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Archived questions from: 4 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My 15 y/o girlfriend is pregnant by someone else - what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (M) - Ok so here's my problem.... I recently started going out with this girl and we've only been out once but really like each other and have kissed etc. Shes 15 and I'm 16 (Same year at school though). Shes been away over Christmas without a ph...

Taking a break.... with other people?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (M) - me and my girlfriend of almost 3 years recently ran into a problem... she was getting slightly bored of our relationship (understandable considering we've been dating since just before she turned 15)... but what bothers me is the guy she is going to ...

What if I lose this chance at a relationship over making dancing something so important?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I am a single, 36 year old female, never married and I love to dance. Every opportunity I get I am out at the club. I'm not out there to pick up anybody, just to dance. I've met a guy who doesn't dance. According to him, the dancing is a small ...

Is friendship with this married guy going the wrong way?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I'm asking this question b/c although sometimes one might feel like is just about friendship, there are somethings that makes you wonder if it's just an innocent flirty kinda game or if it might lead to something else later. I become friend wi...

Should I forgive my boyfriend for watching porn?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 years. We do not live together and we are both virgins. He recently confessed that has watched porn at least once a week for the last 3 years. I was really hurt when he told me. He seemed to feel bad ...

My friend is having an affair... should I tell her husband???

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4924 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Yesterday I went to visit a good friend and she told me that she is cheating on her husband of 4 years also a friend of mine) with a guy she works with who is also married with kids. She asked me to go for a drive with her and told me in the car....

Trust...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I was going out with a guy for a few years but then I got really drunk and ended up cheating on him which was really stupid because I love him so much.... when he found out rumours about it I lied about it for ages then I just told him. We split up ...

Have I ruined things by not saying I love you too

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5582 days ago

4 January 2009 (M) - A few weeks ago my girlfriend that i've known for 6 months and been together for 2 told me she loved me. I didn't quite know how to respond, she was upset but said she understood that and it was probably too soon to say it and she wouldn't say it ...

I want more attention

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (M) - I am in a sort of long distance relationship. Not really, he lives an hour away, and i see him about once a week. So I can't just see him anytime but I see him semi-often. We are both guys. I'm gay. If that makes any difference. My problem is t...

Husband ignoring me masturbating to photos of Wes Scantlin

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I've found out that my husband has been looking at pornography online. However, it's not female porn, but pictures of Wes Scantlin (look him up on Google). I only knew about it having found a print-out with a picture of Wes and stained underpan...

I'm not sure when I'm going to be ready

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4 January 2009 (F) - This is quite long so i apolgise in advance. Im 18 years old and in love with a 30 year old man who is a teacher he lives a good 3 hours away from me. I do not live with my mum anymore due to my father dying and my mum not being able to cope. W...

Girlfriend can't orgasm and complains of having no labido. What to do next?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (M) - Girlfriend can't orgasm and complains of having no labido. What to do next? We've been dating for two years. We are very much in love and very close. To me she is the most beautiful and special person i've ever met. We are both attractive fit p...

It's as if he's bored and NOT happy!

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4 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for about 7 years on and off but 4 years solid, we have a child, she's 3 now and when she was one, he left for 6 months and we never saw him. We got back together and everything was fine but he lies all the time and ...

What is she doing? What does she want from me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - It started as a year affair. I sold my house and moved out on my own. The the other woman decided I was still too close to my ex (we have 2 small kids. The other woman (OW) decided she was not in love with me and I just wanted to be friends and ...

Why is he ignoring me like that?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I don't know what to do. I have fallen head over heals for my best friend. We go to movies together, and get food together, but I want more. Usually he will call me every night and we will talk till one of us falls asleep but lately he hasn't called ...

I seem to have much more sex drive than my boyfriend and wanting sex more than he does.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and ever since we've been together, I seem to have much more sex drive than him and wanting sex more than he does. We have been together on and off and when I've told him how I feel he says the fact that ...

How do I deal with his "hobby"?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Thank you to everyone who responded to my question here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-husband-is-storing-up-so-much-timber.html With regard to Gina's answer, I did try to get him to sit down and talk, but he just stomped off, and went ou...

Do I go back to my abusive ex bf or stay with my current guy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I have recently split up with my partner of 2 and a half years (billy). He has hit me several times and i had also stopped fancying him, i went off sex with him so i decided that it was time to end it. I have started seeing an ex boyfriend (Jason), ...

I'm sick to the back teeth of my family!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am 26 years old and the baby out of four children. I recently moved interstate with my family for work and a lifestyle change. However, my sister lives over here and is suffering from depression and is very sensitive. Her ...

My husband is storing up so much timber there's no where else for it to go! It's really worrying me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - For the past month and a half my husband has spent (I estimate) about $15,000 on wire and timber - and our garden looks like a building yard. Yet he doesn't work in the building industry, he works as a customer services manager and gets a high ...

He's not the one for me? What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I need help the man I love so much is not about shit, I bought his something real nice for x-mas and I didn't get any thing,two days after he gave me a card with money in it,but he ask me to pay a bill and he would give it back to me when he made ...

Is the single father of twins for me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I recently asked for advice in relation to a long term relation that was not going any where. Everyone suggested that I got out of it as I had been planning to. I need your advice. I attend a family run hairdressers. The son of the owner is a t...

Petrified of being cheated on

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Hey, I've just turned 18 and my new years resolution is to try to let go of the horrible things that happened to me last year that have been dragging me down (parents divorce, abortion, rocky relationship). I'm trying really hard to leave the past ...

She was raped & sometimes I'm not sure how to help her!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (M) - Here it is My girlfriend and I have been friends for 5 years.. we dated for a while and sometime in march of 2008 we parted ways due to the distance and some mistakes I made and are currently dating again soon to be engaged... thinking the sin...

Will sex ever happen?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating a man for 2 years. We recently moved in together. He treats me like a queen. He's been alone for many, many years and told me he needed his alone time. Which I do by going shopping or playing golf, The problem is we don't have ...

Worried about gaining her trust back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

4 January 2009 (M) - hi, i've asked three questions on here already about phone sex. i told my girlfriend and she is goin to stay with me. but i'm worried about gaining her trust back and her families trust too. but i saw on her profile on facebook one of her friends ...

I don't know what to do, shall I tell him? Does he like me? How could I put it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Theres this guy who I really like, and we act like we're a couple when we do see each other, but he lives 3 hours away. I recently stayed for a few days, and fell in love with him even more. He initiated everything, and why would he be the one ...

Her bad moods are bringing me down!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

4 January 2009 (M) - I've been dating my fiance for over a year. We're engaged to be married in 5 months. I love her so much and she's warm and afffectionate 95% of the time. The problems is that when she gets stressed for frustrated, she snaps at me and gets bitchy ...

Phone confusion with this guy..what was happening here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Hey Guys, I just signed up on this site...so here it goes -hopefully someone can give me some insight. about a year and a half a go i was working for a marketing company and managing reports from interstate via the state managers etc. Anyways i...

He's a married friend..so why does he go 'cool' when I mention other guys?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I have a friend with whom I keep in touch very often. They live far across the country and I'm friend of him not his wife. I only know him actually. But, he's happily married, he talks about family and all. The thing that bugs me is that since we...

Why did I stay? Help me understand....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I thought he roped the moon. I tell you what my ex made me if only for a moment believe that all of my dreams would come true; and then one day it changed and yet I still hurt. The first time he ever hit me was Christmas Eve, I remember it like it ...

How can I save my marriage and my reputation from this infidelity?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5595 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - I recently cheated on my husband. What is worse is that my brother-in-law saw me outside in a parked car with the other guy. How can I save my marriage and my reputation from this infidelity?...

I want to change the way I am in life... but how???

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5597 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Hiya me and my bf have been together now for 1 month and 4 days but when I get angry I get in weird moods, I want to stop these moods now but I don't know how. I love him and I don't want to lose him. I want to change my life as I actually don't ...

I think in order to help her get over this argument I need to gain her trust again.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have got on great until a few days ago, she hasn't long gone on holiday abroad to Madeira for new years with a friend and her friend's family. In the middle of the week we had a huge argument and she claimed I'd been off with ...

I TALK ABOUT HIM ALL THE TIME, AM I OBSESSED?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Everyone thinks im becoming obsessed with my new boyfriend because i talk about him so much, i have known him for over 2 years and were best friends, this wasnt enough and we felt a love for each other so decided to become a couple, i talk about him ...

DEPRESSED FORGOTTEN OR LOST

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I would like advice on how to help someone who thinks they have a depression. My ex told me suddenly that he was feeling depressed, lonely, felt like he had "forgotten" or "lost" himself, his friends tell me that he seems sad/depressed. I'm ...

BACK TOGETHER AND STILL HAVEN'T MOVED

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5597 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - Well i hope i can have some advice on this, i broke up from my B/F in october and have just recently got back with him, but i have said we need to solve some issues first.. i just want to tell u some things and then have some advice about what to ...

He still talks to his ex girlfriend and it bugs me like crazy!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

4 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now. I really love him and Trust him completely when it comes to him talking to other girls. The only thing is, he still talks to his ex girlfriend and it bugs me like crazy! He dated her about ...