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I have been with this guy four years and he lies about talking to his ex! What should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - please help. I have been with my guy for about 4 years now. the problem is he is still very much in contact with his ex who he was only with for a year! he has met up with her behind my back and they are always txting and calling eachother.. he l...

She sees me as a lover and has developed feelings for her friend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Ok here is the situation i have been dating my girlfriend for 9 months now and ever since we met i has been a quickly advancing relationship now i live 60 miles away and am still going to high school. we have always had problems not huge ones mid ...

What happened and why is it so hard to move on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years . I have had a lot of loss over the last 4 years which caused me not to be in a relationship for a longtime . I felt all these years of being alone and I mean alone I didnt go out at all or date ...

I am not sure if I really screwed it up this time or what! What should I do

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5304 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I met this guy in May, we went on a couple of dates and made out, and had some good chats on msn, and emailed me when i left the country to study. he said he wasn't ready for a GF, and btw he was the one who suggested the girlfriend thing. But we ...

Does my ex still really love me or does he just "want some"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - So me and my ex have been broken up for about two months. Ever since the break up I've regretted it and i have tried to do ANYTHING that I can to get him back. He has only told me that he doesnt feel the same way about me anymore and has pushed me ...

I just lost my virginity with my unreal aunt!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Hi...frnds i'm 18 years old boy.well i lost my virginity just a day before with my unreal Aunt.Actually i wasn't interested in any kind of sex with her but she asked me and i couldn't stop myself.I wanna know is it good to have sex with a 33 year ...

I lied to her and she knows it! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Okay well i thought id post my problem, Start of summer this year i went to a party with my friend, i didnt know many people there and through the night had a bit to drink and got talking to the girls,(Baring in mind i go to a girls school so there ...

I can't finD omeone my age to marry me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - hello,can any one help me because i can't stand this situation any more.i am a young and very beautiful and successful girl. i look like 20 yr while i am 33 and this is causing a great difficulties to me because till now i can't find some one of my ...

My ex is confusing me! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - me and my ex broke up a couple months ago after she cheated on me with the same guy she left to be with me. Over time I forgave her and tried to be friends. We would text each other every now and then. A few weeks ago she texts me and says she made ...

She won't acknowledge our past and wants me to be friends with her new guy!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Who is being selfish here? "Jane" and I have been friends for about 5 years now, but for the first 15 months or so it was something more than that. Now, going forward, she wants to disacknowledge there being any history between us to any new people ...

I am cheating and want to be with my lover but it seems like he is backing off!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (?) - I am a 38 yr old women. I have been married for 18 yrs now, I have been seeing someone that is 9 yrs younger than me. I am so in love with this guy. He has shown me how I should really be loved. Just recently he told me that he loves me but he can't ...

My husband had an emotional affair and I can't get past it! Please help!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5296 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Please help. My husband had a non sexual (I think I believe this} 'affair' with a work colleague during which time they got very emotionally close (I was being very unloving to him at the time although he never stopped showing he loved and fancied ...

I'll always be thinking that it could have been me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I've just found out that the love of my life will be moving back to my hometown in a few months.... with his fiancée! I'll have to tell you guys a little bit of our history so you'll understand the situation I'm in - right now I'm terrible unhappy...

I feel really alone now that I've finished school.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I feel really alone now that i,ve finished school. I,m 17 years old , I didn't get into any of the collages i applied to and I can't get a Job , I dont really talk to my friends , I can't drive , I hate asking my parents for a loan of money so i ...

Is he flirting with me or is it something more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Okay so I been working at my job for about 3 two months and its been great so far. I get along really well with all my co-workers, however, I been noticing that one of my coworkers likes to tease me, we bicker for any little thing…is all in good ...

Shattered and Lost!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5306 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I'm about to graduate high school and, unlike my classmates, I am dreading it! When I was 13 I was kidnapped and abused, I also suffered from amnesia for 5 years. I didn't remember anything about my family or even my last name. I end...

I love her and shes told me she loves me, but because shes not out of the closet, she is reluctant to try anything.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Im a gay girl and out, and 16 and so's my best friend (though shes not out). I love her and shes told me she loves me, but because shes not out, she is reluctant to try anything. I'm dying to kiss her and would love for us to be together , but i ...

What do you think is going on in her mind?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - I had been seeing my girlfriend for 2 years - we broke up in April of this year - I suspected that she had been meeting with someone else for a while - as things hadnt been good for a while - she seemed to be trying to cause an argument all the time ...

Break through bleeding on the pill!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I started taking the pill several months ago and never had a break through bleed until about 5 months after taking it. I went off it for a while when I was single again (having no sexual contact during that time) and have started taking it again now ...

I'm 14, have had one abortion with complications, and I think I may be preganant again!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Well im 14 yrs old and will be 15 February 3rd. I am in a relationship going on a year january 3rd and had an abortion september 1st. For my follow up ii was told that there was a blood clot left in my stomach ! ii believe they got it out but the ...

Could I not be a virgin any more because of getting fingered too hard?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Hey guys, well I have quite a straight forward question, well a while ago a got fingered by a guy, and well afterwards I was really sore and my vagina felt like it was burning, and so I had a look and it looked like it was bleeding but the blood ...

Do I love him for the sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - This guy that Im talking to, isnt my bf, but i call him my boo. we have been talking for over a yr now, and my feelings for him are really strong. i more then just like him, in fact im in love with him. well i think i am. i think of him all the time ...

I met my son's coach and I knew instantly there was somthing between us! Please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I really dont know what to do. My son went to a camp and i met his coach and i know instantley there was somthing.....really wierd feeling. I added him on a website and after a few months he actually began a cunversation with me....to my surprise we ...

I love her, and don't want to think about her past. Will these thoughts go away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5305 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year now. We are very serious and talk about marriage. She told me that she was pretty promiscuous during the two to three years before we started dating when she was in the military. She even used the word ...

My mum broke me and my boyfriend up because she thinks he is weird, She wont let me be upset, Help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5310 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Well i was with my bf for a whole year. he two years older than me but we have known each other for years. I knew him from when i was in year 7 (grade 7) and he was year 9, now im in year 11 and have been with him since the begining of year 10. He ...

Is he pushing me into sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - i have only been with my boyf. for a day and he already is saying that he wants to have sex And im not ready at all but if i dont i will get called fridged and i dont want that to happen so am i just going to have to have sex with him or is ...

Older man, is he worried about the age gap?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - OK so there is this chap I like he is around 20 years older than me. I have always liked older men and my ex was 21 years older than me except it faded and we both went our seperate ways. It was someone else that first said that this man mi...

Is my teacher flirting with me or am I overreacting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Sorry it's so long but it's been bugging me for a while... She teaches my favorite subject, drama. Last year we got on pretty well and on drama trips she'd always sit near me, like in front of me or something. and i could tell she was listenin...

How do I move forward in a positive way after divorcing a sex addict?.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I want to know how to move forward without guilt after divorcing my husband of 20 years because of a sex addiction he had. I want to feel less guilt that I ended the relationship even though he wanted to work on it and try. He is still in ...

I am 21 yrs old, living with my parents, and I just hate my life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I am 21 yrs old, livin with my parents. i just hate my life, i can't go out with my friends everyday, when i am with my friends, so my parents would call me 100 times and send sms 50 times..when i come home late, they will yell at me, my father's ...

He said "not now" when I asked him if he would get with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Okay.. there is a guy I really really like and he sort of likes me back. He said "not now" when i asked him if he would get with me. Then he said to my friend that he doesn't "fancy" me now but he thinks he will "fancy" me in the future which is why ...

I'm only 13, but I am pretty sure I am ready for sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5308 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - im only 13 and been with my boyf. for two years he wants to have sex and im pretty sure im ready (even though im still a virgin ) he is one year younger than me but im worrying about bleeding or what to do. im really excited about doing it and im ...

Is my first love just a long distance booty call?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - long story put very short.. he went to college 7 hours away. I stayed back in another college . now everytime he comes he always wants to hangout with me and we end up saying some stuff like we miss eachother we love eachother etc. but I can't help ...

I don't know what to do, should I speak to him to try and stop him feeling bad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Hiya. I recently came out as gay after a long period of not really knowing and I have felt alot happier now I've come out. One of my friends intoduced me to a gay friend of hers and at first we just spoke online and had a great day together as ...

Why am I angry at my friend's passing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - this will be my last time. i need couple more questions answered. my best friend, no my brother, who i grew up with. who was with me since i was 6, died yesterday. he wasnt a blood relative or related to my family in any way but he was my brother, ...

Should I take A break from my long term Relationship to explore options or not??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5310 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Please help! I been with my mate for goin on 6 years and everything has always been ok. to my knowledge he had never cheated on thats what i believe. and we have had some rocky times in our relationship where he may have slipped up and or I slipped ...

I broke up with him because he is a mama's boy, but now I want him back!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - please help! I am so confuse now. I been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we love each other so much.(I mean I do love him so much). But I broke up with him yesterday.We live in Puerto Rico and yesterday I move back in Arizona with my parents.But I ...

My husband's friend said that he really likes me! What should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5302 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Husband's friend says my husband should b nicer to me. He said that he really likes me. He doesn't want to break us up, he says. But should I be wary anyway? He's always nice to me, teasing,ect.Hopefully he will b moving to Houston in 2 months 4 ...

Am I being abused?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I recently broke up with my boyfriend. Things in the relationship were fine at first but then he started acting very strange. He started getting very jealous whenever I would hang out with male friends but said that it was because he was afraid of ...

Please please help!!!!! Me and my close cousin are in love!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5297 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Ok so I am a teenager... Just a teen, my cousin, who I've always had a huge crush on lives in ca and I live in florida... He and my uncle recently stayed at my grandmas house this summer for twomonths... I stayed with them... The whole time my uncle ...

She tells me she loves me and I love her too, but lack of affection and sex is really getting to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5301 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - So I have been going out with my girlfriend for a year and 9 months. We are both 20 and are in college. The relationship started great, we used to spend alot of time together, sex was offered/given/recieved a hefty amount, and we both lost our ...

How can she be so loving and say she wants me, for certain, in her life, then put up a wall?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I are trying to get back together after having a serious fight. On Monday, she came out to visit me. We haven't made love in almost two months, but we have been communicating beautifully, were affectionate, told each other how much ...

I was too scared to talk to her and now she is mad! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - i really liked this girl for a long time and now she hates me. Ok i was at our breakfast table with the football players( which im not) and i got the crazy idea to ask her to the dance. Of course i had to tell my best friend before i did it and when ...

I really want to be with him forever so how do I make sure this happens?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5320 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Ok so I just recently got back with my ex boyfriend of 1 1/2 months. He races motocross and is in the pro class. He was always gone every weekend to other states so we never got to see one another. [We broke up partly because of this]. Motocross ...

He said I remind him of his ex-gf!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Okay, so there is this guy that I like but we're not dating. And one day, we were chatting on MSN and he suddenly said that I'm so much like his ex-girlfriend... =.=''' He's really nice and he doesn't talk bad about his ex, but I somewhat hav...

We are talking about marriage, but he can't tell me he loves me more than his best friend!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - So I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. His best friend is a girl. They have been friends since they were 13 and now are 27. They have hooked up a few times during their friendship, even cheating on one of his girlfriends which he ...

What can I do to feel a spark and passion again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I'm in a 6year lesbian relationship and I have an 8yr old from a previous relationship... we also have a 7month which we conceived with infertiltiy treatment... I love being a family but I'm bored and my feeling are not as strong as before.. what ...

Can I learn to accept being alone?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I am so tired of being alone. i am 20 years old and i have never had a boyfriend or done anything with one. i am not an emotional person but lately when i watch chick flicks or see a couple walking by holding hands, i tear up and feel this deep hole ...

I kissed another girl after my girlfriend left the party.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - Hi i ran into some problems at a party tonight. it was my girlfriends best friends birthday and they were pressuring me to kiss her so i did and then after she left another girl came up and kissed me on the lips. I feel really bad and i dont know ...

Does the bible speak against having sexual relations with your first cousin's widow ?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - My first cousin past away. His father and my father are brothers. Does the bible speak against having sexual relations with your first cousin's widow ?...

Why would he lie about being single when I'm married?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5318 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I am a married women and have been cheating. The man I am cheating with has two children and is seperated from the mother. However, I have reason to believe that he is married to her. He claims they dont have any contact with each other unless it ...

I'm not in love with him, but I feel a chemistry and would like to try things out.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - My good friend and I met around 7 years ago in college. He's liked me since day one and we dated briefly about 4 years ago and again 2 years ago, but things never worked out between us because of our vastly different personalities and values, and I ...

I don't know if I should let this go on because I am going into the National Guard.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Two weeks ago, my friend introduced me to this guy. He liked me since that day, I didnt really even think of him since I just broke up with my BF a month ago so. Even if i didnt seem interested in him, he took my friend and me out and we had s...

How do I dump him?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4660 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - I've been with this guy since October 28th, 2007. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up here shortly, but I find myself not being in love with him anymore. I'll try to make this as short as I can. He was in the Army when I met him, but he hadn...

He broke it off with me and went back to his wife. Now he is trying to get back with me again!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5318 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - My fellow left his wife x 2 months, then he went back to her didn't call me for 9 days then started calling with the excuse he wanted to check on me see if I was all right - when he left it was clear he was letting me go sat at my table and said so ...

Could there be legal consenquences for kids watching horror and inappropriate comedy movies?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - here is a weird question for the canadian agony uncles and aunts. my buddy shes got a 3 and half yr old son. she also has a 5 yr old daughter. they all love to sit down and watch, i know, this is a shocker! -house of 1000 corpses. amongst other ...

Is it bad that I'm still thinking about her or should I be over her by now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5320 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - my ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 5months ago and i find that i think about her almost everyday STILL. I occasionally have a dream or two with her in it and my mind often wanders and thinks about her, like what shes doing and if she thinks ...

I would really like to talk to her and get to know her, but I don't know how.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5295 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - I live in an apartment complex and these past few months I have noticed a girl about my age around. Sometimes when I walk my dog I saw her go to her car. I would really like to talk to her and get to know her, but I dont know how. With winter ...

Why do I find it so hard to sustain relationships?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5319 days ago

11 October 2009 (F) - Why do I find it so hard to sustain relationships? I have been with a man I have known for over 20 years but relationship for 9 and we can not move the relationship on. I want to get married. I have three children. One of his. But we do not ...

Shattered...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

11 October 2009 (M) - I am so lonely I cry myself to sleep sometimes... I walk around looking like a tough guy with no problems/fears in the world but deep inside I am dying for love and I'm afraid I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life... Will it always b...