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Archived questions from: 9 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My boyfriend is turned on by Trannies.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is turned on by Trannies. I have caught him by accidentally hearing him having phone sex with a male/shemale. This prompted me to check his profile in a website that I happen to know he's on. (similar to Myspace) Well, this confirmed ...

How do you get over a guy???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - Hey, I have one slight problem I have a bf and he's just gorgeous and I broke up with him because he was just a player and couldn't be with just one girl so I said that if he's gonna continue treating me like this we have to be over, well it happe...

I'm just tired of everything and don't want new boys I just wanna stick with what I had...

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9 January 2009 (F) - Please just give me advice about what I should do next.. Thank You in advance. I just moved to a new city same state. At my old school I was just getting involed with boys. I was in 7th grade then. And now I am in 8th and I moved here over the su...

How much can I get screwed over in court for a divorce after a 1 year marriage?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

9 January 2009 (M) - Seriously, how much can I get screwed over in court for a divorce after a 1 year marriage? The specifics are: I live in NJ, married in Louisiana. My wife (6 years older than me) was just obviously trying to get a free ride with the military. She ...

Why can't she be mature enough to realise that they are over now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - Hi I posted a question a while back about my boyfriend, I discovered he was going behind my back meeting with his ex of 5 years in a non sexual way apparently(dat was admitted by both of them) and believe me she wud hav told me if they did. Anyway...

Does my man have a crazy opinion or is it true?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - Hi all I have a question that I'm very Intrigued about. I've been dating my man for over a year now and recently we had a discussion about cheating. In his opinion most people will cheat in any relationship especially men. He accepted that no...

Why would he lie about her staying the night?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - okay, so I've never resulted to asking a website anything but I'm a little desperate. Me and this guy have been dating since January 17, 2007 and I broke up with him for about 3 weeks and he continuously called and drove by my house, he begged me to ...

Something is bothering my girlfriend and I don't know what...

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9 January 2009 (M) - So basically, we've been going out for 2 months, might as well be three but it wasn't official, we have a pad because she was my ex 3 years ago for a year we went out, in that time she went out with another guy for three years, but over the summer ...

I really fancy my boyfriend's younger brother...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - It all started off with a boy I really really fancied in the of year 7 and I really like him soo much, he is just a couple months younger than me but he is in my form but he said he has never been attracted to me. I tried to move on and pretend I ...

I've had enough of him in my face talking crap about me all the time. What can I do???

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9 January 2009 (F) - Hi guys, My friend and I became friendly with this guy way back in July, we would usually just talk to him and his cousin when we saw them around. Next thing, he is going around telling folk I'm his girlfriend, showing off in front of me all the ...

How far would a partner need to go for it to be considered as cheating???

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - hi What would your girlfriend/boyfriend have to do for you to consider they have cheated on you? Thanks I'm really confused right now :( x x x x...

Should I tell him I'm not helping any more, or I should just let him ruin my life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - It is about parenting... What is the best thing to do, if a grown son, over 20 years of age, does not want to take responsibility for his own life. He drinks, doing drugs and always ends up in some trouble. That means he gets sick, and broke from ...

Am I a bad person putting my friends before my BF?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

9 January 2009 (?) - Hi, I broke up with my bf and its been quite a while now. Im pretty most positive that hes NOT over me. I dont get over people amazingly either but still hes always hugging me and holding me. I love him Im just not IN love with him, hes great bu...

Troubles with my ex, his ex and my tongue piercing...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5590 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - Im sorry its long but please please read!After a year and a bit my exboyfriend has started getting alot closer to me, to the extent where he always wants to get my attention, talk to me, touch my hair, tickle me, be playful, cuddle me and expect to ...

My girlfriends mad that I didn't do anything for our "monthsary".

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (M) - My girlfriend was upset with me because I didn't do anything out of the ordinary for our monthsary (monthsary is a different month but same day we became official). She also doesn't do anything out of the ordinary for our monthsary, so I don't ...

Can I really be with someone that I can't rely on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I split up after a very happy 2 years together. We split up because I felt I couldn't rely on him and after 2 months of being apart he wants to get back together. Splitting up with him was a very hard thing to do but I felt I had ...

He won't initiate, and it's making me insecure!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - my BF doesnt intiate lovemaking, i have to always do so..... its making me feel insecure about my self....what so i do?...

Everything is great except for this one little detail....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - Hi! I need some help with my situation. I was sexually abused by a family member growing up and now am very distrustful of men in general and sensitive to their motives. This has caused me to wreck just about every relationship I've ever been in. I ...

My boyfriend's roommate proposed to me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - Hi. I have a guy (Mr. Lover) that I am seeing and he is a nice guy but i know that this thing we have between us wont go anywhere and he has asked me to marry his brother to help get status in this country so i believe that that is the reason he ...

Should I break up with her or should I forgive her again?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (M) - hallo, I'm kind of confused. I have a gal for four years now and it seems each year, she has an affair and call me lucky but I always find out about it. well, now it's a couple of weeks into the year and I happen to have the password to her email ...

Frustrated about where this is going...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - Hi all, My ex bf of 3 months said to me last nite about this guy I'm talking 2, he said that I am to take him down the pub that we go to and that, if he (my ex) doesn't like him I won't talk or see this any more, and that I should be careful,...

Shouldn't she be past all the romantic little things by now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (M) - quick question: I am with my partner for almost 3 years. I might not be the most romantic of men but I do try.. I will bring home flowers/gifts for her without a reason like a birthday or whatever. Spring a surprise trip on her when I can affor...

She just "accidentally" happens to be naked when he comes over

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - I feel uncomfortable with what goes on between my bf and a girl friend of his. On numerous occasions he has gone over her house and shes just 'accidently' been naked- even at times when she KNEW he was coming over- it was pre arranged a time and...

I troubled her and didn't realize it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (M) - my girlfriend is not talking to me for last 12 days...... she asks about my well being from our common friends...... she says she is fedup of living her life driven by me......... she has even stopped sending me messages ...total cutoff from me...

How can I become a great man?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (M) - Hello , Please read my whole story and then tell what to do? May it is annoying, but it will tell you whole about me? I got your email and it was really nice that your advice was able to help many people. I am little disturbed soul t...

My mum seems to hate me...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - My mom seems to hate me We are an asian family, and, well, to be honest, because we don't live in our homeland i've grown accustomed to fast food, aka food that's not 'home-food'. today, only half an hour ago, my mum called me into the kitchen...

I am frustrated and confused about where my relationship of just over a year is going...

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9 January 2009 (F) - Hi everyone! I am frustrated and confused about where my relationship of just over a year is going... The guy I am with is very sweet and good to me besides occasional moodiness which I think is normal for everyone, so generally we get along w...

Relationship confusion

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (?) - I have posted here before, but now I know that I have not gotten over it. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and only recently found out he watched porn. Prior to finding out and when questioned he would tell me that the last time he...

How do I date other people without losing him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5562 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - I have been dating this great guy for about a year. He treats me perfectly, is fully trusting and trustworthy, appreciates my honesty (I'm a bit too honest for most people, so this is a big deal), does nice things for me constantly and we never ...

Can anybody offer insight on how couples manage financial issues in their relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (M) - Couples fight about money. From what I understand this is one of the main strains in a marriage. Do any married or otherwise long term couples on here have any advice on how they feel they have best managed this issue to the point where it d...

I feel betrayed and cannot accept his so-called honest confession that he has thoughts of reconciling with his ex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5590 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - I am in a relationship with a divorced man with two kids. When we first got involved, we fell madly and deeply in love (or so I thought). Over time, the way the ex-wife manipulated my boyfriend (via the kids) became too much for me, and it always ...

My best friend just called me a dumbass....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - What am I doing wrong? My ex thinks im dumb, and my best friend just called me a dumbass.. I am hurt. I don't know what else to do, I don't have many friends and the ones I have got treat me like dirt. It is always like this. I was supposed...

I just don't feel right being in a relationship right now, how do I let him down?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5591 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - PLEASE HELP!! well i dated this guy in the 7th grade, we dated a little under a year.. we just started talking again, and he knows i have not been in a relationship in over a year, because my daughters dad left and i havent been ready.. well he ...

My g/f said "I don't want to hurt you I want you to hurt me"?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

9 January 2009 (M) - Alright, I have one that's been kind of in the back of my head for awhile. My girlfriend recently told me, "I don't want to hurt you, I want you to hurt me." Every once and awhile it has come back up in my head and I wonder what that means. It's ...

Every time I open my mouth I say the wrong thing

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - hello. i need help and advice. i am so sorry this is so long but i have recently split up from my boyfriend of 4.5 years on monday. he is my first love. it was a very very confusing and upsetting situation as to my knowledge everything was going ...

Should I worry about the passion in our relationship

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5592 days ago

9 January 2009 (M) - Ok, I recently found out something interesting about my girlfriend and her best friend (a guy who she dated until she met me). I heard that it was mentioned that she and some of her friends feel that she was more passionate about him than me... or...

He called me his "lover" not his "g/f"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5592 days ago

9 January 2009 (F) - I am in a relationship with a man who makes me very happy, who I love talking to, spending time with, and making love with. However, we have never spoken about the state of our relationship or defined it. So much time has passed that I feel the ...