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Archived questions from: 5 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Is he just not that interested or did I scare him off by suggesting we meet up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - Met a guy a while ago through work and recently added him on my Facebook. He didn't remember me but accepted my request and messaged me. We then exchanged a couple messages and he started asking what my weekend plans were. I told him and asked about ...

I'm tired of feeling like he doesn't want to be with me...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating a little over a year. We are both in high school as of now and we have always planned to finish off together and then continue to be in this relationship for the rest of our lives. We constantly talk about ...

Am I next???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now. I thought that we were both happy but recently he told me that he isn't happy and wants more things to do with his life - I think he is going to change his job, he's talking about joining clubs ...

Had sex with my best friend's brother and now she's mad at me...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - Hi, my name is sara and im 22 I have a very close friend whose lately got so mad at me because of something i have done we used to be best friends since we were 11 and we are also living in the same neighbourhood i don't even remember that w...

Do I keep talking to her even though she doesn't deserve it whatsoever?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5472 days ago

5 January 2009 (M) - My ex and I were together for about 2 years, we were very much in love, we were both each others first true love, and everything was great up until a couple months before it ended. i pretty much made her the center of my life. we did everything ...

How can I keep my anger under control?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been together for five years we have a child together. I cannot hold it together any more, I get so angry with her and we put each other down all day every day. When I get mad I punch walls and break things, I know I won't ...

Can I ever trust my wife again or is she just using me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

5 January 2009 (M) - dear cupid. This is difficult for me to talk about. For the last 3-4 years my wife became very distant and independant. She was also quite secretive about how much she earned or where she was going. Basically I could never take an interest in her....

Should I tell what I did with other guys when we were broken up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - My boy friend and I have been going out for over a year. About two months ago we broke up for over a month. Now that my boy friend and I are back together for a few weeks, my boy friend wants to know what I did, if anything, with other guys....

Is this a guy's way of ending a marriage?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5547 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - Sorry this is so long :) Four months ago I came home from work to discover that my husband of 3 years (together for 7) had taken the day off of work to move all his stuff out. He never mentioned anything about moving out prior to that. In fact I...

I'm really confused what to do, but I want to start over

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - I am in a state of confusion, the story is long and very complex but for this purpose I will try to keep it short. Last November my boyfriend and I had been together 5 years when I discovered he had had a one night stand, I was alerted to it and ...

Is there any medicineIcanget that will make my husband want to have sex with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - i am a marred person my husband not intrested to sex with me there is any medicne in market (in india ) that my husband is out of control and ready to sex with me please help me...

I thought I knew my husband..and then I found the receipt for a strip bar

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - Hello, I need some relationship advice. I just found out my husband has been frequenting strip bars and whore houses. I found out about one through a receipt he mistakingly left laying out and confronted him. He told me that he went there to ge...

His best mate hits on me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - Well.. my boyfriend has been best mates with this boy for about 2-3 months, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months. Just recently His best mate has been trying it on with me touching me in inappropriate places and keeps trying to kiss ...

Can I change from being overbearing and jealous?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - hi my boyfriend just told me i was overbearing sometimes. i try to not be, but apparently i still come off that way. i mean... i'm not a fan of weed. i'm not gonna be thrilled when he smokes (which is not that often) but if he wants to do it, he k...

Has he cheated on me? Opinions please

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - Hey there im guna apologise for this as its guna be a long one. This girl on facebook messaged me with a conversation her and my boyfriend were having, im guna post it here - could you please let me know what you think? Do you think he has che...

Girlfriend cheated but denies it..what to do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

5 January 2009 (M) - So here's the deal. Very long story. I'm almost 21 and she is 23 and I have been dating my girlfriend for the past year and three months and though we have had ups and downs we both can agree our relationship is very good (not perfect by any ...

Should I be grateful for what he offers? Just friendship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (?) - I am young looking widow 69 he is divorced 62 ,we meet on net. after a good start he wanted to be friends,did not love me.after 2 year now sleeps in spare room. I went along at first but we row about it .he is good to me looking after garden and ...

What's wrong? I miss our sex life so much!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - i have two kids,a four yr old and a 7 month old child. my boyfriend never wanted to have sex as soon as i got pregnant cause he said it isn't right for the baby and i agreed.Now (7 months after my baby is born) we still dont have sex as he says its ...

He keeps promising to change but then goes back to not trusting me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - I will try to keep this brief. I have been with this guy for almost 8 months. Things are either better than I ever imagined a relationship to be or I feel worse than I have ever felt in my Life. He went through a bout of depression a few...

Do I let the ex win?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - the problem i have is my boyfreinds ex!! he has a little girl with her and has her on a weekend but i am never allowed when he goes to pick her up or drop her off he says he doesnt want anything to kick off otherwise she will stop him seeing the ...

This guy told my bf that he could see our future--so my bf broke up with me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5587 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - This guy kept claiming for 6 yrs that he loved me and what not. And I never paid any attention to him. So last yr he gets in a relationship or almost did with a girl 4 yrs older than him. And then she moved on. [it was bound to happen -age-] ...

I can't tell my husband-to-be that I am not a virgin! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - actually im getting married next year so im not a virgin.....but i cant tell my husband that im a virgin..so what i can i do now....i cant tell him coz that will ruin my relationship......so is it possible that can i hide this reality from my ...

I don't want to get sucked back into this situation... but what do I do about this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

5 January 2009 (M) - Susan(32) is a woman that I dated for a while last summer. I tried to form a relationship with her but she was indecisive and ultimately, nothing happened (You can see my other questions for the situation). [moderator note: it would be helpful ...

I'm pregnant after a one-night stand and I don't know what to do!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - i am 29 and just found out i am pegnant after having a one night stand with a guy. We used protection but the condom broke. I dont know how to tell him or what to say as he wont take my calls. I already have a child aged 9 that i have raised on my ...

How can I get through a day without worrying about his cheating on me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (?) - how can i get through a day without imangining my partner cheating on me, why can i not get through a day without checking his phone. why do i assume that he will at some point cheat on me and why do i think that he will cheat ion me?...

I'm scared I'll do something stupid like make a pass at him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - Hello I am a married woman, I have a wonderful husband who loves me to bits. Unfortunately he has a low sexual libido ( he is 47) and the spark seems to have gone from our relationship. I have tried numerous ways to arouse his interest but very...

How do other people cope with the end of the honeymoon period, depression and/or erectile dysfunction?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5588 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - The honeymoon period is over. He used to buy flowers every week, that stopped about three months ago. Our sex life has gone down from being sizzling hot. He always had erectile dysfunction but it was helped by the newness of the relationship and ...

Separate households no quality time for sex!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

5 January 2009 (M) - If you start a relationship by spend lots time together everyday and then one of you move into their own place . And then you spend barely no time with that person you love can that have a negative effect on your relationship, due to lack of quality ...

He's having trouble keeping erections

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. We have a 7 month daughter and are living together, have been for a year. Everything is wonderful except for the sex. I consider myself an extremely sexual person, him not as m...

My guy is distant and I don't know why

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - I've been seeing a guy for 14 months who has started being more and more distant towards me over the past few months. He's 34 and I'm 38, so we're not kids. We started out so great. Until a few months ago, we chatted every single day, then he got...

Restless anxious about relationship and its bothering me wondering if he'll go bald?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - please help! I've been with my boyfriend now for over three years but I'm incredibly frustrated with our situation. He is the only person I have ever been with. Currently I am not working, after recently graduating from University. I'm trying to ...

Throwing in the towel

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - hello all! so ive decided to throw in the towel with this guy finally.I have had it with the mixed feelings thing.So my question is do you think it would be to stupid or childish if i wrote him a letter explaining why im doing what im doing ? when i ...

How do I earn trust back so we can get our relationship back to how it was?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5587 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - i recently cheated on my boyfriend of 3 months and he broke up with me 3 times in 1 day because he was so mad,but thats not my problem because we got back together.my problem happens to be that now that we are back together i still feel that he is ...

My girlfriend likes it rough, but I don't. How do I get her to tone it down?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

5 January 2009 (M) - I've been seeing my girlfriend for close to 3 months now. We enjoy being with each other and have now started to be intimate with each other. However, lately I feel she's being a little too sexually agressive for my taste. The kissing, hugging...

G/f pushing me away

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

5 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend is beginning to kind of push me away, it started out fine, I called her every day. Then she started answering lesser, and lesser. So now I cant even get her to even go out with me anywhere. Whats wrong here?...

My g/f worries about my ex so much!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

5 January 2009 (M) - Is my girlfriend being unfair? My ex-fiancee and my current girlfriend are friends, not very close but they talk occasionally (thats how we met), anyhow, i let my girlfriend (ashley) know that im totally over (steph) and that im so much happier ...

I can't see my boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - hey us ee im 13 my bf is 14 nd i love him alot... weve been together 4 a long time...nd well my mom dosnt aprove nd she found us just talking outside...bcuz i would see him witout my parents notice nd well i love him alot nd my mom dosnt let us b...

Why is my half sister so bitchy?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

5 January 2009 (F) - I was shunted all over the place as a child as my mother abandoned me and left me with my father. As a result I experienced abuse by my step-mother and others (physical and emotional). I am now 45 and all my life my half sisters on my dad's side...