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Archived questions from: 8 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Break up or keep the relationship going on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - You see... one of us is moving to a new country which is on the other side of the world. I think that it's impossible to marry each other in the future because of this. We will be apart for years and years without seeing each other. Now I'm not ...

I'm thinking of breaking up with her... but I don't want to...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - Hey people, I've been with my girlfreind for almost 8 months now and I really love her, but lately I've been feeling really depressed and have been thinking about breaking up with her without trying to. I don't want to but it just seems like it's ...

I feel I live with a real psycho...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5587 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - It's going to be a bit complicated psychological question, but I thought I would give it a try. I don't know if you ever heard about "self-deception"? Because I just realized, I might be dealing with it in my life. My husband seems to be in this st...

I feel like we have broken up but we weren't even together!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm 21 years old and I've never been in a relationship. Over the past year I've got close to a guy I used to work with. We've been friends for 4 years now and we have slept together a few times. Wwe agreed to keep it casual but now almost a ...

I feel she wants to handcuff me during sex to get questions out of me! Should I do it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - hello aunties, Two weeks ago when I was sleeping with my neighbor, her husband found out about us and beat me.. 2 days back I met him in the gym again, he pushed and began teasing me about how he tied me and hit me, everyone was looking at us. ...

I love him very much but he's a compulsive thief!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - I'm a 40 year old female so I perhaps should already know the answer to the question however I just wondered if any other readers have experience they can perhaps pass on. My current partner and I have known each other for 21 years, we have an 18 ...

I don't understand all this sudden change from my friends.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - Well I've been friends with a group of guys for many years now, an we have all been through a lot together. We have all been single and in relationships over the years, I ended my relationship a few years back now and started leading the single life ...

My little sister is obsessed when it comes to guys, how can I make her see sense?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - Hey guys, I need some help... it's not for me but I'm really worried for my younger sister, she seems to absolutely obsessed when it comes to guys... she's only 15 and she does everything in her power to so called "pull". I love her so much but am ...

Oh lord... he's come back to me again??!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - Let me condense this essay worth of a question down to a simple yet truthful question. I started casually dating this man who was not only dry humoured, overly sarcastic and independant but gradually as the relationship progressed; showed many ...

My girlfriend is acting, untouchy!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend is acting, untouchy? So today my girlfriend was acting rather odd, on the phone last night before she went to work she told me she hearted me, (She nevers says that first) then at the end of our phone convo last night she told me not t...

I know she's lying, how do I handle it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend is insisting she does not talk to this certain ex-boyfriend of hers. She said they haven't talked in a LONG time. She said this earlier today. Now, I know that is a total lie, that they had an AIM conversation two days ago and tal...

He doesn't know why he can't love me like he does?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - Me and this guy have dated before and then he broke up with me. We have been going on and off for over a year. He says he loves me and cares about me but he just can't have a relationship. He has hurt me several times and for some gosh darn reason I ...

I'm in love with my boyfriend but I'm getting married to his best friend. What should I do???

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5569 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - my mom picked out a guy for me to marry. she asked me if I loved someone.... I told her about my boyfriend but my boyfriend of 2 years says he's not ready to get married and wants to break up. I was devastated. My mom says I have to get married by ...

His g/f works 3rd shift, he's got another woman

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - hey aunts...i need you to help me decifer something...my friend and i are trying to understand why his girlfriend continues to work a 3rd shift job. she has worked on and off 3rd shift for almost 10yrs. he is very upset at the fact that she does ...

I don't want to think he's cheating..but it goes through my mind

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8 January 2009 (F) - Hey I have been in this relationship for two years with my man and we have a baby together. I love him and he loves me trust me if we didn't love each other the we both would have been gone. I have a hard time of letting go of the past and starting ...

First she said it was sex, then she said she was raped..I'm really confused

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - Okay, I have a huge problem. Long story short my girlfriend broke up with me and we were apart for 6 months with no communication then she called and we picked up right where we left off. Once we got back together she told me she slept with ...

My lover keeps waiting for her SO to realize things are over, and its just not happening

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5590 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - Hello I am seeking some advice for myself and a friend. I have been involved with someone who is in a relationship for the last 18 months. We are not just talking about a purely sexual affair, it is a very much a relationship, seeing eac...

We are arguing all the time and I'm not sure what is going on anymore

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - hi thank you for taking the time out to read this, well to start things off, i have been with my girlfriend for nearly 15 months now, i am 17 she is 16, anyway when we started going out she was only 15, we got to talking about diffrent things and ...

I think I've had it with him--am I being unreasonable?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 years has recently decided to work away. He has accepted a permanent job miles away for 5 years. Ever since we first met I made it clear to him that I would not like to be in a relationship where my boyfriend worked away. Up until ...

My boyfriend pushes me away when I'm the one who can help...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend lives with his family (mother and sister) and everyone has to pay rent at their house. He recently had a birthday, took a week off, but requested vacation time. They didn't give him that, so he was unable to come up with his half of the ...

I still love and need him so much... but I broke up with him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend today. I told two people what happened and they agree that it was the right thing to do but inside I feel like I just want to be with him.. he's such a jerk to me about this and he said either we're together or we don't ...

When and how do I break it to her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - I feel very guilty. I'm quite neurotic and so the fact that this 30-year-old woman I've been seeing might be going back to her country in a few months time is making me draw away from her mentally. Worried of getting too attached to her and I know ...

Please help, I feel that our relationship is disintegrating.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - My fiance is a truck driver and is gone except on weekends which means home Friday night or early Saturday morning and leaves on Sunday. We have had some problems in the last year but I thought we had worked our way through them but now he is ...

The house or her, is this normal?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - I have been dating a girl for about 6 months and things are going very well. We are both mature, professional adults in our late 20's, truly believe we are IT for each other, and are planning on getting engaged officially in the near future. Here ...

How to deal with my controlling mother?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - My mother is very controlling even though I am already married. She is a single mother and brought me up all by herself. She worked multiple jobs just to pay for my education. I feel like she really cares about me but her love goes too far. For ...

What to do for the best... should I just give up on him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - My friend Jack and I have been friends for like 9 months now and he used to be really sweet and nice and we had a little thing in the summer but then when school started he started just acting like he was better than me and stuff. He is a year ...

He pursues me and then quickly his interest cools..what to do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - I'm really desperate for relationship advice at the moment. I dated a guy, I'll call him M for about a year and a half. We were so happy and he treated me so well and we never fought for a very long time into the relationship. We share the same ...

I am in an awful mentally, abusive relationship. I am very unhappy and really want to be out of it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - I am in an awful mentally, abusive relationship. I am very unhappy and really want to be out of it. I really don't know where to turn to or how to get out of this hell hole I am in. I have asked my boyfriend to leave but he won't, he keeps saying we ...

Trapped between a current boyfriend and an ex.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - I am still in love with my ex and he loves me, but I am in a new relationship. I dated my ex., who I will call S. for 4 years. He was my college buddy/studio partner/best friend/boyfriend. We essentially spent just about every day of the 4 years ...

Should I believe him that he is not gay or is this a huge warning sign?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

8 January 2009 (F) - I caught my boyfriend of almost a year sending a naked pic to another man. This came as a huge surprise because before this he has always seemed extremely attracted to me and wants to have sex all the time. He is kind of emotional and feminine in ...

My relationship seems to be going into meltdown at the moment.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

8 January 2009 (M) - Hi I wanted to get some advice because my relationship seems to be going into meltdown at the moment. My girlfriend and I have dated a for nearly 2 years over the last 3, (we broke up after a year and got back together again last year). The pro...