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Archived questions from: 11 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Dating violence

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - My boyfrend is very abusive. He constantly beats on me and leaves bruises everytime. Last time he busted open my face. He says he loves me and will protect me. I'm scared he might be putting me into a early grave. I tried to leave numerous times but ...

A year on and he says he's still doesn't know me well???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for a year now and every time I ask him what's up with us he tells me he doesn't know, he always tells me that he doesn't know me well and he's still getting to know me. What do you think I should do?....

Help, is there more to it or am I making something out of nothing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, and we both love each other a lot. However ever since I started being with him he has been very protective over me. I have a facebook account and added someone I knew from school, he got annoyed ...

When we're apart I can get so insecure and jealous...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I love my boyfriend with all my heart and I know he loves me too. We have a great relationship, we can on well, hardly ever argue and when we do, sort it out straight away. However, I'm at uni and he works full-time back at home, so we don't get ...

Is it wrong to keep it quiet now that we're so in love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I started seeing a guy a few months back and I thought he was lovely but it was nothing serious. At the time I was still really good mates with my ex and a few times he came round and it felt like we were still together, we ended up having sex and ...

Choked during sex...was it wrong of him??

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my overly passionate, subtle and lovely boyfriend for some time now. He's not very spontanous, everything seems like a walk in the park... and almost routine. Last night we had sex. And he started choking me towards the end out of the ...

She says she cares a lot about me and she does truly like me, but her love for her ex is getting in the way.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5587 days ago

11 January 2009 (M) - So basically we have history we used to go out for a year, after that they started to date for 3 years, the last year of that relationship, he neglected her and she was tired of it, but also feels she's part of the relationship failing too. So now ...

I am just so sick of being the lame girl...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I'm feeling down about the way I am and the life I've lived so far, I'm 22 and attractive. I just wish I did things differently. I never had a big group of friends, I think people always thought I was strange b/c I lack social skills, I'm always ...

What should I do about him now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - We’ve been together for 3 months.. after 2 months he changed and started been all weird and not calling me much.. he use to call me every day..last time I saw him he got really angry and accused me of cheating on him... saying I am not giving h...

Why do my parents hate my girlfriend? She's a wonderful person!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (M) - My g/f and I have been going out for more than a year now. I love this girl so much and the same goes for her with me. We are always on the same page and we know where we want to go with each other. We have been doing long distance for the past four ...

Do you find this anappropriate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - ok, so my boyfriend's sister keeps texting him things like "I wanna be your official girl" and stuff like that, and I told him I thought it was inappropriate, and that I'd appreciate her not texting those things to him. He doesn't agree with me ...

My boyfriend is jealous but he has no need to be, how can I convince him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is jealous of one of my old mates, I love my boyfriend so much, and I never want anyone else, but this lad keeps popping up and he hates him and so do I, but he doesn't believe me. I know he should but he has no reason I've never lied ...

I love him I know he doesn't love me back

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I am oh so deeply in love, but he doesn't love me back. He's the only one I'll ever love and I'm sure of it. What exactly should I do???...

The medium seen this happening

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - ok so i been with this guy for 5 years got a little girl together but have felt trapped for about 2 years its a basic dead end relationship that i am trying to get out of anyway last week i was in a cafe and these guys were in and i was with my ...

All my husband of 27 years wants to do is sleep

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I have been married for 27 years. I want to know is it unrealistic of me to want to have attention from my husband after all these years. All he wants to do is sleep. I am literally alone on the couch watching tv. He never sits by me or tries to ...

My boyfriend's temper!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5565 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - Am a 26yr old girl in relationship with a 27yr old guy since 4 yrs....we both love each other and are looking forward to marry in futre. Problem is his temper n impatient nature over lil things which often leads to fights between us.I dunno how to ...

I'm obsessed with the girlfriend of my boyfriends brother

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5584 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and nine months but it’s a pretty weird relationship. We are both young I’m 18 (studying for my A levels) and he is 20 (at university) we get along great but we aren’t a proper couple, like I don’t go round his ...

How do I stop being paranoid & worrying??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - Please help, i'm driving myself crazy with worry! I'm a 27 year old female and have been with my boyfriend (32) for almost 6 months. Our relationship moved fast and we fell in love. Anyways, I do love him and he is always talking about our...

There's no spark with my and my boyfriend... much more spark with his friend though.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5588 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I have been going out with my boyfriend for around 2 months yet was friends with him before that and we were fooling around before we were official. He has strong feelings for me and I do have feelings for him and I would hate to break his heart, ...

Help! My boyfriend's porn habit is driving me mad!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm not sure if this post is going to be to explicit or not (I mean, I am speaking about porn and my boyfriend's interaction with it) so I'm going to apologise now before I start typing! I just stumbled across this forum and topic whilst sea...

My biggest fear is having to split up with my girlfriend as I know it would break her heart...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

11 January 2009 (M) - I've been with my current gf for five years. Things are okay, but they're not great. We argue quite a lot, generally nothing major, just constant bickering about me leaving the toilet seat up, she squeezing the toothpaste from the middle, etc. ...

B/f moving away and I don't know how to handle it

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - my boyfriend lives an hrs drive from me but he is moving further south which will make it two hrs drive. he does have to move as that is where the work is, also his son has just started to live with him , so thats another reason why he must move as ...

My b/f never has time for me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is never home. Whenever he is he is catching on sleep, playing video games, or gathering things so he can go back out again. He says he's either helping friends do stuff to their cars of he's hanging out with friends? But like every ...

Is the past influencing my feelings of the present?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (M) - I meet a new girlfriend after a bad break up in Aug 08, things were going so well we had actually started living together in Dec 08. The other night we went out to a club to have drinks with my cousin. Towards the end of the night while I went to ...

I'm confused! Is he playing games?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I feel so confused. Sorry this is so long! About 3 and half weeks ago the guy i was seeing (not 'officially') said that he still smiles at my photos, and that it would "be nice" to get a massage from me. We were only seeing each other casu...

I just don't want to be bothered with him anymore

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I haven't heard from my daughter's dad for quite sometime. I left him because he cheated on me. His life was going downhill because he screwed up his career after 18 years, lost all benefits (pension, medical, retirement...whatever comes with it) ...

I want out of this abusive relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - How do I go about getting my 3 kids and I out of an abusive situation? My boyfriend yells at my 2 older kids all the time. Usually for no good reason. When they don't respond the way he thinks they should, he will beat them upside the head ...

How do I get my little brother to stop pestering my bf!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

11 January 2009 (?) - My little brother (he's 5) hates my boyfriend. I'm really not sure why he does. If he comes over my bro will stoke with his water gun or silly string (if only he's holding my hand) or he'll call him "pooh" or "tool". He'll (my bf) all get mad all at ...

I couldn't get it up for her! Was I too drunk?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

11 January 2009 (M) - Last night I was about to have sex with this girl that I have been interested in having sex with for months..Im so horny around her and I think about it all the time. Yesterday we hung out and we got drunk real bad.We were on Gin and juice for ...

His ex gf's back! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - i have been dating this guy for almost 3 years we met when i was going though a divorce and after the loss of my 24 yr old son. He really helped me alot. he was separated from his girlfriend at the time. We started off as friends but i fell in love ...

Why do guys not like long distance relationships?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - When the girl wants a relationship and guy a agree to do so but it always ends up the guy moving away(to another state). Then he breaks up with the girl because of the long distance...... Why do guys don't like long distance relationships? ...

Am I making the right decision?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I have a husband for over 9 years and he was a drinker before and I knew he smokes weed, I told him to stop doing it and he did but he smokes when I am not around. He drinks and he finds reasons for little things he is mad if we gotta go to the ...

I can't stop getting this jealous feeling and thoughts whenever I see my boyfriend and friend hanging out together!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (?) - So, my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 3 months,which will be in a few days. We're both 13. We hang out at school mostly all day together. My friend hangs out with my boyfriend every chance she can get at school. Like she'll see ...

How can I get out of this situation when I have extremely limited resources?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I seriously feel stuck in a rut right now. My ex and I broke up a month ago after a two-year relationship and he's already going on dates with other girls, while I'm barely hanging out with even my friends! The reason we broke up is because he ...

Husband cheated when we were still dating, and he did this because I cheated on him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I cheated on my boyfriend (fling, got pregnant, had an abortion), and I did this because I thought our relationship was over. It wasn't over, and we got back together. He found out and he'd hurt me every time he remembers what I did. After a few ...

Is it okay for your spouse to be overly jealous...?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

11 January 2009 (F) - I really need some help here, I am currently in a relationship of 8 years and counting, when we first got together all was well, until I told a lie about a homey loverfriend, after the lie it seemed like there was not trust there, he began going out ...