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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay, so here it is...I went onto this site (games) and got chatting to this guy, who I found out is twice my age and married...and doesn't even live in the same country. It was just innocent chat so I added him on msn and the more we talked the more I got to know him. After some time I realised I was falling for him (this was quite some months ago) but was ashamed of this. When he told me he had feelings for me i confessed i had too. We swapped numbers and speak on the phone and IM whenever we can. We both said that nothing would happen, but I can't help thinking 'what if' and I think this is stopping me from having a real relationship. We tell one another that we love each other and this is driving me crazy. I don't want to be in love with him, because I know its unhealthy. I don't want to stop talking to him completely but I feel like it's the only way for me to stop loving him. What should I do? (sorry it's long, but i felt like i had to explain the full story)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): He doesn't know that he's keepig me from going out with someone. I know that if I stopped talking to him he would understand, because I came close to doing so before. Thanks for the advice, it's helped.
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reader, keepitreal03  +, writes (11 April 2009):
Yeah u should stop talking to him 100 percent.think about it what doea he want from you? What can he get from u that his wife doesn't. She can offer more he's playing games and your young he shouldn't be doing this to your heart!!! He has a family and he's telling u he loves u?? He's wrong for that!!! Leave it alone
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reader, nanogrl75  +, writes (11 April 2009):
You have to set boundaries when communicating with people online. And you crossed that boundary, by letting yourself fall for someone who is married. You need to get him out of your head and stop communicating with him. It's not like you have an actual physical relationship so it should be easy to get over with a little bit of time. Go out and meet someone you can have a physical relationship with without the parameters you have found yourself in currently. You will be much happier once you move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Okay he is twice your age and married and doesnt live in the same country.. HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU!! you are very young and he is taking advantage. You might not want to hear this but you must cut all contact with this person. It sounds like it will go no place but trouble! Men in their 30s only want one thing from girls your age.. and in my opinion its a bit wrong! Sorry but it is.
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