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Archived questions from: 12 January, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

The girl I love is still in love with her ex, what can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5587 days ago

12 January 2009 (M) - The girl I love is still in love with her ex, what can I do? I know thers nothing basically i can do but i am now at the point where i am willing to be patient this girl wants to be with me, and truly does like me but right now she just doesnt f...

I told her, that It's 100% now, that I want to marry her. But now she is frustrated, that I didn't surprise her with an engagement.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (M) - Hi! I'm with my gf for 4 years. She knew from the beginning that I would be her Mr. Right, but I was not sure about her until 2 month ago. She told me to finally think about it half a year ago... I realize it was frustrating to her, because she want...

He finally asks me to marry him and I'm filled with dread...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I have been with my guy for 4 years and even though we have had loads of ups and downs, very little in common I have always been desperate to make the relationship work. Madly in love with him basically. Then recently he started talking-finally- ...

He's all I ever wished for in a guy... so why am I so discontent...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - Hi everyone - I hope you can help me! Basically, I've been with my boyfriend on and off now for around 4 years. When I met him, it wasn't instant attraction but that all devleloped and we had a very nice (not amazing!) but nice relationship until I ...

I have lost all respect for my husband over the 20 years we've been married and would love to leave...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I have been married for 20 years. I knew before we married I was doing the wrong thing but still went ahead as I hoped my feelings for him would grow. My husband had been married before and his ex wife was divorcing him when we met. He has a 22...

Living with an alcoholoc...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - hey, I am wondering if anyone can help me? I have been with my partner for over 10 years and we have 3 beautiful daughters but for the past few years he has been drinking heavily. I had finally had enough in the middle of 2008 when I was pregnant ...

Boyfriend not off well financially but its draining me both financially & mentally--I'm tired of it!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I have spent 5 years without a proper job since I graduated from university. Those have been the toughest times of my life. I was trying very hard to get a job but it was getting more difficult. I did part time jobs and went as far as writing for ...

My wife is gorgeous & I hate men looking at her!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5587 days ago

12 January 2009 (M) - Ive been married to my gorgeous wife for 7 years. Im very insecure about other men eyeing her up in public. When we go out she looks amazing, the trouble is this makes me feel very uncomfortable as im constantly being hyper-vigilent to see if any ...

Newly married husband looking at porn, I'm disgusted

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - My new husband has been looking at naked women on Craigslist and now I feel disgusted with him. It makes me feel like we are not special. It makes me feel like he thinks of other women when having sex with him and now I don't really want to have ...

My b/f does things and doesn't think how it will make me feel

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of about 2 months is starting to irk my soul and I suppose I really don't know how to deal with it. Last Thursday evening we were going to hang out after he got cleaned up, that didn't happen though. I got one txt from him that sa...

I can't trust him because he keeps pictures of womens' parts on his phone. Any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5586 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of 4 years has been texting and talking to other girls on the phone. He has pictures of girls on his phone, he says they are just random texts that his friends send him but they are close up pics of girls and their body parts. I know...

Betrayal... my boyfriend was hurt that I discussed our problems with other people.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I had a fight over the fone while I was sitting with a friend (who happens to be his friend's wife). After the converstaion, I commented to the lady that it hurts to see us fight the way we do. The next morning my boyfriend was hurt ...

I found out he lives with someone and confronted him...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I found out he lives with someone and confronted him when I did he said let's be friends what does this mean?...

I honestly can't work out where my head or my heart is at?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I am so confused! I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly five years and things aren't going too well, in fact the last six months have been really difficult and we have discussed that we may have to call it a day... unfortun...

He says we're not together because we don't make love, so he is free to meet anyone else!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - Couldn't sleep last night- snowy, wide-awake anxiety. Now am half-dead at work. Dismal thoughts. I can't bear it. My boyfriend of many years of togetherness now will not call himself my boyfriend, he says he loves me, and even outside observers have ...

If she had a problem with my possesiveness she should have told me face to face,

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (M) - I have been having a relationship with my girlfriend for the last four years. I never knew (neither she told me) that indirectly I told her to do stuff she doesn't want to do (like going out with guy friends, talking to unknown guys on phone, t...

How can I forgive myself? I cannot believe it was me who lied and cheated...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship with a guy only for a month. I really liked him. He was only looking for a relationship to get married. He was the only guy I respected and wanted to get married too though I have only known him for a very short period ...

Is it over?

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12 January 2009 (F) - he people, just giving you an update on my last question. My Bf thinks I'm cheating, with my COUSIN but he doesn't know he's my cousin. Ok yesterday I went with my guy cousin to the atm, he's never met the cousin coz he's just visiting, well a...

He blows hot and cold. What does he want from me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5587 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I am in love with this guy, he has been through a lot in life, he had a girlfriend who was with him for 10 years she destroyed him and also his marriage. He is emotionally scarred, he visited a psychiatrist and with medication is fine now. He keeps ...

Should I stay with him or let him go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - i`m 24 years old and i`ve seeing somoeone for almost 8 yrs now and we`ve got a 2 year old daudgther. the thing is i don`t think my bf still loves me anymore cause we always fighting and this has been going on for months now, to tell you the truth i ...

I'm confused - shoulkd I keep the baby?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - hi! im 23 years of age and have been dating a guy for 1 year and a month now...ever since we went out 3 times and yet he says he loves me. he calls me everyday and texts me with sweet msg's. at first i had to cope up with his father who didnt ...

Since getting engaged my fiance has changed

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5589 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I met a guy early last year in May and we have been happily in love ever since... He engaged me last year October and i agreed...I love my Fiance and trust him, i have never had any problem with him...but lately things are turning out very bad... ...

Who do you think is in the wrong... Shelby or Nick?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5577 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - sorry this is going to be so long. these 2 people "shelby" and "nick" a while back hooked up, while "nick" had a girlfriend. Now this is there Msn, conversation, who is in the wrong, Shelby or Nick? (these are my friends by the way.) Nic say...

My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating with my cousin!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - My Bf thinks I'm cheating, with my COUSIN but he doesn't know he's my cousin. Ok yesterday I went with my guy cousin to the atm, he's never met the cousin coz he's just visiting, well as we leave the atm we see him coming in a car, but my cousin ...

His mom is sooooo controlling!!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend are 20 years old and we live with our moms! His mom is controlling and it seems like we can't enjoy our own relationship without her telling us what we can and can't do. I feel like we are in middle school or something... she ...

How do I tell my mom I'm dating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

12 January 2009 (M) - This is really embarrassing and I really don't know who else to ask. I am a 26 year old man, who because I lost my job had to move back in with my mother. The problem is that mom, now wants to know everything I do, who I hang out with, which is ...

Boyfriend has erection troubles and viagara doesn't work..how can I help him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is 57 yrs old and has trouble keeping an erection so penetration is impossible. He becomes so frustrated and upset and feels sorry for me. He satisfies me in so many other ways. I love him so very much and tell him that we can use a ...

Baffled as he says he loves me...but he abuses me! I need help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5528 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - i have been with my bf for 6 years now... i never belived in love at first sight till i met my bf now. i love him with all my heart we have 2 kds one is 3 and the other is 2. my bf says he loves me but he has anger issues he said its because his dad ...

My current relationship suffers sexually because of my past

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I am a young mother I've been in a relationship now for 4 years before this started I was in a different relationship which I was made to do things I didn't want to as in sexually now in this relationship I can't enjoy sex which it upsets my ...

Does it give you strength if you make the first move in a divorce?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - Hello there, My husband never want to touch me , look at me etc. I tried marriage counseling,but he never did anything to make things better. Can I keep trying to fix this marriage alone,without his contribution? My question is... When do you say ...

Forget it never happened?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend right now. we just recently called it official, but before that, about four months ago, we both liked each other, but i was scared i was going to get my heart broken, so i started pushing him away purposely and not talking to him. ...

I love someone but he isn't in love with me...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5589 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - I love someone but he isn't in love with me, he just wants to have sex with me although he loves a girl and does have sex with her. Am I just a best friend to him? What can I do!!... ...

I really don't know what to do with myself, I'm confused and depressed.

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12 January 2009 (F) - Hi I've been separated for about 10 years now and have a 12-year-old son. I've been through to a lot of relationship after my separation and my husband was remarried too and had a daughter already to his 2nd wife but was separated again 2 years ago. ...

Married young, no kids, divorce dilemma!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

12 January 2009 (F) - Hi I'm in a love triangle and I need your help and advice.... I'm 19 years old and I'm married so I guess that would make this not just cheating but have an affair... I've been married a little over a year now and we dated 2 years before we got ...