly, but I'm not 100% sure what he really thinks of me. When we sit and talk he never really looks into my eyes - but when I look away he does! - Also when we kiss - it is never really a proper "french kiss" - but mo...

My guy and my half-sister...I am convinced something is going on...please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Somebody please help me???!!! I have this aching feeling that my half sister whom i have had a rocky relationship with is creeping with my dude!!! He once had a show 2 years ago..and she showed up wit friends because she knows someone else in ...

At first it was great...now he feels distant.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (?) - Ok this is a kinda long story so ima try to make it short.. Ok so I met this guy last year(he is now 22 and I am 18) and he asked for my number and he would call me almost everyday, but we lost touch until his cousin contacted my friend and they ...

What can I do about my gfs low sex drive??

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5148 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - dear cupid, My,girlfreind has a really low sex drive, she has been like this ever since i met her and now its starting to hurt me because i want her to feel the same way sexually about me as i do her. When we have sex its always me coming on to ...

My ex wants me back and my current b/f has given me an ultimatium. I don't know what to do!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Please can someone help me. I have been given an ultimatum by my boyfriend of 6 months and I am not sure what to do. I am happy with my current boyfriend in every way apart from the fact he has been smoking weed and taking cocaine occasionally for ...

My g/f of 5 years wants to see what else is out there!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5570 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - Hey everyone, So I'm currently in a 5 year relationship and me and my girlfriend have been having some problems. Last night she told me that she loves me to death and cares for me yet maybe wants to see what else is out there. We are high school ...

I whinged too much and now its over. How do I show him I've changed?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - this is complicated, but, i was with my bf for a year and eight months and we had a fantastic time together, he told me his ex gf, his first love who he was with for a year cheated on him and that he absolutely hates her. but he broke up with me a ...

I think my guy is messing around and I'm thinking of my ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5571 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has a child with another woman while i was with him but it actually happened when we had a problem. He was so special during that time and after he had a kid. Recently he started acting up. I think he is having an affair with a girl but ...

He's inexperienced, should I let him go for someone worldly/

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - My friend hooked me up with this guy she met at work and we hit it off well. He's a virgin, doesn't drink, smoke or go out. I was fine with it cos I was going through a similar phase. now I'm over it, and I enjoy having sex. What do I do? I really ...

One day you'll read my book..I need help..I'm a train wreck!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - long story short... adult story girl meets boy on lake, 2 weeks later he moves across country... their friendship turn to love and he moves back for her. They get a house things are going good and SNAP everything goes to shit. He basically rap...

She walks all over me because she knows she can

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4769 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - ok,i have answered a few questions recently on this to give people advice but now its my turn to ask anyone reading this for advice. the answer to my problem might seem obvious but please try and think of my situation before answering. thank you. ...

My cousin died, my boyfriend showed me no compassion, should I be concerned?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - Tonight I found out there was a death in my family. I called my boyfriend about 20 mins after our last text (i got the news in between the two) and he didnt answer... then i sent a text asking if he was sleeping, no reply but my phone said he got it ...

My wife seems to do well if I treat her like a 12 year old

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

28 January 2009 (M) - I have been married for about a year now. As I get to know my wife better who turned 28 recently, here is the lowdown. She has low self-esteem, is needy, overly jealous, has some symptoms of dependent personality if internet sites are to be ...

He left me, went back to his wife, now left his wife again and wants me back

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5553 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I met my boyfriend shortly after he had split up from his wife we had a wonderful relationship for a few months then i couldn't believe it when he sat me down and told me he was going back to his wife he had been feeling really low recently and ...

Why is he still messing about online?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5572 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I met my boyfriend on an online dating site two months ago. Things have been going really well and until now I had absolutely no doubts about our relationship. However last week through sheer curiosuty I discovered he is still using his online ...

I feel regret to cheat my lover, I don't know if marriage is ok?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5573 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have cheated several times, and when caught, I appologise and am forgiven. Although trust hasn't been back in the relationship, because he has my email password and checks it. Recently I have called my ex-boyfriend and I have fear he understands ...

My husband insists on keeping things from me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

28 January 2009 (F) - I have been married for three years now and my husband insists on keeping things from me. He says these things do not involve being unfaithful and I could not handle them. He always has to have some air of mystery like he's a secret agent or ...