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Archived questions from: 7 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Am I just insecure?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - Hi, this is a story with a question after. I've been in a relationship for 1 year for 4 months the relationship was going well, but we had an argument on 1 evening and although I tried talking to her she seemed to blank me, and I didn't know whether ...

My boyfriend is gay and will not admit it, how do I find balance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. He asked me to move in this last summer. One night I woke up and found him masturating to pictures of naked men. It turns out he has his own Webpage on this site called dudesnude.com. I have ...

He told me he had a girlfriend but he doesn't!?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - what is he thinking? I’ve posted a question like this before about the same guy but I didn’t know if he had a girlfriend for real. I’m going to try to make this long story short it might be long but I really need your help. So there’s this guy that...

We have our problems but his In-Laws compound it

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I am meeting with the in-laws tonight for a "nice dinner" and dread it. My husband and I have had problems, stemming from drinking too much. Last Saturday, it culminated in a huge fight after he and a friend snorted a bunch of coke and drank a ...

After 9 years, he still won't marry my friend - what should she do??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - i have a close friend that has been with her guy now for 9 years. and she uses every way in the book to explain why he wont marry her. I've been married for nearly 5yrs and i'm in the process of a divorce. so as you can see i don't try to enc...

Confusion as to continue the relationship or not??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I have a big doubt about what I am doing, is that right or wrong. I am a 20 years old and my BF is 26 years old and we are in love with each other but a future together like marriage is not sure. We are sexually committed to each other since the ...

Why did he come after me when he's married and now I'm upset!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Just what does a man want in a potential mate, be it his choice to get close to a girl at work when he is married, why does he overstep into the realm of saying "i love you more than that flirtation',rub and touch on her, seek her out, ask her ...

His behavior & irresponsibility just totally drains me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Ok here we go, I am 24, well I will be 25 in a month. I have been in a relationship for 5 years and here is my problem I am having. My boyfriend and I live together. He has been in a lot of trouble with the law ever since a teenager. He has 2 DUI, ...

How do talk to your partner about something you found out by snooping?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - question: how do you handle a situation in which you learn information about a partner that upsets you, but can't approach them about it because of the way in which you learned the info? for instance, reading a girlfriend's journal and find...

In love with her but she's tied to the ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - Okay I have been with but not with this amazing girl, for the past 6 months or so we have so much in common and just cant let go every time we hold each other its like one of those once in a lifetime feelings and its mutual. The sad part is this ...

My b/f can't say I love you

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Dear readers, I have a question but first let me clarify, I am happy and love my boyfriend. I have no intentions of leaving him. That said, here we go! My boyfriend and I have been dating for a bit over a year and the only problem (in my head...

At the back of my head I'm wondering if he's just manipulating me to get what he wants.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - During my relationship with Derek, he was the perfect boyfriend. But I had always had this suspicion that there was something going on between him and my best friend, Alice. Given, Alice is very 'friendly' with the boys, so I tried not to take ...

He showed me pictures of "his kid" but he can't have any kids!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - hey people I was actually involved with this guy who I really loved to death, I desperately wanted to have kids, but he had some health problems,(he couldn't produce any sperm, but he would have an erection). Sex was good, everything and I...

What can I say to make him go away for good, and not humiliate myself?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5522 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - The guy I broke up with this weekend called 3 times last night. When I called him back, I asked why he called and he said, "just to say hi" and then giggled. I told him, "don't call just to say hi. Don't call me at all." I know he likes to mess...

How can I get her to have more foreplay in bed?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to persuade my girlfriend to change our sex life to something a little more compromising between us. I generally enjoy doing most of the work during sex since I really enjoy pleasing her and the ...

How far can a stripper go during a lap dance?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3436 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Hello all! Something has been bothering me about my boyfriend's past that isn't really important in the big scheme of things, but despite knowing this it still bothers me. Here's the deal: My boyfriend went to a (fully nude) strip club right be...

I haven't told my boyfriend about the abortion I'm getting. Do I tell him, if so, how?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5567 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - If i get an abortion do I have to tell my boyfriend? I am just asking because I am having an abortion in two weeks and i havent told anyone yet other than a close female friend who had one before and is helping me through it. i am experien...

He's fallen in love with someone else but says he still wants to be with me! What gives???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I am 19 and my bf is 26. Me and my cousin are in a relationship over the last seven years, we were having a great time, suddenly he fell in love with some other girl, one of her best friends but she was already committed to someone ...

My boyfriend is not being understanding...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I am not sure what to do. I am someone who likes to get myself involved in a lot of activities and partially due to my university projects, I do have commitments and projects in the night time, resulting in the decrease in time I have to spend wi...

How do I deal with my insecurities about her past sex life?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5551 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - I've been in a relationship for almost a year now and I'm trying to get some help dealing with the only real thing that bothers me about her. At one point early on in our relationship we happened to be sitting around with a group of our friends and ...

Acne Medication Problem!!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5580 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I've recently been taking oral medication for acne, which my mum pays for. However, today my mum and I had an argument, and at the end of it she made it clear that she wouldn't be paying for my acne medication any more. She said that I had to pay f...

After 13 years with me, he married someone else within 4 months of meeting her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - I had been dating this man from 1995 until 2003 and we remained friends until 2008. We built a business together and have been through a lot together over the past 13 years. He said that I was his best friend and in May 2008 told me he loved me and ...

He never has time for me any more...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - Hi, I've been in so much pain from this relationship, from fighting and him not having enough time for me it's been rough. I talked to him about it, he said it's not his fault he's always busy and doesn't have time. I understand that but I told him ...

I was too honest with my wife, she got upset, will she get over it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5585 days ago

7 January 2009 (?) - So my wife (of 3 weeks) randomly just ask me what I thinking about. As a joke I said "you and several other women". I got her all upset after that (she made me sleep in couch that night) but in my defence she wanted more honesty in our marriage. She ...

I love my wife and my kids also need more affection, she is very distant, what can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5594 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - I have been married almost eleven years, my first (me-38) marriage and my wife's (her-36) third marriage; although her first two were very short(both less then two years). We have a 17 year old daughter from her first marriage and together we have ...

Feeling left out and miserable....what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5593 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - I am dating a guy since 3months.he is damn good and sweet but he is always outdoor with his friends and busy.If I ask him when we would meet again he pushes it to the next week.I am feeling left out and miserable.He's my first love and I found him ...

How can you jump in bed with someone else after a break up?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

7 January 2009 (F) - How can a guy , that is in a great relationship where both people absolutely love each other and have no big problems or fights and have plans for the future - just turn around in one week, break up the relationship after 2 years of dating and jump ...

I really don't understand her actions

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

7 January 2009 (M) - Does she really like me? it all started in september. i needed a ride home from school regularly because my brother had gone off to college and my mom was never home and i asked this girl who i work with to give me a ride home. The first time s...